spiderowl Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 I'm on an online dating site. I've chatted to quite a few guys, some near and some further away. Some guys are sleazy and you can see they are just there to serve their own needs. They don't care what you say but just press ahead with overly personal questions and worse. I block those guys. Sometimes it's not so clear cut though. If you are chatting to a guy, getting to know him a bit and he's not that near but seems nice, he obviously can't meet up as quickly as someone local might, so there is bound to be a longer period of getting to know each other online and on the phone. I find even the most decent guy does tend to wander into dangerous territory sometimes. If a guy who seems nice and genuine lets slip as part of the convo how he'd like to make love to you, is he basically a sleaze or a nice guy getting a bit carried away because he likes you? There seems to be a fine line between expressing romantic and passionate interest and overstepping the mark. Where would you draw this line?
fred123 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 these days i turn the conversational sexual asap. not because i want to but because i feel i have no choice. i did the whole talking to a girl online long distance and i wqs the nice guy asking questions and getting to know them and really listening to what they were saying. i wanted to speak on tje phone and be a gentleman and call. but i realised woman dont want that. they will still go after the bad boy who talks about sex. if i had made the conversation sexual from the beginning she would have either stopped talking to me or recipricated. i ended up being led on and friendzoned. that was too painful for me. i make my interest clear now from the beginning by making or talking sexual
FitChick Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 If he makes you uncomfortable, tell him that you don't like discussing sex with a stranger you've never met.
ponchsox Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 lol, it's not a slip. He clearly wants in your pants and is being nice to do so.
Jules Dash Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Draw the line at the point you feel uncomfortable. There is nothing wrong with liking it or disliking it. It's all about what you want and what you like.
KatZee Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 these days i turn the conversational sexual asap. not because i want to but because i feel i have no choice. i did the whole talking to a girl online long distance and i wqs the nice guy asking questions and getting to know them and really listening to what they were saying. i wanted to speak on tje phone and be a gentleman and call. but i realised woman dont want that. they will still go after the bad boy who talks about sex. How old are you? I have to amend your statement here. Decent, quality, relationship oriented WOMEN want a guy who takes the time to get to know her. To have the conversations. TRASHY, easy, immature, low-quality girls are the ones who talk about sex and hooking up ASAP. that, or they're so insecure that they don't think they have anything to offer but a vagina. Any guy that brought up sex with me asap made me feel disgusting: ie: only out for their own needs, and those guys were immediately dropped and ignored. I had one guy message me and the first couple messages were good, and the third message he starts in about how he loves eating girls and if I like that then im in luck. I was so completely turned off and didn't even respond. He sent me about 5+ more messages after that trying to weasel back in to a convo and I just wanted no part of it.
PegNosePete Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Nice guys need lovin too..... But it's pretty low class to say these things to someone you've never met. My judge of character is, "would James Bond say that?" - and no, he definitely would not.
fred123 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 How old are you? I have to amend your statement here. Decent, quality, relationship oriented WOMEN want a guy who takes the time to get to know her. To have the conversations. TRASHY, easy, immature, low-quality girls are the ones who talk about sex and hooking up ASAP. that, or they're so insecure that they don't think they have anything to offer but a vagina. Any guy that brought up sex with me asap made me feel disgusting: ie: only out for their own needs, and those guys were immediately dropped and ignored. I had one guy message me and the first couple messages were good, and the third message he starts in about how he loves eating girls and if I like that then im in luck. I was so completely turned off and didn't even respond. He sent me about 5+ more messages after that trying to weasel back in to a convo and I just wanted no part of it. im 26. i wasnt being vulgar i meant sexual innuendos and making the conversation sexual. for example "i wish i could kiss you or i want to wake up with you in the morning."if you keep it sexual then theres no way you can be friendzoned or she can turn around after 2 months and say we were only chatting as friends!
Dallers Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Just chilled out after a long day and watched Prometheus. Great movie. 3 hours of my life not wasted on Online Dating. Win. 1
Author spiderowl Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 Nice guys need lovin too..... But it's pretty low class to say these things to someone you've never met. My judge of character is, "would James Bond say that?" - and no, he definitely would not. Lol, he probably would but using innuendo (from what I remember of the films).
Author spiderowl Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 im 26. i wasnt being vulgar i meant sexual innuendos and making the conversation sexual. for example "i wish i could kiss you or i want to wake up with you in the morning."if you keep it sexual then theres no way you can be friendzoned or she can turn around after 2 months and say we were only chatting as friends! Interesting, I've noticed this happening and I can see why a guy might do this, to make sure he can't be seen as seeking friendship only, but it does put people like me off who feel he's just going on looks and couldn't care less about me as a person.
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