conzboneeus Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 (edited) I'm a 57 year old man who has been divorced 7 years. Since have had one long term relationship (+2 years) which ended 3 years ago. Before that wasn't ready to date, since then a couple of 3-4 month things (one I fell in love with my bad) and some shorter trysts. I am looking for a long term single person relationship now. One person. No more sleeping with someone if I am not sure or really not into them. So does it make sense for me to date women who are just on the market, newly divorced just started dating again? Especially OLD and that kid in a candy store thing that happens when people first get on there. My gut says no and my gut is usually (always?) right. So....is this really a question or am I on here looking for someone to tell me a rational reason for dating a woman who has just started dating again and is playing the field (met one I really like). Stop me before I hurt myself, please!!!!! ;>) Okay time for a run to clear the head. Thanks all! Edited December 7, 2014 by conzboneeus
JCG Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Hey there. I guess, if you are at the point that you are ready to find a permanent partner, I suppose the question is, do you want to get involved with someone who is looking to "play the field"? You may fall for this woman, when she is actually dating more men than just you. It's a tricky situation. I also, have been OLD a few times. I know how tough it is, to weed out the ones who aren't in it for the same reasons that you might be. I took myself off of the online site, for quite a while now, but will try my hand again in the new year. A fresh start! You will just have to trust your gut! You need to let her know what your intentions are, and if she's wanting to date several men, then she should be honest about that, if she is a good woman. I'm not sure if this helps, but....i wish you luck! 1
Author conzboneeus Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 Thank you Cali Gypsy. We really do hit it off. 4 hour first date Friday and then on the phone tonight for 2 hours and we are going out again Friday. I'm not so sure she hasn't dated in the 2 years she was separated. Just some things she said. She is acting like she is looking for someone to share with not like someone who is aloof and playing the field. People say things to not look desperate and to sound cool,but inside they are lonely and want to meet someone to share their life with. Lol! I'm 57 and analyzing this like Jon Faverau's character in "Swingers"! We'll see where it goes. If we want love we have to risk the heartbreak that's just the way it is and there is no way around it. But when you do hit paydirt then all the pain we've experienced is worth it. Cheers! 1
Fitguyinfl Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Be very careful. Newly divorced women usually use their first relationship as a rebound. As soon as you fall for them, they're gone so fast your head will be spinning.
Brooke02 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 If she was separated for 2 years & now is officially divorced (divorce is final) I dont see anything wrong with that. Just stay away from the ones that are not officially divorced yet. It's common on OLD for people to say they are divorced when they are only separated.
Author conzboneeus Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 Thanks both for the advice. Yes I am aware of the rebound thing is why I am wary but she has been living apart from her ex for at least two years. I NEVER do the separated thing that is a recipe for disaster in so many ways its not funny! Nice Tabby..I have one also he is my most affectionate cat! Tabby's always seem to be very affectionate, at least to me they are.
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