kolleamm Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Interesting...we'll nothing wrong with that. If someone did want to meet me in real life I wouldn't have a problem with it but it would help put me at ease if we had some sort of visual contact before hand just to make sure they are who they say they are. I don't think it would be creepy at all, if you find the person you are video chatting with creepy then it probably wouldn't workout anyway.
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I wonder why being on OLD would have anything to do with wether a woman cared about having a nice conversation or not? It really is there so people can find dates or a long term partner or even a husband or wife! If that is not going to happen it might seem misleading to spend a lot of time talking or maybe they just don't feel like having a conversation with you because it's not clicking that way?
kolleamm Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I wonder why being on OLD would have anything to do with wether a woman cared about having a nice conversation or not? It really is there so people can find dates or a long term partner or even a husband or wife! If that is not going to happen it might seem misleading to spend a lot of time talking or maybe they just don't feel like having a conversation with you because it's not clicking that way? Conversations help one asses whether the other person has a normal personality and is not some sort of psycho, would you just go out with any person you never had a conversation with?
fred123 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 for the girls who do the long distance or dont mind talking to people far wouldnt you prefer to speak or video chat first?
Superman2024 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I feel that's the case of the woman having either better options or buyer's remorse. She felt like she wanted to give you a chance, but thought better of it. At least you got a response from the message. How did she give me a chance if she was never willing to meet? The women online who refuse to pursue things to a reasonable level by meeting are the same ones I continue to see online week after week. They seem to be making unreasonable judgments based on a few online messages and texts, so I don't feel like they are giving me a chance at all. Maybe some are just playing games or are afraid to meet. They must keep thinking someone better will come along, and maybe so, but what if they miss the "one" because they refuse to pursue things very far with prospects like me?
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 How did she give me a chance if she was never willing to meet? The women online who refuse to pursue things to a reasonable level by meeting are the same ones I continue to see online week after week. They seem to be making unreasonable judgments based on a few online messages and texts, so I don't feel like they are giving me a chance at all. Maybe some are just playing games or are afraid to meet. They must keep thinking someone better will come along, and maybe so, but what if they miss the "one" because they refuse to pursue things very far with prospects like me? Because she responded to your message. How else did you start a dialogue with her in the first place? You got past stage 1, you got rejected at stage 2, but at least you made it to stage 2.
ascendotum Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 I always see on here how the very prettiest girls won't be messaged, because men think "don't bother". If a large chunk of men aren't messaging her, there's a good chance that she won't find what she's looking for in the ones that do message. The majority of the guys on here, who are frustrated with dating wont but plenty of guys who do well with women will. A lot of guys that have poor experience with old and feel they have to date down wont bother on past experience, but absolutely a pretty women will get messaged by good looking guys and 'don't give a shyte players'. Its entirely possible a stunner with an accomplished life/career will get less msgs then a cute/pretty woman but she'll still do quite well I'm sure. Some of the posts I read on here about really hot women, going years single because no guy ever shows interest in therm, I just don't believe because I've never seen it IRL, Good looking guy will msg them for dates & fun, and they will msg less attractive women strictly for minimal waiting time nsa fun.
Superman2024 Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Because she responded to your message. How else did you start a dialogue with her in the first place? You got past stage 1, you got rejected at stage 2, but at least you made it to stage 2. Don't get me wrong, it's nice to get a response or a number but I'm tired of it not leading anywhere. I don't consider it giving someone a chance when they don't put in any effort into getting to know the other person. That's what's happening here and they are rejecting prospects before it even goes anywhere. That just doesn't make sense to me.
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Some of the posts I read on here about really hot women, going years single because no guy ever shows interest in therm, This reminds me of a woman I saw on POF who lives in a major metropolitan area that was mid-30's, very accomplished. In the entertainment/media industry. Active in her church, volunteers to help with the church nursery. VERY active in the gym (even has a professionally made gym photo of her working out in spandex, apparently she trains people part-time). VERY much a stunner. The pics of her are mostly very professionally done, nothing slutty about them. Very tasteful pics. Looks like she does pretty well career-wise. She said IN Her profile she hasn't dated any man for the past 5 years and implied that the men she keeps meeting in her area she hasn't seen as decent matches for her. No one in church is good enough for her (at leas tin IRL), she more than likely's been asked out at church functions, social gatherings, etc. I just found it odd that she's never actually dated man in 5 years (or even been on a date in 5 years?) and figured that POF would be a better way to meet men she may be matched up with. There's another woman that I happened to see on Match.com, is a Christian country singer in the local area. Does a lot of charity / volunteer work. I'm friends with someone on Facebook that's a personal friend of hers. Found out from her that she's looking for a man with a pretty fat wallet....of course her friends' like "What woman isn't? LOL" I just find it amazing that attractive, well off women, wind up in almost a state of spinster-hood. I guess they are so overly picky, that they'd be wiling to dateless for years. Usually when I see a very attractive woman online, I just find it odd they turn down so many men in real life.
Rydo Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Active in the church and volunteering/charity work would put me off someone no matter how hot tbh.
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Active in the church and volunteering/charity work would put me off someone no matter how hot tbh. Well, I'm sure different beliefs systems could pose a problem. Not sure why you'd find charity/volunteerism a turn off though.
Rydo Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Well, I'm sure different beliefs systems could pose a problem. Not sure why you'd find charity/volunteerism a turn off though. I prefer to have a social life etc when I'm not working.
kolleamm Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 You better watch out You better not cry You better look out I'm telling you why Online dating is ruining Our lives
Rydo Posted December 7, 2014 Posted December 7, 2014 Lol online dating is brilliant. I'm hardly ever in the house since joining it.
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