disneygirl Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 A couple of weeks ago I started talking to a guy on a dating site. He seemed nice, friendly and fun. He seems respectful of women and he has a good job. We chatted on the site for a few days, then he sent his number and suggested we text. It seemed like everything was going well. He mentioned wanting to meet up, asked about what area of town I live in..etc. Particularly Monday night we chatted until very late at night. I texted him tuesday evening to ask how he was doing and we sent a few messages, but then nothing. I know he’s been busy at work. I waited the rest of the week to hear from him and finally texted him today. He responded right away and we had a good convo. I’m a little frustrated because he seems to be into me, but doesn’t usually text first. I mean there was a couple of days where he seemed to fall asleep and would start the convo the next morning right where we left off.I like this guy and would like to meet him, but not sure what to do. Should I just see if he texts me next? Like I said, it seems to be a good flow of convo…flirting is there too. I just don’t know why he seems to disappear for a few days or doesn’t text first. What would your advice be?
angel.eyes Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 (edited) He said he wanted to meet and asked about your neighborhood. You want to meet. Why hasn't a date been arranged yet? Can you share some details about the hold up in setting a date? That might provide some insight into his recent disinterest in texting. The point of OLD is dating...meeting in person to see if there might be a romantic connection. When I did OLD, if that didn't happen fairly quickly, I moved on to others who shared my priorities. Also, you're interacting with numerous people on a dating site. As things progress with one person, at some point, you'll stop communicating with everyone else to focus on that person and see where things might go. Possibly things progressed faster with someone else and/or he met someone who he thought might be a better match with what he wants in a partner. There are myriad reasons why texting would drop off two weeks after initial interest. Edited December 7, 2014 by angel.eyes
Author disneygirl Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 That's exactly what I don't understand. He brought up where I lived on Monday which was the day/night we started texting. We were flirting and kidding around about him stalking me. It seemed to be going well. I didn't hear from Tuesday sent him a casual text tues night, after a few exchanged texts, didn't hear anything. Then wed, thurs, fri rolled around and I didn't hear from him. I texted him last night and he replied right away. He said he was with some friends celebrating Christmas early since a buddy was going to be out of town for the holidays..that they were watching movies, putting up decorations etc. he texted me throughout the evening, replied to texts that didn't seem to need a reply etc. It kind of confuses me because in that way it seemed like he wasn't really set on someone else. It just seems like he initiated convo more when we were on the site. I don't know why he'd keep talking to me and keep convo up if there was no interest. He does know I'm going to be out of state during Christmas but I'd just think that would forward a meeting time not delay it. What are your thoughts?
Author disneygirl Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 He had mentioned being busy at work, but everyone can make time to meet someone for coffee I feel like. I don't know if I should just wait and see if he pursues it or what?
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