smg15 Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Do you find men's ads more intriguing if it has no photo or do you only click on the ads with pics? Just seems like I get the most replies when I dont post a pic so not sure if it's more fun that way for women.
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I don't understand why anyone would contact a personal ad without any kind of picture be it on Craigslist or a legit dating site or whatever. Having said that I do know of plenty of people who experience this phenomenon. I'd be curious to hear more about this because for ME, that would never happen. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 OP, do you contact personal ads without pics?
Danda Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 <-- Admitted CL Lurker When you don't include a photo, people (gender of poster or respond-er irrelevant) will conjure up an ideal in their mind of what you might look like, and so if they like what you've written and whatever stats you've included like your age, then they might respond in an attempt to get your pic. If you include a pic then they will decide right then and there if they find you attractive or not. So if you don't include a pic then you might get more responses, since those who would not have been attracted to you might inquire sans-photo. Honestly though I have been lurking on CL for years, mostly for warped entertainment, and you should probably abandon all hope and switch to an OLD website. Not only do men outnumber women on CL to a pretty insane degree, but most of the men are crazy and/or married guys looking to cheat, so the few women who are on CL are either crazy as well or probably jaded and skittish beyond hope. Or they're both crazy and cynical like yours truly. Probably a few rare good apples once in a while but you'd probably have better luck cold approaching at the grocery store.
Phoe Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I know I personally wouldn't contact someone without pics, on any site. I have a profile up without photos on a site, and have received 0 messages, which is not surprising. If someone without photos messaged me, I'd message back, but I would not initiate a conversation.
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 <-- Admitted CL Lurker When you don't include a photo, people (gender of poster or respond-er irrelevant) will conjure up an ideal in their mind of what you might look like, and so if they like what you've written and whatever stats you've included like your age, then they might respond in an attempt to get your pic. If you include a pic then they will decide right then and there if they find you attractive or not. So if you don't include a pic then you might get more responses, since those who would not have been attracted to you might inquire sans-photo. Honestly though I have been lurking on CL for years, mostly for warped entertainment, and you should probably abandon all hope and switch to an OLD website. Not only do men outnumber women on CL to a pretty insane degree, but most of the men are crazy and/or married guys looking to cheat, so the few women who are on CL are either crazy as well or probably jaded and skittish beyond hope. Or they're both crazy and cynical like yours truly. Probably a few rare good apples once in a while but you'd probably have better luck cold approaching at the grocery store. Haha sounds like just another day on any legit OLD site to me
Author smg15 Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 OP, do you contact personal ads without pics? As a man I do have to respond to ads on craigslist because when I post my own ad whether it be with a pic or not I get a lit of replies.
smackie9 Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 Personally I wouldn't look through the personals......so many sketchy, creep, cat fishing freaks out there. So easy to hide behind a fake profile, fake photo, etc.
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 As a man I do have to respond to ads on craigslist because when I post my own ad whether it be with a pic or not I get a lit of replies. No...I meant do you make contact with profiles of women without pics on CL? I'm assuming you scour the personals reading through women's profiles looking for a match. If you read someone's profile that sounds good but there is no picture, do you send her an email and initiate contact?
Danda Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 Haha sounds like just another day on any legit OLD site to me Heh yeah maybe. So maybe there is something to be said for CL in that people express their madness upfront, not 4 dates in. So there's that. 1
Author smg15 Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 No...I meant do you make contact with profiles of women without pics on CL? I'm assuming you scour the personals reading through women's profiles looking for a match. If you read someone's profile that sounds good but there is no picture, do you send her an email and initiate contact? I don't browse women Ads on cl because 95 percent of them are spam
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 I don't browse women Ads on cl because 95 percent of them are spam Okay then WHY are you on CL in the first place? I don't understand this. If men far out number women and 95% of those that say they're women are not...why be on CL? Why not put up an ad somewhere else? What is it you're looking for exactly? A date? A f*ck? A cuddle? What?
Author smg15 Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 Okay then WHY are you on CL in the first place? I don't understand this. If men far out number women and 95% of those that say they're women are not...why be on CL? Why not put up an ad somewhere else? What is it you're looking for exactly? A date? A f*ck? A cuddle? What? Because cl has lots of women who browse and respond to my ads. I'm seeking a friend that can lead to dating. The only disappointment sometime is when I get a message from someone I'm attracted to and send her my pic, she may never respond back because I may not be her type
Danda Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 Because cl has lots of women who browse and respond to my ads. I'm seeking a friend that can lead to dating. The only disappointment sometime is when I get a message from someone I'm attracted to and send her my pic, she may never respond back because I may not be her type Alright I hate to rain on parades, but are you sure that most of the responses you're getting aren't just spam/scam bots? Or pic collectors fishing for your photos? You already acknowledged that many w4m ads are spam, but you don't seem suspicious of all the responses coming into your inbox (when in my opinion you should be). It just strikes me as odd because on the blue moon occasion that I respond to an ad, I already know upfront to do stuff to prove that I am "real" like change the subject line and report the local weather lol. Just because so many guys say they get so much spam/scam stuff that I just consider it proper courtesy to let them know I'm not eventually going to direct them to a website or something.
Author smg15 Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 Alright I hate to rain on parades, but are you sure that most of the responses you're getting aren't just spam/scam bots? Or pic collectors fishing for your photos? You already acknowledged that many w4m ads are spam, but you don't seem suspicious of all the responses coming into your inbox (when in my opinion you should be). It just strikes me as odd because on the blue moon occasion that I respond to an ad, I already know upfront to do stuff to prove that I am "real" like change the subject line and report the local weather lol. Just because so many guys say they get so much spam/scam stuff that I just consider it proper courtesy to let them know I'm not eventually going to direct them to a website or something. Well that one response I received was from a school teacher and sent me two pics of her and told where she was from. So I sent her two pics also but I guess I choose the wrong ones because I never heard back. Lol. Or maybe it was someone fishing for pics
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