KenrickGaw Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Hi all, I cannot understand why some ladies ignore guys after a while.Then she texts guys and hints us that they are interested.What should guys do when this happens?
BDL Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 i think they do it to test you. if you come across as needy or insecure, then they dump you for good. lots of guys will blow a girl's phone up, so she does this to test if you are like those 99% of guys. what you do? be indifferent and be direct in asking her for a date if you like her. whatever you do, detach yourself from the outcome. be fun and playful with her, not all frustrated like most guys will be. maybe she is bored and likes to tease guys.
EgoJoe Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 When she texts you out of nowhere wait a bit and text, "Hey, lets get some food next weekend."
Author KenrickGaw Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 May i ask how to woo ladies? I have got to know 3 types of ladies lately. 1)2 ladies are almost the same type who hinted me.Then they always let me wait for their messages for a long time or ignore the first message. I dated 1 of them once. 2)This type of lady is always busy,she says she can't meet up but she replies my message always. 3)This type of lady is shy and I dated her once.I will date her again soon. Please advise,many thanks in advance.
Frank2thepoint Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 May i ask how to woo ladies? I have got to know 3 types of ladies lately. 1)2 ladies are almost the same type who hinted me.Then they always let me wait for their messages for a long time or ignore the first message. I dated 1 of them once. 2)This type of lady is always busy,she says she can't meet up but she replies my message always. 3)This type of lady is shy and I dated her once.I will date her again soon. Please advise,many thanks in advance. Welcome to the wonderfully frustrating world of dating. Here is some advice on how to handle the ladies. Two ladies in example 1, stop doing back-and-forth messaging. Stick to the end goal, which is getting them on a date. There is no point in much flirting with them because they take a long time to reply. So when you do hear from them, just say to each "I would like to see to you join me for a date. Let me know when you are available." or something along those lines. Keep it succinct. If they reply back with that they have a busy schedule, just tell each one "When you figure out your schedule, let me know". Lady in example 2, say the same thing I just mentioned above. But I'm assuming she messages you back promptly, so you can flirt with her. Have fun and build rapport, but when the conversation for the day is about to end, throw out the line "I would like to see to you join me for a date. Let me know when you are available." and try to secure a date. If she says she is busy, then naturally your response should be "When you figure out your schedule, let me know". If she messages you back whenever, your initial response should be "Have you figure out when you are available to go out with me? I would really like to see you join me for a date". Lady in example 3, since you are going out with her again, then just flirt with her, have fun, touch her hand to show your interest. 1
Author KenrickGaw Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 Hi all, many thanks. I have 1 last question, how to find the threads that I have posted?I cannot find the function to click.
Redhead14 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Hi all, many thanks. I have 1 last question, how to find the threads that I have posted?I cannot find the function to click. AT the top, right of your screen, click on your screenname next to Welcome, then go to the statistics tab. 1
beautifulinside2 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 She ignored you for a time because she was interested in someone else. She comes back around because that someone else wasn't interested in her. You're the back-up guy. Enjoy. My thoughts "Except" for in my case they were not necessarily the back up guy, I just met them during a time when I was already dating someone and I didn't want to jeapordize that relationship by entertaining someone else. Than after it was over I went back to learn more about the men who I had interest in but was unable to explore at that time. 1
Redhead14 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 My thoughts "Except" for in my case they were not necessarily the back up guy, I just met them during a time when I was already dating someone and I didn't want to jeapordize that relationship by entertaining someone else. Than after it was over I went back to learn more about the men who I had interest in but was unable to explore at that time. This is the scenario that should be occurring. A woman dates several men, hopefully not sleeping with them. She finds someone she truly interested in and focuses her attention as much as possible on that man at some point and usually it's because she's slept with him. That is what she should do out of respect for that possibly budding relationship. However, if that doesn't work out, she shouldn't be contacting a man she met and didn't keep in touch with for a month or what have you. She should start "fresh" so to speak. I wouldn't go "backwards" to a man I passed on a while ago. That's disrespectful. If it's only been a week or so, maybe, and only if he'd been in touch here and there in between.
Author KenrickGaw Posted December 6, 2014 Author Posted December 6, 2014 May I ask how to confirm which lady is sincerely interested?
Molly Hooper Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Attention. Wants attention. Just like when a girl could care less for an ex, but she suddenly cares who he is taking to the prom... she doesn't want you.. but she wants your focus forward and center. 1
Gloria25 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Attention. Wants attention. Just like when a girl could care less for an ex, but she suddenly cares who he is taking to the prom... she doesn't want you.. but she wants your focus forward and center. She ignored you for a time because she was interested in someone else. She comes back around because that someone else wasn't interested in her. You're the back-up guy. Enjoy. Agreed ^^ and agreed ^^... If someone isn't actively trying to get with you...but "pokes" now and then, then you're probably someone they are just playing games with and/or something they come back to when they are bored. Some women get a kick out of playing with guys and/or just want attention.
Dallers Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 She ignored you for a time because she was interested in someone else. She comes back around because that someone else wasn't interested in her. You're the back-up guy. Enjoy. Just been this and yes yes yes. You have two choices in this situation. 1. Be the backup guy and enjoy until you get burned. 2. Walk away. I was number 1 for three months then chose 2. Why? Because I was hiding the fact I liked her and it was eating me up inside. The sense of relief and freedom you get from escaping a situation like this is indescribable. Be the backup guy if you really can but watch as your self-esteem and confidence is gradually degraded and your value lowered way below where it was before. Move on OP do not even entertain her with a response.
Snowman219 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 i think they do it to test you. if you come across as needy or insecure, then they dump you for good. lots of guys will blow a girl's phone up, so she does this to test if you are like those 99% of guys. what you do? be indifferent and be direct in asking her for a date if you like her. whatever you do, detach yourself from the outcome. be fun and playful with her, not all frustrated like most guys will be. maybe she is bored and likes to tease guys. Most guys get frustrated about it because we basically wrote you off already. Don't read into it like you are someone who gets us "hot and bothered". You aren't. People who do this need to get over themselves already. At least that's what I'm doing when they do that. I already told you to go **** off and die once already, and you came back, so I just get really irritated about that. And that's what I think they are doing, just trying to piss me off because they know I have a short fuse.
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