Marieclaire Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 (edited) Hey everyone, I need some advice. So I met this lovely man on a night out and we agreed to go out for a drink. We had a great time, chatted for hours, and ended up going back to his. This was 2 weeks ago. Since then, we have been constantly texting (maybe 10 texts a day on average). The conversations are two sided, he asks me questions, I respond and vice versa. I also do not text him again until he has responded to my previous one, and even then I leave it a good few hours or so (about the same amount of time as he left it). Since our first date, we've had a few others - dinner a few days later (he paid), drinks and more drinks. Each time we end up getting together. We get on very well and can chat for hours. So far, we've both kind of mutually suggested the dates. The first one - he suggested, the second (after we agreed we'd both like to see each other again) was me, and the third was a mutual kind of 'what are you up to, let's meet up' kind of date. Last time I saw him, I asked him if he was around that week and he told me he'd get back to me. He later text me and was apologetic he was vague about it. My problem is, although we are constantly texting, he doesn't appear to want to suggest a date off his own back, or at least hasn't, since our first date. It's bizarre because every day he texts me and pays such an interest into the mundane day-to-day aspects of my life. He even appears to care and asks me if I get into work ok each day. I last saw him 6 days ago and have waited for him to suggest another date but he hasn't. He did call me in the early hours of the morning a few days ago, as we were both out in town, but I didn't respond as I was asleep. When we were texting as usual today, I asked him if he fancied going out for a drink tomorrow night and he said he would like to, but not tomorrow night as he has had a heavy weekend and didn't want to drink. I don't know how to respond to this so haven't replied so far. Part of me thinks he may be taking it 'slow' because he knows I have recently (a few months ago) come out of a very long term relationship, and maybe he wants to take things slow to give them the best chance of working? To ensure it's not a rebound thing? I don't know. I was honest and up front about this with him on the first date as I still live with my ex (although he is moving out at the end of this month). He didn't seem phased by it, and it obviously didn't bother him much as there were more dates/liaisons afterwards, and we obviously talk each day. I am so out of practise and have no idea how to handle this situation. I really like this guy but I have no idea what to do. What do you all think? I really appreciate all the help and advice! Edited December 7, 2014 by Marieclaire
pgagnon Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Give him one more chance and if he has a lame excuse, let him go
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