Screenplay Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 Ill give a nutshell version to spare you guys a long read. Essentially, a month ago me and this woman met online, and for that first month we were sending page-long emails back and forth twice daily, later doing that and calling each other in the evenings. This weekend we actually met for the first time and clicked fairly well, dispelling any fears about meeting people online who turn out to be crazy. It was actually the first date I had gone on in a couple years. Though she has many guy friends who she does things with, she has been giving me fairly strong signals as to the option for something more (We talk quite frankly about fairly romantic things and she tells me often about how I am a high priority to her *At one point she had to visit a pregnant friend, saying that visiting her was "the only thing that would ever take a higher priority than you"*) I have no doubts that if I simply set the gears into action things would get serious. Now heres my predicament. She works in the Airforce and is moving about 2,000 miles away in a little over two months to be stationed in Delaware for 4 years. Shes been in the Airforce for 8 years now, serving 4 years in Texas, 4 years here, and soon to be 4 years in Delaware. Meanwhile, I have just started really growing my roots here (Just started my career barely a month ago) and would be unwilling to move, especially since I'm fairly young (I'm 20, shes 23). Despite the fact that I know if she moves to Delaware any relationship, friend or otherwise, would be severed since I wouldn't want to move and the more I put into this relationship the more it'll hurt, I still feel absolutely drawn to her. I mean, I haven't dated in two years sure, but I have little doubt that I could find someone else in fairly short order and yet its like its totally irrelevant. The only way things wouldnt be broken in such a way would be for her to leave the Airforce; something im not sure would even be an option. At the start of all of this when she told me about her leaving in a couple months I figured "Well, it'll at least be a fun friend to hang out with until then", but now I am already loathing that day and yet want nothing more than to be with her. I mean, my mind is based on logic, and this makes no sense to me. I could find others, shes moving in two months, she isn't coming back and im not moving to her, all of which point to disaster and heartbreak the more I let things progress and yet at the same time its like I dont even care, I just want to cherish the time we have and then hold a small candle of hope that something changes. I apologize for how long this post ended up getting, but does anyone have any input? I'm not even sure if I'm asking a question or not, I just want someone to weigh in with their thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 Enjoy each other for the next two months. Things could change - you just never know what the future brings. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 There have been other posts about situations like this. Jobs disappear. Careers dry up. Layoffs happen. A job will never be faithful to you. Som ehuman smight not be, either, but IMHO your chances can be better with humans. Therefore, if I had a good job but met someone from far away who I thought was wonderful and he wanted to try a go of it, I'd ditch the job. You only go around once and not a lot of people die regretting career choices. They do regret other life choices. You're young yet and won't suffer badly from changing jobs at this stage in your life. If it were me, I'd keep up the correspondence, make a few visits, and then after a year or so, decide. It seems some people can swap gfs or bfs in and out like pinch-hitters. Others of us find special people only once in a very long while. If you're the former, then ditch her because you'll find someone else who'll do soon enough. If you're the latter, you may regret letting her go if you don't at least try. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Screenplay Posted March 21, 2005 Author Share Posted March 21, 2005 Yeah, thats very true, I guess its just all such a new concept to me. I mean, Ive fallen in love before, ive broken up before, thats not new. I just cant help but be amazed at how I know exactly what could happen and its like I just dont care. I know theres a chance it could work, and welcome it fully. In all honestly though someone could tell me right now that my heart will literally be taken out, stomped on, and have me thrown into the gutter for weeks when she leaves, and it wouldnt change a thing. Bah, I hope I make sense. I sure dont feel like it. I mean, your whole life your mind learns to avoid pain; you burn your hand on an oven, you learn that hot ovens = pain and dont do it again. This, I know exactly what pain can be caused depending on the variety of ways things could pan out and yet I'm still fully ready to stick my hand into the fire regardless. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 Well, unfortunately He Who set this whole system up goofed IMHO. If He couldn't make people only fall for people who would fall back, then He should have shut off the pain function when it doesn't happen. However, since He didn't, we're stuck with hiding in a hole and not living or taking chances and understanding that might end up causing us pain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Screenplay Posted March 21, 2005 Author Share Posted March 21, 2005 Well, ive figured out that it is far better of an idea to block off the hole so that you can't hide in it, and rather than take uneasiness in the fact that you can no longer hide youself from the world take solace in the fact that the only way you can get the best view is when you stand tall on the ground above. In any case, I'm glad you both aren't telling me to just cease everything. Even if you did I probably wouldn't, but it's just reasssuring is all. Link to post Share on other sites
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