smg15 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I was watching this youtube video and this guy was saying when you go on a first date make sure you are sitting next to each other or on the side of each other. Don't sit directly in front of each other because it increases the chances of things becoming arkward when you have a quiet moment. So at least if you have a quiet moment while sitting next to each other it won't be as arkward because you are not facing each other Has anyone already been doing this?
PegNosePete Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Opposite is too much like an interview and there's zero chance of contact. Next to each other is too close for a first date and you can't make eye contact without getting a cranky neck. At 90 degrees is the way to go... 2
Chemist Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I was watching this youtube video and this guy was saying when you go on a first date make sure you are sitting next to each other or on the side of each other. Don't sit directly in front of each other because it increases the chances of things becoming arkward when you have a quiet moment. So at least if you have a quiet moment while sitting next to each other it won't be as arkward because you are not facing each other Has anyone already been doing this? Man, this just some superstition. I prefer to sit in a spot where I can look her dead in the eyes. 90 degs is perfect though, because you can make eye contact and physical contact pretty easy so you're not trying to reach across the table to touch her arm. When I cook dinner for girls, always have my table set so we are sitting adjacent. Side by side is strange because you have no intimate eye contact. Though, across from each other has been just fine for me. A thinner table is nice so you can still make contact.
Chemist Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 lol Pete, we both got the same ideas I think. I just tolerate opposite a little bit more. There is more chances for touching than just at dinner or whatever. Walking her out, touch her on the back, lead her a little that way through doors. Arm around her when walking, etc...
clia Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I was watching this youtube video and this guy was saying when you go on a first date make sure you are sitting next to each other or on the side of each other. Don't sit directly in front of each other because it increases the chances of things becoming arkward when you have a quiet moment. So at least if you have a quiet moment while sitting next to each other it won't be as arkward because you are not facing each other Has anyone already been doing this? I can kind of see why this might make things less awkward, but the problem is arranging it. It's easy to pull off if you are sitting on a park bench, at the movies, at a bar, etc., but if I went out to lunch or dinner with a guy on a first date and he sat on the same side of the table as me rather than across from or adjacent to me I would think he was a huge weirdo.
Author smg15 Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 I can kind of see why this might make things less awkward, but the problem is arranging it. It's easy to pull off if you are sitting on a park bench, at the movies, at a bar, etc., but if I went out to lunch or dinner with a guy on a first date and he sat on the same side of the table as me rather than across from or adjacent to me I would think he was a huge weirdo. Adjacent seems better than sitting next to you. And I did sit next to a girl in the park and it was kind of weird because we were mainly people watching
Redhead14 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 It doesn't make sense. It's one of those little things that are about overthinking and self-consciousness even before the date starts. You sit according to where you are for the date. If you're at a table, you sit across from each other, if you're at the bar, you sit next to each other. And, in this case, if they both like each other enough already and are enjoying themselves, they will like turn to face each other on the stools anyway. As for awkward moments, if they are two mature adults, they will deal with those moments and realize that that sometimes happens and will get over and through it when it happens. A man who doesn't look me in the eyes at least occasionally makes me a little uneasy anyway. It should be balanced and not overbearing.
Frank2thepoint Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 If the venue allows, then sit perpendicular to each other (that's 90 degree angle). It is the best way to have an intimate date, and not be on top of each other such as sitting adjacent to each other (like on a park bench). Unfortunately not all restaurants give this option, or if they do, those seats are taken. If you do happen to sit across from each other, lean in a bit, look the woman in the eye, and smile. Try to make her at ease, so she can get her hands up on the table. Once that happens, maneuver your hands to her so you can touch in someway. My last date had talked about her "monkey hands" meaning she thought they were bigger than a normal woman's. She had her hand on top of the table and I grabbed them and we compared hand size. This gave me an opportunity to interlock hands, and stroke them a bit too. I also had a date with a woman that I sat perpendicular to her, but unfortunately she was very guarded, and didn't like any type of physical contact. It's a hit or miss.
Abaddon Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I agree with everyone else. 90 degrees is the way to do it. That may have been what the tip was meaning if they were talking about a table. next too each other in a booth is too close for a first date.
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