Gloria25 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Even though we're no longer in a time where men have to marry a woman to get sex, do you think that men - especially young men can be manipulated into bad relationships cuz of female attention, especially sex? I'm watching ID and this homely chick was married once and got some other guy to be obsessed with her and she was a mess. Endless drama and fighting. But, seems like the "sex" was the hook she had with these guys. The thing I'm noticing is their age...teens - early 20's. Sometimes I wonder why humans in their teens and early 20's have all these raging hormones and/or hornies - yet, do not appear to have the mental/emotional development to handle the complexities of sex, emotions, and all that? The thread about people staying married longer cuz they waited later in life has some truth about it I guess. I mean, if you wait and take the time to make an informed decision on a mate - instead of falling prey to raging hormones, you'll have a better life? I'm late 30's and while if I was in a RL, I'd have sex as much as possible (lol). But, since I'm single, sex no longer is a priority like it used to be. I guess with age you get more mature on controlling your desires/impulses?
Frank2thepoint Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Yes men get hooked into bad relationships just from female attention. The idea of having sex, even as a teenager permeates throughout our daily lives. All forms of media, and peers, place pressure on the youth. I remember when I was a freshman in high school (13/14 years old) back in the early 90s, and some boy and girl asked me if I was still a virgin. I said yes (even though technically I wasn't if oral sex counts as losing your virginity). They both laughed at me. So the pressure from peers, on how you are viewed and accepted affects one's judgment on pursuing sex, with little regard for consequences. I'm sure girls are similarly pressured into sex and to couple up, to have a boyfriend. But I don't think sex because less of a priority later in life. It becomes more important for long term compatibility. But if you are arguing to delay having sex when dating someone, that is very important, because you do want to make an informed decision on personality and emotional compatibility, along with building chemistry and rapport. Then sex becomes a test, a final approval of compatibility for a couple.
Danda Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 To be honest I think we as humans are still getting biologically used to modern society, and it may never happen. Modern society itself is a bit of an experiment, in the larger scheme of things (all of human existence's history). Way, way back in time, typically an entire tribe/clan/whatever participated in raising children, and survival itself was so time-consuming and exhausting that rarely did mates just sit around with each other with plenty of time for crap to go wrong, and there was very little to fight or argue about in comparison to all of the little stresses of modern life. Therefore if young adults with raging hormones had sex and had children, it was generally going to be just fine. The children would definitely be raised as well and healthy as possible, the adult pair would not have much to ever argue about, and they wouldn't spend much time just hanging out, anyway. They would also have plenty of outlets for any emotional issues/angst. Young men would unleash a lot of pent up angst or anger while hunting and would have plenty of time away from their females (typically while out hunting). Women would spend a lot of time with a support group of other women. Nobody ever felt 'alone' in most senses of the word. Not only were raging hormones very beneficial for various reasons (such as lifespan expectancy), but it also worked out just fine. Things are extremely different now in the western world (and some other parts of the world, as well), but how long have they really been that way, in comparison to how long they have not? It doesn't surprise me at all that we humans are still fumbling through all of this and making mistakes at times. 1
BetrayedH Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I'm 45 and as mature as I'd like to think I am, I'm still a raging ball of hormones and yep, women can probably still manipulate me with (good) sex. 1
CaliGypsy Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I'm 45 and as mature as I'd like to think I am, I'm still a raging ball of hormones and yep, women can probably still manipulate me with (good) sex. I'll admit I feel the same way and I'm 49 and a female. I think I saw that one Gloria, back when I had IDTV. (Btw never met another person who loves that channel as much as me lol ) she was an evil woman.
elaine567 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Sometimes I wonder why humans in their teens and early 20's have all these raging hormones and/or hornies - yet, do not appear to have the mental/emotional development to handle the complexities of sex, emotions, and all that? Nature is all about survival of the fittest and passing good genes on to the next generation. Humans didn't live that long, most died well before 40 and with wars, fighting in general, hunting and disease the male, needed to pass on his genes whilst he was still able to do so.
M30USA Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 To be honest I think we as humans are still getting biologically used to modern society, and it may never happen. Modern society itself is a bit of an experiment, in the larger scheme of things (all of human existence's history). Way, way back in time, typically an entire tribe/clan/whatever participated in raising children, and survival itself was so time-consuming and exhausting that rarely did mates just sit around with each other with plenty of time for crap to go wrong, and there was very little to fight or argue about in comparison to all of the little stresses of modern life. Therefore if young adults with raging hormones had sex and had children, it was generally going to be just fine. The children would definitely be raised as well and healthy as possible, the adult pair would not have much to ever argue about, and they wouldn't spend much time just hanging out, anyway. They would also have plenty of outlets for any emotional issues/angst. Young men would unleash a lot of pent up angst or anger while hunting and would have plenty of time away from their females (typically while out hunting). Women would spend a lot of time with a support group of other women. Nobody ever felt 'alone' in most senses of the word. Not only were raging hormones very beneficial for various reasons (such as lifespan expectancy), but it also worked out just fine. Things are extremely different now in the western world (and some other parts of the world, as well), but how long have they really been that way, in comparison to how long they have not? It doesn't surprise me at all that we humans are still fumbling through all of this and making mistakes at times. What cultures are you talking about? Mexicans, Spanish, Indian, or Italian? These cultures practically had entire villages raise their kids. But most white cultures were more nuclear and more autonomous, usually raising children with just mom and dad. Truthfully I think the former is more problematic, causing more conflict with how to raise a child. Hence why Hispanic cultures are so high in conflict even with families.
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