Supernova31 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Well I was suppose to go on a second date with this woman yesterday and she done a complete no show. I sent her 2 messages via whats app saying asking where she was and I hope everything is ok and I called her twice and no reply. I know this sort of thing happens to the best of us and I just have to move on, but I just don't see how people find it acceptable to do that to another person even though they are strangers. Theres no valid exuse I mean how hard is it to take a few seconds of their time to say I'm not intreasted or somethings come up.
Jules Dash Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Well I was suppose to go on a second date with this woman yesterday and she done a complete no show. I sent her 2 messages via whats app saying asking where she was and I hope everything is ok and I called her twice and no reply. I know this sort of thing happens to the best of us and I just have to move on, but I just don't see how people find it acceptable to do that to another person even though they are strangers. Theres no valid exuse I mean how hard is it to take a few seconds of their time to say I'm not intreasted or somethings come up. People will always do this until the end of time. We don't have to understand it at all. It happens to everyone at one time or another. These sort of people are being born every second. They will always be around. They will not take a few seconds to be considerate to you. It's ok. Just move on. 2
Molly Hooper Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Either something actually did come up (which seems unlikely, but still possible) or she was on the fence and something about you put her off last minute. It isn't your fault. When you're playing a game of chemistry and compatibility, it's going to happen. 1
fred123 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 you texted her twice and called her twice without reply? isnt that clingy and harrassment? also how can we say shes a bad person. maybe she wouldnt have done that with a guy she likes?
Molly Hooper Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 you texted her twice and called her twice without reply? isnt that clingy and harrassment? also how can we say shes a bad person. maybe she wouldnt have done that with a guy she likes? Um, the OP is basically here to figure that out. Be helpful. And texting two times and calling twice on a complete no show is not harassment, unless you're sending harassing/threatening messages or you're a 19 year old who is really into yourself and thinks, like, everyone is like a stalker... like.
Toodaloo Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Last time I was stood up I ended up having a great night out with a rugby club... Life is what you make it and while you can sit there and procrastinate about what you did wrong... But how about turning the tables and thinking what a bitch to just leave you standing there and be so rude not to call or text to say she was not going to turn up... Do you want to date someone with so few manners and little regard for others? That is not nice and not attractive at all now is it so would you still want to date her knowing that? Nope I guess not so lucky escape there! 2
Author Supernova31 Posted December 6, 2014 Author Posted December 6, 2014 (edited) Thanks guys , I was always brought up to treat people with respect, and this sort of thing happens to people to often and it amazes me how the people that do it find it acceptable, but that's my personal opinion and that's life I guess. All I can do is enjoy the things or people I do like and ignore the ones I don't. Edited December 6, 2014 by Supernova31
Chemist Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 you texted her twice and called her twice without reply? isnt that clingy and harrassment? also how can we say shes a bad person. maybe she wouldnt have done that with a guy she likes? I don't think it is clingy or harassment to call someone twice when they were late, and then did a no show to the date. The first message would be to inquire, then a call, then the second message would be me telling her that her actions were immature, disrespectful, and a complete waste of my time. To have a nice life. 1
Dallers Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 You should not even respond to this with any care in the world OP you missed the bullet. Hard to see at the time but will comfort you when you are lying in bed with a girl in your arms thinking back to how grateful you are to all the idiots before her. The thing to take from this is to not dwell and beat yourself up or become passive aggressive towards dating. The thing is to look back at what happened and understand why she stood you up. There will be signs and she will have most likely given you them on a plate without realising it and it is then that you should have taken action. If there was no conversation and this was just a straight up second date with little contact then you should already be talking to the next potential date. With experience you learn to weed these ones out and the experienced part of your brain sends a warning to tell you not to even waste your time. Some people deem this as being picky but this part of me has saved me so much time and effort. Man up and onto the next.
Author Supernova31 Posted December 6, 2014 Author Posted December 6, 2014 You should not even respond to this with any care in the world OP you missed the bullet. Hard to see at the time but will comfort you when you are lying in bed with a girl in your arms thinking back to how grateful you are to all the idiots before her. The thing to take from this is to not dwell and beat yourself up or become passive aggressive towards dating. The thing is to look back at what happened and understand why she stood you up. There will be signs and she will have most likely given you them on a plate without realising it and it is then that you should have taken action. If there was no conversation and this was just a straight up second date with little contact then you should already be talking to the next potential date. With experience you learn to weed these ones out and the experienced part of your brain sends a warning to tell you not to even waste your time. Some people deem this as being picky but this part of me has saved me so much time and effort. Man up and onto the next. Thanks I agree with you, there were some red flags and it even got to a point where I deleted her number but I guess I got sucked in by her as she still messaging me. Maybe I should of kept her number deleted lol. 1
Dallers Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Thanks I agree with you, there were some red flags and it even got to a point where I deleted her number but I guess I got sucked in by her as she still messaging me. Maybe I should of kept her number deleted lol. Ignore Ignore Ignore. Walk away alpha or keep going back beta. One you win and remain a man two you lose and feel awful for ages. Walk away. 2
insert_name Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 you texted her twice and called her twice without reply? isnt that clingy and harrassment? also how can we say shes a bad person. maybe she wouldnt have done that with a guy she likes? You aren't the girl that stood him up are you? 3
soyou Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Ohh, I had a guy stood me up very last minute once (10 mins before our date in a restaurant). I was ready, had my make up and nice clothes on, and was very much looking forward. Then he texted me a bull**** reason "sorry, I was drunk yesterday night, i'm still hangving a terrible hangover". I cut him off completely. No more time, effort, or emotion was further invested in. If Somebody deciding to not show up or being disrespectul, it's not my fault. What goes around comes around. One day this very ****ty behavior of them will give them a big slap on their face, perhaps not by me but somebody else.
deathandtaxes Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Sorry, OP. It happens to the best of us. I think you handled it just fine. At least you know the true depth of this person's character.
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