OLD: Paying Attention to "Requirements"

[LookAtThisPOst]

Oh yes we can! Esp. when your OLD profile has you standing next to a car or up against a waist high fence LOL! (in NY where I am, I've seen a few photos of men standing next to that statue of a bull on Wall Street - very telling in terms of height, since I've been next to it too). As to any other measurements, why, we use the same system you do when you assess us in our bikini photos except instead of zooming on the top portion we focus on the lower half (that should send a bunch of men running to delete those beach photos in their speedos from their profiles) LOL!

 

 

To the OP: some stated reqs. in a profile are there for a reason so...on the other hand - message away, it could work.

 

What about those "angle shots" of selfies that women take from above their heads looking UP at the camera or "side ways" photos from arms length. I tend to pass by profiles of they have the same 7 pictures of the same versions of those kinds of selfies.

[salparadise]

Ah yes. The well known, rich and historic culture of those 'white/caucasians' I want blue eyed, blonde haired children like mein fuhrer would have liked it?

 

Well, I think you just flushed your credibility down the shytter, and showed your own racist underpinnings at the same time.

 

I have no idea what race you are, but I am certain that nobody on the planet has an obligation or implied ethical/moral imperative to date (or mix genes with) anyone else, because of race or any reason. If you feel discriminated against that's entirely your issue. You calling caucasians nazis, or implying that they are somehow obliged to procreate with your ass to prove they are not, says a lot more about you than it does about anyone else. Racism is not a one-way street, is it?

[ponchsox]

She wants to bang a bad boy alpha male that will treat her like garbage. She wants to marry a beta with a fat wallet that she can bear crotch fruit with, divorce him for child support, and get subsidized by the government.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Well, I think you just flushed your credibility down the shytter, and showed your own racist underpinnings at the same time.

 

I have no idea what race you are, but I am certain that nobody on the planet has an obligation or implied ethical/moral imperative to date (or mix genes with) anyone else, because of race or any reason. If you feel discriminated against that's entirely your issue. You calling caucasians nazis, or implying that they are somehow obliged to procreate with your ass to prove they are not, says a lot more about you than it does about anyone else. Racism is not a one-way street, is it?

 

It was a joke. Relax. If you don't like it, I apologize.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Well please keep in mind that race is part of a person's appearance (a rather significant part). It doesn't mean that the person is some hateful racist or something, anymore than someone who won't date obese partners is hateful or judging. They just can't help it if they are not attracted to obese partners. And generally people are chill about that, especially because we know there are plenty of people who prefer obese partners, let alone are cool with it. So we know that nobody is getting like, ostracized from intimacy or anything.

 

I don't think I would agree with that.

 

Lots of people are getting ostracized from intimacy.

 

That's kind of the point of this thread. Anyway, it is what it is.

 

I only commented on the sheer number that screen for race and it is by far the vast majority. I do understand that it has to do with looks. But hey, it is what it is.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Simply not true! I don't screen for race. I'm open to all races and ethnicities.

 

Yes, Pho, but that proves nothing as you are in the vast minority of how people think in almost every way.

 

And it's pretty consistent.

 

I certainly meant that in a good way.

[Shining One]

However I think it is tacky to specify it in a profile. I never did when I used an online dating site. Racism is still a very touchy, sensitive topic for many, and even though I have every right to my preferences and shouldn't be shamed or demonized for them, I am also still.. I guess empathetic? Enough to just not respond to messages from other races rather than letting it be known why I didn't respond. It's not a thing where it's in any way necessary to risk hurting someone's feelings.

 

But then I feel that way about a lot of stuff. I never put physical requirements in my profile. If I couldn't find someone attractive, I just kept it to myself entirely.

 

I think including race in requirements is not an evil or hateful thing or whatever. If you understand that race doesn't determined personality, intelligence, etc then you understand that it's simply a matter of raw attraction and nothing more. But a list of requirements in itself rubs me the wrong way - which frankly someone else could argue that there's nothing 'wrong' with that, either.

 

Sorry for the ramble, anyway. I've just never accepted people trying to tell me (not you personally here, just generally speaking) that it's somehow wrong of me to only be attracted to my own race. It's not. But again, given where we are at with racism and history, I wouldn't specify it in a profile. Narrowing down my inbox is just not worth accidentally triggering someone.

From my point of view, this is far worse than specifying your preferences in your profile. Instead of spending all of five seconds to find out we're not compatible, I would have spent much longer reading your profile, looking through pictures, and writing you a message. I would much rather have spent that time looking at other profiles of women who might actually be interested.

 

 

I'm rather surprised that Match doesn't provide search functionality for this. I would love to just search for women interested in dating my race.