pgagnon Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 I met this woman online we're both 35 years old. Both working professionals and work Monday through Friday. The first 2 dates we met on Saturday night for dinner and drinks. We kissed after the dates at the car and she stopped things from going further. The next two dates she wanted to date on Sunday afternoon one was at a museum and the other a hike.We kissed after both of these too but she ended it pretty quickly. The next date coming up she wants that as a Sunday date too. As far as communication during the week it is generally through text and her responses are typically short. We've tried calling each other and usually it's alot of phone tag. When we do talk, the conversation is good and there's alot of laughs and good stories told. Question- is she only dating me on Sundays because she is multi dating? Is her interest level low at this point, Should I bail while I have the chance? Just looking for general input.
FitChick Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 She knows you want sex and she isn't ready yet so it's only day dates to get to know you better. What's stopping you from screwing someone else in the mean time? You aren't exclusive. 2
CalvinM Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Bail dude. Women like this aren't worth the headache.
Author pgagnon Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 She knows you want sex and she isn't ready yet so it's only day dates to get to know you better. What's stopping you from screwing someone else in the mean time? You aren't exclusive. Good point, that's what I figured and nothing is stopping me from hitting others I just want to be sure she's not "friending" me
CarrieT Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 If you are only looking to date for sex, then it might be time to move on. But if you genuinely like her and see a future, invite her to some proper Saturday date (like a particular concert or show) and see how she responds. 2
Author pgagnon Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 If you are only looking to date for sex, then it might be time to move on. But if you genuinely like her and see a future, invite her to some proper Saturday date (like a particular concert or show) and see how she responds. I'm not into just sex and would like to get to know her but I just so happen to enjoy kissing and the like.
CarrieT Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 I'm not into just sex and would like to get to know her but I just so happen to enjoy kissing and the like. Understandable, but you can't expect "the like" without talking frankly to her about where you see the relationship going. Have you flat-out asked her for a Saturday night date or why you two have only seen each other on Sundays? It doesn't seem as though you know each other very well to get to a point of experiencing "the like." 2
Author pgagnon Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 Understandable, but you can't expect "the like" without talking frankly to her about where you see the relationship going. Have you flat-out asked her for a Saturday night date or why you two have only seen each other on Sundays? It doesn't seem as though you know each other very well to get to a point of experiencing "the like." The first 2 dates were from my initiation. The former were from her via text on like Thursday "hey you available on Sunday" and by "the like" I mean holding , caressing and such , not necessarily scoring a home run. But I have NEVER waited this many dates for 'the like' never.
newmoon Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 day dates = no chance for sex. she isn't leaving that as an option so she's sticking to 'safe' times.
CarrieT Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 You've only been on three dates. Seems all perfectly reasonable to me to want to keep it to "safe" dates. If you want more, you have to actually ask for it. The key is communication. You are making assumptions based on "Sunday dates" when there might something more nefarious at hand - like family obligations or something work-related. There is simply no way to know and all this is in this thread is second-guessing. 2
Author pgagnon Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 You've only been on three dates. Seems all perfectly reasonable to me to want to keep it to "safe" dates. If you want more, you have to actually ask for it. The key is communication. You are making assumptions based on "Sunday dates" when there might something more nefarious at hand - like family obligations or something work-related. There is simply no way to know and all this is in this thread is second-guessing. I see, makes sense and this sunday will be the fifth date
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