Stone Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Gosh I'm still a mess, I THINK that greg is cheating I've left him AGAIN and he doesn't care. I am trying to maintain no contact but am turning in to a psycho bitch because I want awansers.. I want my home back and I want to know WTF he is going to di with the baby if anything. I swear my worst nightmear has come true. I've lost weight due to depression and I've cried enough to make a small pond
tiki Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 What a jerk! Has he really cheated on you? If he's a cheater, kick his no-good, lying ass to the curb - quickly. You don't need a man like that, make his ass pay his child support and tell him to get out of your life. No woman needs a man to make it in this world. And THAT'S the beautiful thing! But are you certain he cheated???
brashgal Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 If you knew for sure he wasn't cheating, would it make it better? Appears that you don't trust him and if he acts like he doesn't care, do you want him around anyway? Argh - you really don't need this crap when pregnant - please take care of yourself and the baby.
Author Stone Posted March 21, 2005 Author Posted March 21, 2005 He will never admit it but he never somes home on time he says he is hanging out with his "friends" that I have NEVER meet and I looked at his bank account ( I know that's wrong) to see where he was spending $$ and he is going to Redlobster, bars ect spending 60-70 bucks!! That's not a tab for one.. and he is to cheap to buy for anyone else.. I asked him and he said he wasn't he does have an alchol problem witch I have REPEATLY asked him to quit and he refuses.... arsehole! I want to punch him
tiki Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 So kick him to the curb - you don't need him. Sounds like he's already providing nothing but trouble for you anyway. The sad thing is, like most men, once you dump him, he'll come CRAWLING back.
Author Stone Posted March 21, 2005 Author Posted March 21, 2005 For some sick reason I WANT him to come crawling back, I want him to try to change ( if he's NOT cheating) but he won't. i just can't believe I have 2 kids by 2 diffrent scum bag addicts. My kids will suffer for my stupid decisions forever and i'll never forgive myself for it.
Illusion24 Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 You need to worry about your health and the child you are bringing into this life...If he doesn't want to be a part of it...Let him go he'll just be a burden in your life...You can't be under so much emotional stress...You can't only think about yourself you have child now...As far as him...Let the mutha f*cka burn!! I think you're worrying to much about your love life and not enough on the love you should be giving your kids..I know having a man by your side makes things a lot easier but if he doesn't want to be a part of your life why be a part of his....Let him realize that he had a family and now it's gone...I'm sure you can find another man who's willing to give YOU love and YOUR kids...That's what matters right now ...Your family!!!
brashgal Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 I don't believe your kids will suffer. It sounds like you are a good Mom and have their best interests in mind - you seem very responsible for your age. Unfortunately people have to make the decision for themselves to change, wishing doesn't make it so (but you know that). The best thing you could do for your kids now is to cut him out of your life, he seems to be making things worse, not better - you don't need three kids.
tiki Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 How old is this dude? He acts like he's 19 or something.
Author Stone Posted March 21, 2005 Author Posted March 21, 2005 Originally posted by tiki How old is this dude? He acts like he's 19 or something. He's friggin 36 years old!! I am 25 I dated an older man for a reason but it backfired I thought he would be more mature but I was wrong.
Illusion24 Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Damn..yes he does...a man at that age and he doesn't know what he wants...its obvious he's not a man
Author Stone Posted March 21, 2005 Author Posted March 21, 2005 I left him because of the drinking he refused to change so I walked.... maby I thought that if I left he would quit but I'm kidding myself he won't. He's either has a mistress or a bottle is his mistress
caramelbrownchick Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Girl , I'm sorry you have to deal with this crap, I myself was pregnant at 18, my little girls dad was a jerk but I loved him greatly, I had a hunch that he was cheating on me but I wanted so bad to make things work that I ignored the warning signs, they always say if you think a guy is cheating 99% of the time he is. If your not happy leave there is no reason to stay with him and once he sees that you have moved on and you dont need him he will come crawling back by that time you will no longer want him and the hurt you felt he now will feel, it kinda feels good too lol. But no one deserves to be cheated on, and never think that a guy won't want you because you have 2 kids by two diffrent fathers, because once a guy falls in love with you he will fall in love with your children.
Illusion24 Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Do you want a man with that problem around your kids??? Your families safety is in hand here, I wouldn't want my kids around a drunk...or around you...you deserve better
tiki Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Affair with a mistress, or a bottle - either one SUCKS. Stone, there are so many men out there who will love you for who you are. And they will love your kids too!!! Tiki Solution: You need a real man.
Illusion24 Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Tiki Solution: You need a real man I 2nd that...
Author Stone Posted March 21, 2005 Author Posted March 21, 2005 Honestly I am not going to date for a LONG LONG time, I can't do that to my son. He loves Greg as his Daddy and we're losing him I won't bring another man into his life ever. I guess I'l just raise my kids with the church
tiki Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 There ya go!!! Who needs a man?! You will find someone when it's the right time. As for now, focus on that beautiful little boy of yours! Get yourself back into mental shape. That's the best thing you can do for both of the kids.
CurlyIam Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Maybe it's a really bad advice, but I think that right now what you need is not a real man or someone to make you happy. What you need is STABILITY. So instead of just driving yourself crazy, why don't you go ahead and ask him? Confront him? Heather, you're alsmot 6 months pregnant, right? if you need him, if you need his help, why don't you just ask for it? You have the rest of you life to leave him. Right now you're emotional, hormonal, vulnerable and your being apart from him is worse to you than being together with him, isn't it? I don't know... I simply think that you should get all the help you can, for your sake and your children's sake. He has a responsability towards you, Heather... I think he's indeed a scumbag, but you love him. Now... is this the best time in the whole world to leave him? And can you cope with it? I think you aren't strong enough for the time being. I think you risk to hurt yourself and the baby. I think you should have the courage to ask him to come back. At least until you're due. As a partner, if not as a lover. He should be able to do that for his daughter's sake. Be wise, HEather. Be honest to yourself and be wise. Love, Curly
caramelbrownchick Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Never settle for being unhappy with someone, thats not good for your children to see, if you feel you don't need a man and you want to focus on God go for it girl, once you do focus on God all other things will come!!!
blind_otter Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 I'll kick his ass! I'll jump on his back like a monkey and scratch his eyes out! No, babydoll, check your PMs. I'll take care of you!!! For real, though, hit me up. You know I feel a special connection with your bubs because we got pregnant around the same time. Take care of yourself hunny. I you!!!!
Merin Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Stone.. to start don't sell yourself short here.. while it isn't easy to raise kiddo's alone YOU'VE been an amazing Mom to your son.. and you will be an amazing Mom to your daughter as well. Hang in there sweetie..
blind_otter Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam Maybe it's a really bad advice, but I think that right now what you need is not a real man or someone to make you happy. What you need is STABILITY. So instead of just driving yourself crazy, why don't you go ahead and ask him? Confront him? Heather, you're alsmot 6 months pregnant, right? if you need him, if you need his help, why don't you just ask for it? You have the rest of you life to leave him. Right now you're emotional, hormonal, vulnerable and your being apart from him is worse to you than being together with him, isn't it? I don't know... I simply think that you should get all the help you can, for your sake and your children's sake. He has a responsability towards you, Heather... I think he's indeed a scumbag, but you love him. Now... is this the best time in the whole world to leave him? And can you cope with it? I think you aren't strong enough for the time being. I think you risk to hurt yourself and the baby. I think you should have the courage to ask him to come back. At least until you're due. As a partner, if not as a lover. He should be able to do that for his daughter's sake. This is not very good advice....you should NEVER stay with a man just because you are pregnant. I've been there, done that. It's a bad idea. And you can't confront an f-ing addict about their addiction, all you get is more lies. He has a responsibility, but being with him is making her more stressed....it's her continuing pursuit of a relationship with him that is bringing her more stress. Guess what? When can you tell if an addict is lying to you? WHEN THEY OPEN THEIR MOUTHS.
Author Stone Posted March 21, 2005 Author Posted March 21, 2005 hummm... I just got a new vocie mail with him stating that he isn't cheating on my and I am crazy I've decided not to call back and let his arse stir for awhile. He ALSO accused me of throwing him out. Don't know how he got that impression I was the one who packed my bags and went to my mom's house
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