Why do ladies like to cancel a date just before a date or during a date?

[smg15]

That is a good sign but lets call it "the intentions of not letting a date happen." That may be her intentions but I found a disposition to take that has a decent success rate of turning things around. As I mentioned, a lot of these women are on the fence about the guy and I think how the guys handle the potential cancellation is key.

 

And Im not meeting any girl again whose phone conversation was awful

[todreaminblue]

if a guy doesnt have good communication skills before a date then i am likely to cancel if they dont confirm or get back to me asking for confirmation....to me it shows lack of interest and thoughtlessness and i will not turn up and sit there waiting for a no show....i dislike guys who waste my time....i would prefer a confirmation by phone or even a quick text...its nto too much to ask....i dont enjoy cancelling dates at all....when i agree to a date i am normally enthusiastic about going on that date.......enjoying one on one time with a guy i am interested in getting to know...i dont need a guy to date who isnt enthusiastic about me....and if a guy gets aggressive about me going on that date...ill cancel..............deb

[Jules Dash]

And Im not meeting any girl again whose phone conversation was awful

 

 

And you shouldn't. You should only date women you enjoy.

[smg15]

And you shouldn't. You should only date women you enjoy.

 

I know, I have a habit of getting caught up in looks and made the dumb decision of meeting someone who did not have a good phone conversation

[JohnnyRico]

if a guy doesnt have good communication skills before a date then i am likely to cancel if they dont confirm or get back to me asking for confirmation....to me it shows lack of interest and thoughtlessness and i will not turn up and sit there waiting for a no show....i dislike guys who waste my time....i would prefer a confirmation by phone or even a quick text...its nto too much to ask....i dont enjoy cancelling dates at all....when i agree to a date i am normally enthusiastic about going on that date.......enjoying one on one time with a guy i am interested in getting to know...i dont need a guy to date who isnt enthusiastic about me....and if a guy gets aggressive about me going on that date...ill cancel..............deb

 

Maybe you shouldn't schedule dates with guys until you are sure you want to go on a date with them then?

 

Its kind of funny that you say you dislike guys who waste your time and then actively waste guy's time.

[phineas]

The women who do this are either:

 

1. On the fence about you

2. Have difficulty rejecting men

 

Usually, the intention is to really go through with the date despite either case but at the last minute, they realize that they just don't want to go through with it and they make their decision.

 

I found out that there is actually a good chance of turning the cancellations around when you get them. Matter of fact, a woman I am dating now cancelled on me at the last minute through text an hour before our 3rd date. Three months later, she is hinting around about us being in a relationship now. Despite her trying to cancel on me at the last second months ago, she is turning out to be a nice, pleasant, and compassionate person so don't let the cancellation define who they are. Some people just are uncomfortable with delivering rejection.

 

you need to explain how you went from cancelled 3rd date to almost relationship and I believe OP is talking first dates so your situation is different anyways.

 

if a woman cancels a first date & doesn't try to reschedule then she isn't interested and there isn't much you can do about it.

[HazyCosmicJive]

Hi all,

Why do ladies like to cancel a date just before a date or during a date? I have encountered 2 ladies who did this.

 

Because women are nuts!

[angel.eyes]

On the bright side, your dates cancelled rather than standing you up.

[smg15]

On the bright side, your dates cancelled rather than standing you up.

 

yeah that was always a good way of looking at it lol

[Jules Dash]

you need to explain how you went from cancelled 3rd date to almost relationship and I believe OP is talking first dates so your situation is different anyways.

 

if a woman cancels a first date & doesn't try to reschedule then she isn't interested and there isn't much you can do about it.

 

 

I mostly agree with the latter part here. This is specific such as saying if someone cancels a date and calls you ugly right after cancelling it then obviously you have a weaker chance of turning that around. My stance is from dealing with cancellations in general and,again, those that tend to occur at the last minute. If you observe or think about your previous cancellations, you should notice a difference between the women that cancel on you a day or so in advance vs. the last minute cancellation.

 

In my experience, those that occur at the last minute are usually from those who are on the fence about you. It's as if they are thinking about actually going through with it up until the last moment and they just can't bring themselves to actually go through with it for whatever reason. Sometimes it's due to them getting the feeling that you are a player or you being out of their league or maybe you are #2 or #3 on the list of a few guys.

 

How I went from a 3rd cancelled date to almost in a relationship? Well, since you asked, first, the last 3 women I have recently dated have at least tried to cancel within 3 dates on me and of, of course, quite a few in the pasts. Two of them I am still dating and the other I stopped seeing voluntarily. The two I am still dating are actually moving towards a relationship. I won't go into how I am going to handle this because it is off topic. Either way, when all of them contacted me via text to cancel the date, I initially ignored the text. When they each followed up to see if I got the text or followed up with more apology (I think the silence gets to them), I told them in one way or the other, it was no problem and to take care, implying that they would not hear from me again. This sort of response seems to immediately turns the tables.

 

The woman I initially spoke of, sent me a text 1 hour before our date to cancel. I essentially told her "Ok, have a great night and take care."

After I gave that response, she started asking me if I was available for specific dates to reschedule. We rescheduled and have been dating now for over 3 months and there have not been any more cancelled dates, we get along well, we see each other 1-2 times per week. There are a couple of issues though that I won't go into.

 

I won't go into the other two recent examples because I wrote a post on those a few months back here. In general, my style is to initially ignore the text if they cancel by text and then when they further communicate, I say something implying that I won't ask them out again but I leave it open to interpretation. If they call, I just simply imply that I won't ask them out again but I say it in a way that leaves it open to interpretation such as "ok, I hope you feel better. Take care of yourself."

 

I have been doing it for a while now and I can turn around most cancellations but not all, obviously, a good number of them will fail eventually but others could work out in the long run. It depends on you too. I don't think it matters if it's a first date or not because if your offer for a date is initially accepted, that is usually a good sign and, again, those that tend to cancel at the last minute usually have some level of interest that can be potentially turned from a spark to a flame. The key is to immediately start that flame on the very next date after the attempted cancellation. If you haven't kissed her, you absolutely must kiss her on that date to inflate the attraction. If you kissed during the last date then you have to touch her in some erotic zones after that attempted date cancellations. You can't be intimidated. Ramp it up immediately on the physical side. You don't have to get crazy, just do it in a natural way.