KenrickGaw Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Hi all, Why do ladies like to cancel a date just before a date or during a date? I have encountered 2 ladies who did this.
SoleMate Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Only schedule dates with women who are enthusiastic about dating you and you will have fewer unexplained late cancellations and walkouts.
Chemist Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Only schedule dates with women who are enthusiastic about dating you and you will have fewer unexplained late cancellations and walkouts. No, schedule dates with women who say yes. Not every girl is over the moon right away. But have a serious amount of self respect. If they cancel, I usually tell them too bad, and never contact them again. Unless they contact me first to reschedule, or if I meet them again in person and then I usually see how they are, personally.
PegNosePete Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Just because it happened twice does not mean all women enjoy doing it. In fact I very much doubt anyone actually likes to do this. Why did these 2 do it, is another question indeed. There could be many answers to this. Maybe you said something to them that they didn't like. Maybe they met someone else. Maybe they just decided that you weren't all that great after all. Maybe they were just a gang of giggling school boys baiting you all along. Maybe their prison warden wouldn't let them out for that day. The only people who know the answer, is them... 1
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 They probably really didn't do it because they "liked" it. 1
Redhead14 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Hi all, Why do ladies like to cancel a date just before a date or during a date? I have encountered 2 ladies who did this. LADIES don't do that. They treat their dates with respect even if they aren't having a good time. If you were rude to them or something like that, they should leave. Otherwise, they should enjoy the time with you and respectfully say you and she are not a good match or something to that effect. Cancelling just before the date (unless there is a really good reason) is a sign of immaturity and is disrespectful. Even when I've had second thoughts about a date and felt like cancelling, I will go on the date and make sure he and I enjoy it as much as possible. He time is valuable and he was willing to share it with you. 1
CarrieT Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I have encountered 2 ladies who did this. I've had more than a dozen MEN who did it to me. It is not just women. PEOPLE who are generally thoughtless - or are, perhaps, already in a relationship - change their mind. That is all. 3
Molly Hooper Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Maybe they are timid? I have only been on like... two actual first dates. (I say "first date" in the sense of going on a date with someone I don't know really well or at all and have had minimal interaction with in person) First dates/dating scares me. Awkwardness scares me. I come out of my shell more in group settings, so I have noticed that I often end up dating people I have met through friends in some capacity. Maybe those girls are similar, panic, and cancel. 1
Diezel Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Only schedule dates with women who are enthusiastic about dating you and you will have fewer unexplained late cancellations and walkouts. They are ALL enthusiastic over text. You don't realize how unenthusiastic they are until they flake on you, and yes, I mean men and women.
organizedchaos Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Hi all, Why do ladies like to cancel a date just before a date or during a date? I have encountered 2 ladies who did this. What do you mean by canceling during a date? They just got up and left???
Amalthea Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 It's possible that they are very insecure and afraid of being rejected. That's the first thought that came to my mind. Sometimes when women have been burned in relationship after relationship, they can become very self critical and afraid.
me85 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Why are some people skinny and some people fat?? I mean, there are just those kind of girls out there I guess but I'm not one of them. You're title should read: "Why do SOME ladies like to cancel a date..."
phineas Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Only schedule dates with women who are enthusiastic about dating you and you will have fewer unexplained late cancellations and walkouts. This. You will learn with practice whether a woman is really interested in meeting you. I can usually tell because their communication patterns change a few days before.
Author KenrickGaw Posted December 6, 2014 Author Posted December 6, 2014 They didn't attend the date, 1 said sick and the other 1 said worked overtime.
fred123 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 This. You will learn with practice whether a woman is really interested in meeting you. I can usually tell because their communication patterns change a few days before. elaborate please
Author KenrickGaw Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 Why do their communication suddenly change?
smg15 Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Hi all, Why do ladies like to cancel a date just before a date or during a date? I have encountered 2 ladies who did this. Probably because a better option came in and they want to go with that guy. It has happened to me too But I am not too bothered because It means I save money lol
smg15 Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 They didn't attend the date, 1 said sick and the other 1 said worked overtime. The most popular cancellation excuses are Health reasons Family reasons Job reasons
JohnnyRico Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 (edited) Having this happen twice isn't a big deal. I'd say about half of the women I've arranged to meet in my life have done this lol. I don't tell anyone when I have a date until after the date, because I am aware this could happen and don't want to look stupid. Its frustrating for sure, but you just have to accept it, there is nothing you can do to make them not cancel. All I can recommend is talking to more women and setting up more dates, this way each individual date will have less value to you. As for why, there are a lot of possibilities. Maybe her ex boyfriend got back in touch with her. Maybe she met someone she likes better. Maybe she is too timid/nervous to meet. Maybe she never intended on meeting and just liked the attention. Its best not to think about it as there isn't really a good reason for her to do this and if there was she'd likely be very apologetic and try to set up a new date. Edited December 8, 2014 by JohnnyRico
smg15 Posted December 8, 2014 Posted December 8, 2014 Having this happen twice isn't a big deal. I'd say about half of the women I've arranged to meet in my life have done this lol. I don't tell anyone when I have a date until after the date, because I am aware this could happen and don't want to look stupid. Its frustrating for sure, but you just have to accept it, there is nothing you can do to make them not cancel. All I can recommend is talking to more women and setting up more dates, this way each individual date will have less value to you. As for why, there are a lot of possibilities. Maybe her ex boyfriend got back in touch with her. Maybe she met someone she likes better. Maybe she is too timid/nervous to meet. Maybe she never intended on meeting and just liked the attention. Its best not to think about it as there isn't really a good reason for her to do this and if there was she'd likely be very apologetic and try to set up a new date. Which is why I postponed all dating until mid January. Saving my money right now
phineas Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 elaborate please Sure, women usually respond right away or initiate texting with me just as much as I do with them before a date. But a few days before the date they will stop initiating, respond slower & slower until they ignore me a day before the date. I will of course try to verify the afternoon before the date and they will either give me a lame excuse or just not respond. get used to it. I'd say maybe half my scheduled dates actually happen. Hence why I only schedule during the week. If a date flakes I go work out or whatnot. it's during the week so who cares.
smg15 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 Sure, women usually respond right away or initiate texting with me just as much as I do with them before a date. But a few days before the date they will stop initiating, respond slower & slower until they ignore me a day before the date. I will of course try to verify the afternoon before the date and they will either give me a lame excuse or just not respond. get used to it. I'd say maybe half my scheduled dates actually happen. Hence why I only schedule during the week. If a date flakes I go work out or whatnot. it's during the week so who cares. I will make sure I pay attention to that in the future
Jules Dash Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 The women who do this are either: 1. On the fence about you 2. Have difficulty rejecting men Usually, the intention is to really go through with the date despite either case but at the last minute, they realize that they just don't want to go through with it and they make their decision. I found out that there is actually a good chance of turning the cancellations around when you get them. Matter of fact, a woman I am dating now cancelled on me at the last minute through text an hour before our 3rd date. Three months later, she is hinting around about us being in a relationship now. Despite her trying to cancel on me at the last second months ago, she is turning out to be a nice, pleasant, and compassionate person so don't let the cancellation define who they are. Some people just are uncomfortable with delivering rejection.
smg15 Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 The women who do this are either: 1. On the fence about you 2. Have difficulty rejecting men Usually, the intention is to really go through with the date despite either case but at the last minute, they realize that they just don't want to go through with it and they make their decision. I found out that there is actually a good chance of turning the cancellations around when you get them. Matter of fact, a woman I am dating now cancelled on me at the last minute through text an hour before our 3rd date. Three months later, she is hinting around about us being in a relationship now. Despite her trying to cancel on me at the last second months ago, she is turning out to be a nice, pleasant, and compassionate person so don't let the cancellation define who they are. Some people just are uncomfortable with delivering rejection. If I call someone the night before a date and don't get a answer I instantly know the date is not happening
Jules Dash Posted December 9, 2014 Posted December 9, 2014 If I call someone the night before a date and don't get a answer I instantly know the date is not happening That is a good sign but lets call it "the intentions of not letting a date happen." That may be her intentions but I found a disposition to take that has a decent success rate of turning things around. As I mentioned, a lot of these women are on the fence about the guy and I think how the guys immediately handle the potential cancellations is key.
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