iDrumKing Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 So sitting at a red light today a women pulled up right next to me. Taking a glance over I noticed that she had her baby sitting in the back seat. I'd say it was only a few months old. The women had her window rolled down and I really wanted to roll mine down to say something to her. Me usually keeping to myself and the fact that it wasn't an ideal location, I ended up just driving on. I regret not saying something to the women. I started to think to myself. If we, as individuals, notice something obviously wrong going on and we say nothing because we want to "mind we own business", are we just as much fault? There have been so many issues in the past where nobody, including myself, stepped up to address. Opinions?
sm2281 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 It is my opinion to mind you own business. If you wanted to job of telling people stuff about not having their kids in car seats then you should have been a cop. You can report whatever you want, but I am positive she knew she needed a car seat. Maybe the baby sitter dropped the baby off and forgot to leave the carseat with mom and she was on her way to get it? Would you prefer she leave the baby home for that? Or maybe she was on the way to the store to get a new one. Maybe the one she had was stolen along with her stereo and wallet. You never know. If there were no intentions of getting her kids car seat, then she will pay for it one way or another. 1
Gloria25 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I say, if you can do it in a way where you won't be putting yourself in trouble/danger - then go for it. Sad thing is people are losing their civility. I cussed out this woman that almost ran me over cuz she was on her cel - with her kids in the car. She didn't care. All she did was cuss back at me. I also think that people are so self-absorbed now a days that they don't care much for their kids - hence the regular "leaving kids in the car to cook" instances popping up here and there. I have dogs and have never, EVER, left them in the car. Actually, even if I roll down the windows or put on the AC, I still spend my time in the supermarket rushing cuz I'm worried about them. I saw a story about a month ago about a cop who instead of ticketing the mother, he bought them a car seat. That was nice and all, but IMO, you shouldn't be having kids if you can't afford them. Also, you can get car seats and stuff at discount places like Goodwill and all that. 1
littleblackheart Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Or maybe the baby was in fact in a car seat and you didn't see it? Happens all the time with the modern ones, especially if they're the same colour as the seats - they just blend. It's hard to be categorical just by casting a glance through a closed window at the car next to yours while waiting at a red light. There is also the small matter that a baby a few months old can't hold a sitting position in the backseat of car without rolling over, and a seat-belt wouldn't have reached the head. 2
newmoon Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 you mind your own business. the reason is because you don't know the reason behind what you are seeing and perhaps you're not seeing what you think you are. even in clear cases of things where you think you should get involved, why bother? you don't know the reason why something is occurring and it really doesn't aid the situation to involve yourself. i watch those 'what would you do' shows sometimes and i will always be the one who walks away. sorry, but none of y'all are worth it.
Author iDrumKing Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 It is my opinion to mind you own business. If you wanted to job of telling people stuff about not having their kids in car seats then you should have been a cop. You can report whatever you want, but I am positive she knew she needed a car seat. Maybe the baby sitter dropped the baby off and forgot to leave the carseat with mom and she was on her way to get it? Would you prefer she leave the baby home for that? Or maybe she was on the way to the store to get a new one. Maybe the one she had was stolen along with her stereo and wallet. You never know. If there were no intentions of getting her kids car seat, then she will pay for it one way or another. I was talking about the second hand smoke problem lol. She child was safely in a carseat.
Author iDrumKing Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 sorry, but none of y'all are worth it. What do you mean by that?
Author iDrumKing Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 Just to reiterate... the problem that bothered me was NOT the child's seating situation. The baby was safely strapped in a carseat. The issue I witnessed was the act of smoking in a car with a child inside. Poison yourself if you please, but leave the child out of it.
WhatIsLove2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Just to reiterate... the problem that bothered me was NOT the child's seating situation. The baby was safely strapped in a carseat. The issue I witnessed was the act of smoking in a car with a child inside. Poison yourself if you please, but leave the child out of it. I didn't see anything about smoking in your OP...no wonder I was so confused. Anyways, it's not your business. Leave it be. You can't change people. People know smoking is bad and bad for their children, they do it anyways. You saying something isn't going to magically wake them up. 1
Author iDrumKing Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 I didn't see anything about smoking in your OP...no wonder I was so confused. Anyways, it's not your business. Leave it be. You can't change people. People know smoking is bad and bad for their children, they do it anyways. You saying something isn't going to magically wake them up. I must've gotten ahead of myself while typing. Sorry. So the way it is, is the way it will always be? That's unsettling.
newmoon Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 What do you mean by that? that if something was going on with you, or anyone else, i wouldn't step in. mind your own business and get on about your life. you're not perfect and you don't have any rights to tell anybody anything unless you're asked. values that you have are not shared by everyone so move along and don't bother with it. now i'm gonna go have a cigarette and blow smoke right into my baby's face. what can you do about it?
Author iDrumKing Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 that if something was going on with you, or anyone else, i wouldn't step in. mind your own business and get on about your life. you're not perfect and you don't have any rights to tell anybody anything unless you're asked. values that you have are not shared by everyone so move along and don't bother with it. now i'm gonna go have a cigarette and blow smoke right into my baby's face. what can you do about it? Dude you're at like a 10... you need to turn it down a few notches. What's with the attitude?
littleblackheart Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 If it's bothering you to that extent, start with changing your behaviour first; then by all means feel free to put everyone else to task. Incidentally, smoking in the car in the presence of children will be considered a criminal offence in the UK very soon, and is already illegal in some states in the USA and other countries so I guess it's the job of the police to enforce that, depending on where you live.
mercuryshadow Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I can't stand that. I've seen women holding their newborns in their farms whilst smoking, and it boils my blood. at that rate, I wonder if they quit the habit during their pregnancy. As much as I WANT to say something, I don't imagine that what I wish to accomplish will actually happen, so I don't. There's really nothing I can do to change the situation, and my speaking up will likely only spawn anger and argument. In instances where I can do something productive, for instance removing a shopping cart from where a departing shopper has just lodged it next to a parked vehicle or in the middle of a vacant parking spot, I walk over and remove it. Often times the act is witnessed by the offender. Good.
d0nnivain Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 Just to reiterate... the problem that bothered me was NOT the child's seating situation. The baby was safely strapped in a carseat. The issue I witnessed was the act of smoking in a car with a child inside. Poison yourself if you please, but leave the child out of it. While smoking is not ideal, it's her life & her child's life. She is in charge of her child, not you. If you feel this strongly about second hand smoke, lobby your state legislature to enact a law making it illegal. But in the mean time keep your moral judgments to yourself.
M30USA Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 If a divorced dad was caught doing that, he would lose whatever custody he has--no questions asked. I am so damn cautious in this effeminate world about negligence/abuse accusations that I don't even leave my kids in the car in my own driveway for 15 seconds to run and close my garage door. I've literally heard people get CPS called on them for this very thing. The person was fortunately not charged because it was proven that his wife was on the other side of yard and was keeping eye on the kids.
PaperCrane Posted December 5, 2014 Posted December 5, 2014 I'll just leave this here: All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.
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