Amalthea Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I thought I had a horrid dating life, then read through some of the threads on here......... Anyway, I'm going to do a short summary of all of my bad experiences. I would really like it if others shared theirs as well. Humor is appreciated. I'm a 30 something, very attractive, educated, blonde woman, yet I have NO LUCK with me which means that it must be me, but hahahahaha! Through my teen years, I didn't have a boyfriend. The guys who approached me were usually too old, and the ones my own age thought I was a slut. God only knows why, as I was a virgin who had never had a boyfriend. Even though I had never had a bf, my first sexual experience happened at 19. A guy I worked with (so cute) taught me how to give oral in a church parking lot. He's on a TV show now. From 19-24, I no one asked me out on any dates. Guys asked for my number, made out with me, I messed around with someone from a famous boy band in my friend's bathroom at a 4th of July cook out. I was still a virgin. Guys wanted to make out with me, but no one asked me out. NUMEROUS guys asked for my number, but no one called. At 24, I met my first serious boyfriend. I wasn't even attracted to him, but he was nice and since no one wanted to date me, I decided to go out with him. We ended up moving in together, I finally lost my virginity to him, and we were engaged. All was good for a while, then he started resenting me. He resented that I booked singing jobs when he didn't, he resented my friends, my parents, everything. He became VERY abusive, so after three years, it ended. Shorty after, I met another guy, we dated for a year, but he broke up with me because I went to a Backstreet Boys concert and refused to let him come with me. I swear, that was the reason. After that I was single for years. I dated here and there, but I was never attracted to anyone. Guys only want sex. None of them were interested in a relationships with me, although I did have two guys who not leave me alone. I never had relationships with either one. One was 20 years older. The other was someone I used to work with. Both would call me crying, threaten suicide, and leave gifts on my doorstep. It was horrible. Met a guy I liked, dated him for 4 months before I slept with him. I slept with him on a Saturday, then I heard NOTHING from him until the following Wednesday when he left me a message breaking up with me. He sounded all morose. I called him back and I sounded happy. He was in such shock at my reaction that he STILL continues to call me. I won't give him the time of day. I met another guy who I was totally attracted to! He committed to me. He was wonderful. Everything was perfect, except one thing. He refused to sleep with me or even kiss me. After 3 years, he finally gave me a peck kiss. He said he wasn't gay, but also wouldn't tell me why he refused to touch me. *sigh* Why me? Why is it so hard to meet a nice guy who I am actually attracted to! I do get approached by nice men, but should I make myself be with them if I feel zero attraction? I don't even care anymore. I am so cynical. I look on dating sites, and I don't find myself attracted to ANY of the men of them. Anyone else care to share?
NotUnlikeWaves Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 How high are your standards? Will you date someone who doesn't look like a male model?
Author Amalthea Posted December 6, 2014 Author Posted December 6, 2014 I will admit that when I was in my early 20's my standards were crazy. He had to be blonde and totally hot for me to even consider. Unfortunately, most of those guys were gay. The straight ones wanted to mess around with me, but didn't care to settle down with anyone. Now I have completely given up on looks. As long as I feel some kind of attraction, I am willing to go on a date. I dated one guy who looked like a toothpick, and one who looked like a hot air balloon. Both screwed me over.
Author Amalthea Posted December 6, 2014 Author Posted December 6, 2014 I forgot to add the guy who would rather play World of Warcraft than hang out with me. LOL! And the guy I totally settled for who ditched me for someone he met playing an online game. Those were some fun times.
WomenWubber Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 "Why is it so hard to meet a nice guy who I am actually attracted to!" Because it wouldn't be worth it otherwise.
smackie9 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 You have trouble picking up on red flags? And who is choosing who? are you choosing them or are they choosing you?
NotUnlikeWaves Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I will admit that when I was in my early 20's my standards were crazy. He had to be blonde and totally hot for me to even consider. Unfortunately, most of those guys were gay. The straight ones wanted to mess around with me, but didn't care to settle down with anyone. Now I have completely given up on looks. As long as I feel some kind of attraction, I am willing to go on a date. I dated one guy who looked like a toothpick, and one who looked like a hot air balloon. Both screwed me over. Lol I love women's standards. Not just totally hot (which is not necessarily unreasonable) but also specific eye color and hair color on top of it, basically narrowing it down to 1% of male population
NJ123 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I thought I had a horrid dating life, then read through some of the threads on here......... Anyway, I'm going to do a short summary of all of my bad experiences. I would really like it if others shared theirs as well. Humor is appreciated. I'm a 30 something, very attractive, educated, blonde woman, yet I have NO LUCK with me which means that it must be me, but hahahahaha! Through my teen years, I didn't have a boyfriend. The guys who approached me were usually too old, and the ones my own age thought I was a slut. God only knows why, as I was a virgin who had never had a boyfriend. Even though I had never had a bf, my first sexual experience happened at 19. A guy I worked with (so cute) taught me how to give oral in a church parking lot. He's on a TV show now. From 19-24, I no one asked me out on any dates. Guys asked for my number, made out with me, I messed around with someone from a famous boy band in my friend's bathroom at a 4th of July cook out. I was still a virgin. Guys wanted to make out with me, but no one asked me out. NUMEROUS guys asked for my number, but no one called. At 24, I met my first serious boyfriend. I wasn't even attracted to him, but he was nice and since no one wanted to date me, I decided to go out with him. We ended up moving in together, I finally lost my virginity to him, and we were engaged. All was good for a while, then he started resenting me. He resented that I booked singing jobs when he didn't, he resented my friends, my parents, everything. He became VERY abusive, so after three years, it ended. Shorty after, I met another guy, we dated for a year, but he broke up with me because I went to a Backstreet Boys concert and refused to let him come with me. I swear, that was the reason. After that I was single for years. I dated here and there, but I was never attracted to anyone. Guys only want sex. None of them were interested in a relationships with me, although I did have two guys who not leave me alone. I never had relationships with either one. One was 20 years older. The other was someone I used to work with. Both would call me crying, threaten suicide, and leave gifts on my doorstep. It was horrible. Met a guy I liked, dated him for 4 months before I slept with him. I slept with him on a Saturday, then I heard NOTHING from him until the following Wednesday when he left me a message breaking up with me. He sounded all morose. I called him back and I sounded happy. He was in such shock at my reaction that he STILL continues to call me. I won't give him the time of day. I met another guy who I was totally attracted to! He committed to me. He was wonderful. Everything was perfect, except one thing. He refused to sleep with me or even kiss me. After 3 years, he finally gave me a peck kiss. He said he wasn't gay, but also wouldn't tell me why he refused to touch me. *sigh* Why me? Why is it so hard to meet a nice guy who I am actually attracted to! I do get approached by nice men, but should I make myself be with them if I feel zero attraction? I don't even care anymore. I am so cynical. I look on dating sites, and I don't find myself attracted to ANY of the men of them. Anyone else care to share? Sounds like a troll thread just based on that. So you were with a guy where you didn't have any sexual contact whatsoever in 3 years except for a peck kiss? Extremely hard to believe.
Gloria25 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Welcome to the club.... Not sure if that's a good thing or not? Dating is rough out there...that's all I can say. Like you said, these threads sorta speak for themselves.
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