Targetlock Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Life is strange... Well yet again my luck may have changed got messaged by a new girl through OKCupid, we've ended up talking for the last week or so and it has now progressed to regular chatting (shes a fellow gamer so we've started talking on steam) and I've also got her number she is a year older, similar interests and ideals and lives not too far away. I've learnt my lessons from last time and I'm not being too fast and taking things slow and maybe a little cautiously this time around, just seeing how things go maybe hopefully end up seeing her sometime maybe in the new year.
Teraskas Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Oh well, good to hear one of us is having some luck for a change. At any rate I'm rooting for you, seems a promosing lead. ^^ 1
Author Targetlock Posted December 6, 2014 Author Posted December 6, 2014 Oh well, good to hear one of us is having some luck for a change. At any rate I'm rooting for you, seems a promising lead. ^^ could be mate, you don't know until you try these things I guess. just going to play it calmly and slow this time and just see what happens, hopefully wont just fall apart or something :/ 1
Author Targetlock Posted December 8, 2014 Author Posted December 8, 2014 well this seems to be going rather well (regular long chats over the course of the day through texting and talking) we have decided if it is still going this well after the Christmas season, we are going to a friendly meet up and just see what happens from there
Author Targetlock Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 (edited) All the best, Target! Rooting for you, too. thank you, going to remember my lessons from last time and try and not make any of the same mistakes. will just have to play this out and see what happens Edited December 9, 2014 by Targetlock 1
organizedchaos Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 thank you, going to remember my lessons from last time and try and not make any of the same mistakes. will just have to play this out and see what happens Keep trying to meet other women. And I'd suggest not to post on here about her any further. Doing so may cause you to invest/focus too highly in her before you've even met. 4
normal person Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Keep trying to meet other women. And I'd suggest not to post on here about her any further. Doing so may cause you to invest/focus too highly in her before you've even met. Well said. It's not beneficial to put so much stock in a routine interaction with a girl. It's nice that you've been messaging with someone, but that's all it is for now and idealizing it isn't going to do you any favors. Stay cool and calm. Best of luck. 2
Ready2DateAgain Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Keep trying to meet other women. And I'd suggest not to post on here about her any further. Doing so may cause you to invest/focus too highly in her before you've even met. yes putting all your eggs in one basket will kill you emotionally if it doesn't pan out. 1
Author Targetlock Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 fair enough, I will try and consider this just friendly chatting and not get too invested until we actually meet in person or something. 1
Under The Radar Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I think the real victory here is your positive attitude ...... and the willingness to get back out in the dating world ...... despite how difficult your summer breakup was. Wishing you well and all good things 2
Author Targetlock Posted December 10, 2014 Author Posted December 10, 2014 Why dont you ask her out now !? i already have if this is still going well by the start of the new year we are going to meet up just play it calm and cool till then i guess.
Author Targetlock Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 she has decided that she isn't ready for any kind of relationship or dating now and would rather just stay as friends. im glad she was honest about it and upfront rather than me being led on but still disappointed, at least i gave it a go at least.
normal person Posted December 11, 2014 Posted December 11, 2014 i already have if this is still going well by the start of the new year we are going to meet up just play it calm and cool till then i guess. I know you've since said you she wasn't ready to date, but I can't help but wonder why you were going to wait 3 weeks to meet. Is it possible she got bored of talking and not meeting? I know if someone wanted to talk for 3 weeks before meeting up I'd get a bit impatient and move onto the next one.
Author Targetlock Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 Dont think its that. She initially said she wanted to get to know me first before meeting me and she realised that dating and relationships cant happen at the moment because she has issues she needs to deal with before she starts dating again or something (she has Aspergers which she admitted to early on, but then again I'm not perfect as I have Dyspraxia which causes issues of my own) so yeah I feel like I've been friend-zoned, were still talking just not as much.
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