GTO06 Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 (edited) Hey folks, As some of you know, I'm a 30yo virgin that has just started dating for the first time ever this year and I have received some great advice on here several times, so some of you may appreciate this little story. I've been on around 30 dates or so since the beginning of summer and they have all been pretty fun, but none of them progressed into any kind of relationship unfortunately. However, I just have to tell you guys about the best date of my life that happened last night! I met up with a gorgeous girl at a brewery from an OLD site and we hit it off immediately. We drank, chatted, and cuddled for hours right up until they closed the place at midnight. She invited me to her place to hang out, but made me promise not to have sex with her first, she actually thought I was a player from my "smooth talk", lol. I agreed and followed her back to her place. We cuddled up to watch some TV for a bit, even made out a little , then she asked me to stay the night and we went to bed. We held each other all night long and it was the best feeling I've ever had. We had a hard time getting up in the morning because neither of us wanted it to end. Eventually she had to go to work so we got up around 11, shared another hug and kiss, then I drove home. This date had a lot of firsts for me. It was the first time I ever kissed a girl, slept with a girl, and danced with a girl (well, tried to dance anyways, lol). Even though we didn't actually have sex, it was the best and most fulfilling experience of my life. I sure hope this relationship progresses, but even if it doesn't, this date made all of my spent time and money on dating this year finally worth it! I got a feeling my goal of having my first sexual experience isn't far off, but it somehow feels less important now after knowing how great it feels to just be with an affectionate woman I hope you guys enjoyed my story. Wish me luck! Edited December 7, 2014 by GTO06 6
Eighty_nine Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Aww, happy for you! Sounds like a great night.
Author GTO06 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 Indeed it was Thanks for reading.
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 I'm curious as to how you are able to get dates with 30 women in half a year and still be a virgin at age 30. Unless you are just holding out for Sofia Vergara. Congrats though man. 1
TheyCallMeOx Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Cold showers are good for blue balls; of course you already knew that, though.
Rydo Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Cold showers are good for blue balls; of course you already knew that, though. There is another faster cure for that haha. 2
TheyCallMeOx Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 There is another faster cure for that haha. Well, that is also true. I haven't done that thing in a while; forgot it was even an option. Hah.
smackie9 Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Hey folks, As some of you know, I'm a 30yo virgin that has just started dating for the first time ever this year and I have received some great advice on here several times, so some of you may appreciate this little story. I've been on around 30 dates or so since the beginning of summer and they have all been pretty fun, but none of them progressed into any kind of relationship unfortunately. However, I just have to tell you guys about the best date of my life that happened last night! I met up with a gorgeous girl at a brewery from an OLD site and we hit it off immediately. We drank, chatted, and cuddled for hours right up until they closed the place at midnight. She invited me to her place to hang out, but made me promise not to have sex with her first, she actually thought I was a player from my "smooth talk", lol. I agreed and followed her back to her place. We cuddled up to watch some TV for a bit, even made out a little , then she asked me to stay the night and we went to bed. We held each other all night long and it was the best feeling I've ever had. We had a hard time getting up in the morning because neither of us wanted it to end. Eventually she had to go to work so we got up around 11, shared another hug and kiss, then I drove home. This date had a lot of firsts for me. It was the first time I ever kissed a girl, slept with a girl, and danced with a girl (well, tried to dance anyways, lol). Even though we didn't actually have sex, it was the best and most fulfilling experience of my life. I sure hope this relationship progresses, but even if it doesn't, this date made all of my spent time and money on dating this year finally worth it! I got a feeling my goal of having my first sexual experience isn't far off, but it somehow feels less important now after knowing how great it feels to just be with an affectionate woman I hope you guys enjoyed my story. Wish me luck! I know you are excited BUT, got to be very careful about "fuzzy borders" when it comes to just sleeping in the bed. Women will do this because they are just lonely, and use you as a cuddle bich. I'm saying this, even as a woman, STAY OUT of their bed unless sex is on the table! You must not let her have all the control and lead you around like a puppy in lust. Tip: just because she let you cuddle in bed, doesn't mean sex is imminent next time, so please keep that in mind. Communication is good, especially about sex, and when the decision is made to have it. Continue to take her out on more dates, but make yourself a little less available to these make out sessions at her place.....this will increase her desire for you, based on human nature that you desire more what you can't have. So if she offers you to come over, that's fine, but if she says she isn't ready, don't be crawling into bed again.
Author GTO06 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 (edited) I'm curious as to how you are able to get dates with 30 women in half a year and still be a virgin at age 30. Unless you are just holding out for Sofia Vergara. Congrats though man. Well, that is actually a along story in itself, but here is the short version. For the majority of my life, I was one of those people who tried to do everything right all the time. I chose not to pursue women due to the path it could lead to and that it could of got me stuck in the small town I grew up in. I was also rather overweight for a long time so avoiding relationships with women wasn't too hard, lol. I kept that "goody goody" mind set for a LONG time thinking it would lead me to riches, (heck I didn't even drink alcohol for the first time until I was 28) but it turned out just leading me to a path to loneliness instead. It was at about that point that I totally changed my mind set completely and started to actually try to live my life. Around 5 years ago I decided to get healthier and I lost 90 pounds and got pretty fit. Then all the sudden I started getting attention from good looking girls that I've never had before, but I still declined their advances foolishly. It was only over the last year or so that I decided to really start getting evolved with women. Aparently they find me pretty attractive, so that is good thing of course. However, it has taken some time for me to learn dating skills and how to act around women in general. However, I feel I have learned a LOT over the course of this year and think I'm getting super close to landing my first GF I know you are excited BUT, got to be very careful about "fuzzy borders" when it comes to just sleeping in the bed. Women will do this because they are just lonely, and use you as a cuddle bich. I'm saying this, even as a woman, STAY OUT of their bed unless sex is on the table! You must not let her have all the control and lead you around like a puppy in lust. Tip: just because she let you cuddle in bed, doesn't mean sex is imminent next time, so please keep that in mind. Communication is good, especially about sex, and when the decision is made to have it. Continue to take her out on more dates, but make yourself a little less available to these make out sessions at her place.....this will increase her desire for you, based on human nature that you desire more what you can't have. So if she offers you to come over, that's fine, but if she says she isn't ready, don't be crawling into bed again. Thanks for the advice. I'm actually going to text her tonight and ask her out to dinner one night this week; it was Saturday morning since we last texted. If she asks me to her place again or accepts going to my place, I intend on being a little more persuasive towards some intimate interaction and I got a feeling she won't decline Edited December 7, 2014 by GTO06
soyou Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Congrats. I'm very happy for you. One more happy person in this world ;-). Just enjoy the moment and dont worry so much about tomorrow. What happens happens. What is meant to be will mean to be. Have a good time and hope that everything will work out fabulously for you
Author GTO06 Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 I asked her out on a second date tonight and she overjoyingly accepted! We are getting together again in a week or so. I sure have a really good feeling about this girl Thanks for all your guy's responses 1
AVarma Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 This thread is awesome! It gives me hope! So OP what happened? Did you ever manage to lose your virginity?
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