Christophe Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted my situation in other threads but wanted to focus specifically on this issue I have. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago now and I still find it very hard to genuinely enjoy myself socially. I come back from every night out feeling very empty, alone and lacking without her. I think part of it is I am still living in the same town I grew up in and fell in love with her almost a year ago. So in a way the place is a constant reminder of her. Even a year ago before I met her I wanted to move away and be somewhere new. I feel that even more strongly now though. I try to go out without having huge expectations of meeting another girl every time but despite meeting some nice people and interacting with girls and dancing I never feel truly confident and happy. It is like I am faking it all the time. And I don't feel attractive and particularly interesting as I haven't had that connection with a girl again yet like I did when I met my ex. The night I met her feels like a perfect dream now. It feels as though this won't happen again. I try to keep hope that I will find love again but every time I come home alone after a night out I feel the same hollow, empty feeling. How do you deal with this because I don't feel like this is improving?
NopeNah Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 It comes back. Just think back to who/how you were before you met your current ex. Your confidence has obviously taken a blow. You'll find it again! 1
ballycastle Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted my situation in other threads but wanted to focus specifically on this issue I have. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago now and I still find it very hard to genuinely enjoy myself socially. I come back from every night out feeling very empty, alone and lacking without her. I think part of it is I am still living in the same town I grew up in and fell in love with her almost a year ago. So in a way the place is a constant reminder of her. Even a year ago before I met her I wanted to move away and be somewhere new. I feel that even more strongly now though. I try to go out without having huge expectations of meeting another girl every time but despite meeting some nice people and interacting with girls and dancing I never feel truly confident and happy. It is like I am faking it all the time. And I don't feel attractive and particularly interesting as I haven't had that connection with a girl again yet like I did when I met my ex. The night I met her feels like a perfect dream now. It feels as though this won't happen again. I try to keep hope that I will find love again but every time I come home alone after a night out I feel the same hollow, empty feeling. How do you deal with this because I don't feel like this is improving? Yes I do feel like this which is why I no longer go out! People ask me but I say no. Then they say, 'It will make you feel better.' It might do at the time, but putting the key in the door and walking into an empty house is one of the worst feelings ever. So I don't do it any more. Saying that I have started to maybe accept a few invitations but know I'll probably cancel last minute. I never used to be like this either. I used to be the life and soul of any party, but I can no longer be the clown. The good thing is you have hope, that's a wonderful attribute to hold on to. I don't have hope so much, but the reality that this 'is it' for me. I recent heartbreak has switched off my light.
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