Noandyes Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I met him at work and we were not close. We knew each other through a project and that's it when the project ended. Since our work place is big, we rarely cross path with each other. Few months back, he started to find me again asking for help in work and I helped. My other colleagues were teasing me that he might be interested in me which I don't really believe because I could not get any signs from him. And so he approached me few times within few months time for the same purpose. Each time when we meet, we spend more than one hour not only helping him on his work (although it was a simple thing and he can search for solutions online) , we also chat a lot. Our topics cover quite a lot of things. The most recent encounter we talked about which type of guys I should find as bf and he said the guy should be matured and smart. I am not sure he was giving a hint or advising me only. My colleagues said that we both look like couple from the way we chat and we spend quite long hours together even after work. Somehow I am confused because he is not asking me for dates or giving me any obvious hints that he like me and i am not sure he got gf or not. Would it be he just want me to help him in work? He is higher level in office than me by the way. Appreciate if anyone can advice. Thanks.
Gloria25 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I have guys at work I walk with and chat with on the regular. Am I interested in them romantically? No. Are they romantically interested in me? No. But, we have great convos, we help each other with work, etc. Dating people you work with can get dicey, especially if they are in a higher position than you - regardless of whether or not they work in a different department. Maybe you can ask him to share lunch with you or have a coffee outside of work and see his reaction.
StalwartMind Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 "we spend more than one hour not only helping him on his work (although it was a simple thing and he can search for solutions online)" While it may not be 100% guaranteed, this typically is a pretty good indicator he is interested in spending time with you. In regards to there being more to it than that, well it would be a good idea to find out. If you are both mature adults, then you also should be able to accept the risks in case things do not work out if you start to date. Either way I think it's safe to say he has some interest, it's just about finding out on what kind of level he has.
Author Noandyes Posted December 11, 2014 Author Posted December 11, 2014 I feel comfortable talking to him as we share the same interests and mindsets. I am quite a shy person. How do I approach him without being awkward?
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