lizzyloo95 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 (edited) I was seeing this guy, off and on for about 6 months. When we started dating, he was the image of the perfect boyfriend. Spent all of his free time with me, loved my kid (after a few months told me he wanted to try for one), told all of his buddies and family that he had finally found "the one". We lived together off and on and he liked to surprise me with little gifts. We had our problems after a while, mostly dealing with jealousy from from both sides. His caused by my best friend being someone I'd had a fling with (we'll call him Justin) we'd known eachother for years and just never had any serious feelings. Mine stemming from the fact that he'd changed his lock code after me finding nude pics from a "friend" on his phone. We had always seemed to work through it. He gradually became more distant until one day we had planned a trip to Cali so I could meet his best friend, and I stopped hearing from him. Of course I got worried, he NEVER ignored my texts. I got ahold of his mom to find out that he was already in California. I called, I texted, and after hearing nothing, I sent him a break up text. To which I got a response. "Really?" And that was it. He had a new girlfriend the same night. After he came back from Cali, I started getting texts about her just being a rebound and that he still had feelings for me. I took my son to his sister's birthday party and he begged me to be his again. "It took me losing you to realize that there's nobody on earth that means as much to me." He wrote me poetry, he spoiled me and just generally gave it his all. I ended up moving further away, but he only tried harder. He wanted to work out all of our problems, he called constantly and left cute voicemails. Things had never been so good. Well, my friend Justin decided to fly in and surprise me on Thanksgiving. My boyfriend was extremely distant, if I didn't text him first, we wouldn't talk for days. He finally broke up with me saying he couldn't take the thoughts of me being here with someone else. I tried to sooth his worries, but his mind was stuck on it. I gave him a day to think it over, and he decided he had made the decision impulsively. Well, this time around, he never said "I love you". He only texted one word replies, and he refused t update his fb relationship status again. I tried to ask him what was up and he just broke it off again. Well, I gave it a few days and he told me "I really do love you, I love you to dog dead heaven, I'm sorry I've hurt you so much and I don't want to hurt you anymore." And "I think I need to be alone, I'm not meant to be in a relationship. " Well l, there's a new gf on his Facebook and yet, when we do talk it's always "I love you, but I don't think we can work it out." I'm so lost. I really fell hard for this guy. He made me think we had a future together. Why, only a month ago, was I good enough for him to send pictures of engagement rings to, but now whatever "problems" we have can't be resolved. I'm just left with a feeling of being not worth it. So easily replaced. . Edited December 6, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
StalwartMind Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Sounds like a whole bunch of immature, jealousy and lack of common sense when it comes to communicating, as well as respecting your partner. Unless you had some special kind of arrangement, in regards to the nude pictures you found on his phone of his friend, then that is something that most people would have a hard time dealing with. By the sounds of it, it doesn't seem like you anything of the sort. Nothing wrong with falling for anyone whom manages to attract you, we all have different likes and dislikes. It can be a daunting task to try talk sense into a mind that wants to see none. That coupled with the ability to change opinion/behavior of someone screams greatly of insecurity and just general unsureness of what one really wants. While this perhaps is not the most dramatic example of all stories, it's still an important story to yo, because it's yours. We do indeed live in a materialistic world where things are easily disposed of and replaced and that mentality often transfers over into relationships too. Why spend time working on something that doesn't just fulfill all our needs and requirements when there is the chance of something else out there whom can give us all we want. 1
Sweetescape910 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 He seems immature and he doesn't know what he wants. The fact if you didn't text him first, he wouldn't text you is beyond immature. You didn't give him the upper hand by communicating with him. Were only human. You didn't beg for him back. He is a VERY clear example why actions prove words mean nothing. I'm very sorry. I feel exactly how you feel, unworthy. If you could read and respond to my last thread, you'd see why. Anyways, I'm sorry this happened.
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