Author unspokenlove Posted December 9, 2014 Author Posted December 9, 2014 I'll tell you exactly what is happening here...she is trying to give the illusion that she is happy and in a great relationship. That is all it is, an illusion. People who spend a lot of time trying to pretend that they made the right choice and that they are happier...when in reality they are most likely doubting what they have done (this normally happens if you go NC). However, if you stuck around and begged, it'll just re-assure her that she is "right" and that you are "weak" and "unable to find anyone else". Who wants to be with a guy like that? You have gone way above the call of duty for a girl who left you. Why would you sell personal possessions and go over the top for someone left you / is with someone else? It makes zero sense. Yeah you two had a good time...it was so easy for her because she feels like she has you anytime she snaps her finger and you'll go running to her (huge turn off btw). So now what? Now all you can do is realize that your situation is most likely over with her forever. There is no going back. She can flaunt her new guy all she wants online and try to convince people around her that she is "super happy". NOW YOU are going to go NC. You are going to show the biggest sign of strength and indifference by sticking to NC and not responding to anything she has to say. It's time to do things for you man...she doesn't deserve your time, money or energy anymore. Yeah I realized its an illusion to make herself feel better. I only sold them, because they are video games that I didn't play much, and my nintendo 3ds xl that i didn't use really, and I only did it cause i didn't have enough to visit at the time, and we weren't doing well than and needed to see each other to help things and work them out in person, it completely changed our relationship and me visiting made us a lot better. Yeah i'm burning all the things she wrote me, and all the poems I've written about her today.
irresolute Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 She might be doing it on purpose or might not. Maybe the new guy has an account there and she likes to share things with him... Who knows?? And things you've done, they're done. The end. We give and receive in a relationship so stop thinking of all the things you've done for her. Next time think twice or just forget about it. It sound harsh but there is no point in your reasoning. Done is done. I'm really sorry you're hurting but the best thing right now is to stop looking her page and move on.
movingonnow1 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I'll tell you exactly what is happening here...she is trying to give the illusion that she is happy and in a great relationship. That is all it is, an illusion. People who spend a lot of time trying to pretend that they made the right choice and that they are happier...when in reality they are most likely doubting what they have done (this normally happens if you go NC). However, if you stuck around and begged, it'll just re-assure her that she is "right" and that you are "weak" and "unable to find anyone else". Who wants to be with a guy like that? You have gone way above the call of duty for a girl who left you. Why would you sell personal possessions and go over the top for someone left you / is with someone else? It makes zero sense. Yeah you two had a good time...it was so easy for her because she feels like she has you anytime she snaps her finger and you'll go running to her (huge turn off btw). So now what? Now all you can do is realize that your situation is most likely over with her forever. There is no going back. She can flaunt her new guy all she wants online and try to convince people around her that she is "super happy". NOW YOU are going to go NC. You are going to show the biggest sign of strength and indifference by sticking to NC and not responding to anything she has to say. It's time to do things for you man...she doesn't deserve your time, money or energy anymore. I agree with this. I've gone through it and lots of others on here have too. Its a lesson you're going to learn but I'm glad you are realizing your mistakes and that you are better than this.
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