Is hooking up with women online without commiting selfish?

[ponchsox]

I'm not taking about one night stands. I'm talking about dating a girl, getting physical, and then bailing before things get serious. I don't want to commit to anything anymore. Is this selfish, or is it becoming the norm? I don't even have time to be in a relationship, not that I'd want to.

[Abaddon]

Telling people you aren't looking for anything serious is the best way to go. Make sure you're heard and understood. Then it's fine.

[Under The Radar]

It's selfish if you aren't up front about it.

 

If the woman is on the same page as you then it's fine.

 

The problem arises when people future fake and use dishonesty to manipulate someone into a physical relationship.

 

...... And in my experience, most women catch feelings for a guy they are routinely having sex with.

 

So, someone is likely to get hurt if intentions are not made very clear from the beginning.

[Abaddon]

 

...... And in my experience, most women catch feelings for a guy they are routinely having sex with.

 

So, someone is likely to get hurt if intentions are not made very clear from the beginning.

 

Yep. Or they think they can "change" the guy. They will be the one to make him suddenly want something serious. So you just have to make sure you're heard loud and clear.

[me85]

It's only considered wrong if you led that person to believe you wanted something serious with them then bailed on them...

[Ebelskiver]

Don't be a dick who leads a woman on. If fact, why don't you use a site that is geared toward sex only? Fetlife, adultfriendfinder, lifestylelounge, etc. That way every one is on the same page from the very beginning.