He sent me a text...

[irresolute]

Ok. I'm disgusted as well. That's a sign something had changed indeed.

[Diezel]

Look at how little effort he put into that once he revealed his fangs.

 

That's how little he thought of you. He thought he could make you crawl back to him after all this time with the lamest text ever.

 

This is the guy you've been pining over for 7 months.

[irresolute]

Look at how little effort he put into that once he revealed his fangs.

 

That's how little he thought of you. He thought he could make you crawl back to him after all this time with the lamest text ever.

 

This is the guy you've been pining over for 7 months.

 

Yes. It makes me want to vomit. It was not enough I blocked him on Facebook, he had to contact me. I think my silence will speak volumes. I'm very sad. What a scumbag.

[me85]

Yes. It makes me want to vomit. It was not enough I blocked him on Facebook, he had to contact me. I think my silence will speak volumes. I'm very sad. What a scumbag.

 

So then why don't you block him on your phone??

[evanescentworld]

So then why don't you block him on your phone??

That can only be a rhetorical question.

[me85]

That can only be a rhetorical question.

 

I mean, I fully understand the egotistical thing...feeling slightly satisfied knowing for certain your ex is thinking of you because they contacted you. But I've had my ex blocked on my phone. He's been blocked from everywhere except my email. Cuz you can't block someone on email. Hell, I even defriended him on playstation network! I'm not changing my email. I'm just not going through the hassle of giving out a new email to numerous businesses and personal contacts of mine. Screw that. lol That would take forever! & I don't have any of my exes contacts saved, not even email addresses of his, so therefore I can't set my email to forward any possible email he sends to a folder so I don't see anything from him when I check my inbox but guess what? I could always just check that secret folder, soooo, I mean that's really a waste of time. Luckily, I don't feel any urge to contact my ex. He wished me well and said take care so hey, that's that.

[evanescentworld]

You can designate their email as trash and have it sent straight to trash or spam.

 

Just don't ever check the folder.

Done.

 

If you google your server/provider and indicate you want to block emails, generally you get a step-by-step process of how to do it.

 

Or do you know all this already....? (I see you do.... )

[me85]

You can designate their email as trash and have it sent straight to trash or spam.

 

Just don't ever check the folder.

Done.

 

If you google your server/provider and indicate you want to block emails, generally you get a step-by-step process of how to do it.

 

Or do you know all this already....? (I see you do.... )

 

I'll look at my preferences again but I don't think there's any way to block an address on the email account I have. & i'll definitely look to see if it's possible to automatically send that address to trash. Never saw that in my attempts to prevent my ex from being able to email me.

 

But like I said, I don't have any of his email addresses saved and I don't have them memorized aaand I've gone through and deleted all his past emails so unless I can type in what address to auto trash I'm SOL. Also, he has several different email accounts...so I just say to hell with racking my brain about trying to prevent him from emailing me. Who cares. I fully trust myself to ignore him at this point if he did send anything.

[irresolute]

I blocked him. Did I make the correct decision?

 

Guys, I'm feeling very sad right now. I mean, I didn't even had the high you're talking about because knowing that he's thinking of me just because he wants to get laid just disgusts me. I'm feeling really sad. I wish he never contacted me. What a scumbag. What an idiot I have been

[me85]

I blocked him. Did I make the correct decision?

 

Guys, I'm feeling very sad right now. I mean, I didn't even had the high you're talking about because knowing that he's thinking of me just because he wants to get laid just disgusts me. I'm feeling really sad. I wish he never contacted me. What a scumbag. What an idiot I have been

 

YES you definitely abso-freaking-lutely 100% made the correct decision! Good, good, good! Happy to hear it.

 

Stick to NC from now on. It always hurts to be treated like nothing. My ex did it to me too. He used me for sex until the girl he cheated on me with then left me for ... until she was ready to commit to him. He always only saw me as a sex object and nothing more. That was all he ever really thought I was good for even when we were in a serious RS. He never ever respected me. EVER. I was **** on, I was stupid too but that was then and it's over. I moved on. You will too. They are real jerks. They will never have the quan. You won't either if you don't get over J.

[irresolute]

Ok. Feel better to know I did right.

What would you think he feels now I rejected and ignored him? I know I shouldn't ask myself those questions, but my only hope is that, at least, he'll feel a little defeated he didn't have what he wanted (sex with me and ego boost).

[me85]

Ok. Feel better to know I did right.

What would you think he feels now I rejected and ignored him? I know I shouldn't ask myself those questions, but my only hope is that, at least, he'll feel a little defeated he didn't have what he wanted (sex with me and ego boost).

 

He feels like, "Well I just lost one of my occasional booty calls." Then he probably texted or called some other poor sad girl who feels just like you do. /=

[irresolute]

Lame. This is the guy I loved for two years. I told him I loved him. We were drama together. I hope he feels worse than that. I hope his self esteem gets a little lower. Omg I hate him so much.

[me85]

Lame. This is the guy I loved for two years. I told him I loved him. We were drama together. I hope he feels worse than that. I hope his self esteem gets a little lower. Omg I hate him so much.

 

It is lame but he's not affected by you ignoring him. If anything he's maybe a little bent out of shape that he doesn't have you wrapped around his mean little finger anymore. But who cares what he feels. This is about you. Not him. You have to remove him from the center of your universe. You should be at the center, not him!

 

My cousin (whom I love) has been involved with this guy for something like 6 years now who in all that time only officially dated her for 3 months. He has strung her along and along and she has just been his puppet. It's so sad! She's missed so many opportunities because her focus has been on a loser who has treated her like **** this whole time. And I really don't think she'll ever see the light and quit talking to him.

 

Don't end up like her.

[Simon Phoenix]

Lame. This is the guy I loved for two years. I told him I loved him. We were drama together. I hope he feels worse than that. I hope his self esteem gets a little lower. Omg I hate him so much.

 

Instead of worrying about his self-esteem, why not work on rebuilding yours? I'm glad you stopped talking to him, but you're still focusing on the wrong things.

[irresolute]

I'm working on that. I really am.

I am happy with myself right now. I set some boundaries, I prioritized myself over the jerk. I only regret those times when I couldn't do this in the past and I put myself in a crappy place, begging for love.

 

I had no high at all, only sadness. Sadness he's still a jerk.

 

Two months no contact and seven months without seeing each other has made me realize I deserve better.

 

You know what? If instead of that silly joke he made about the sex class at his home, he'd invited me for dinner, I'd have accepted, because he never invited me anywhere but his home and that would be a change. He opted to treat me like a slut, which I gave him permission in the past. But I'm not longer the same, and I do hope (Simon, I need to hope about this) that he's learned a lesson. Now he knows he can no longer treat me like a slut. Not anymore.

[lauri]

I'm working on that. I really am.

I am happy with myself right now. I set some boundaries, I prioritized myself over the jerk. I only regret those times when I couldn't do this in the past and I put myself in a crappy place, begging for love.

 

I had no high at all, only sadness. Sadness he's still a jerk.

 

Two months no contact and seven months without seeing each other has made me realize I deserve better.

 

You know what? If instead of that silly joke he made about the sex class at his home, he'd invited me for dinner, I'd have accepted, because he never invited me anywhere but his home and that would be a change. He opted to treat me like a slut, which I gave him permission in the past. But I'm not longer the same, and I do hope (Simon, I need to hope about this) that he's learned a lesson. Now he knows he can no longer treat me like a slut. Not anymore.

 

Your focus is so much on him. Why are you hoping he learned a lesson? So things will change between you two? It almost seems like you're doing this in hope that things will change with him.

 

The simple fact that you have NEVER been taken out for dinner with this guy shows me exactly what type of relationship he had you drawn into. He has manipulated you for such a long time believing what you two had was "real". You need to put your hand up, take responsibility and realize that this is up to you and that you cannot blame anyone else but yourself moving forward with anything regarding your happiness.

 

There is many lessons you need to learn for yourself. I can almost guarantee if you told him that he will never get sex out of you unless you two are officially / dating for a long time, he would back off completely and/or come up with some excuses to still try to manipulate you into bed with him. This guy is not going to respect you, I'm sorry. Plus, you don't want to go back to this situation anyways.

[irresolute]

I sadly know that. I'm still happy with the fact I ignored him. I'm proud of myself I should have done it two years ago. This guy was always crap, since the beginning.

[irresolute]

I'd like to thank you all for your continued support and wise words.

I woke up this morning with the conviction I need to forget about this as.hole for one and forever now.

Yesterday I was regretting he contacted me, today I think it was the best thing he could have done because it made me realize he is not worth any more of my thoughts. A man who do not respect me doesn't deserve anything.

I'm ashamed I acted like a stupid for so long. that's all.

[Simon Phoenix]

I'm working on that. I really am.

I am happy with myself right now. I set some boundaries, I prioritized myself over the jerk. I only regret those times when I couldn't do this in the past and I put myself in a crappy place, begging for love.

 

I had no high at all, only sadness. Sadness he's still a jerk.

 

Two months no contact and seven months without seeing each other has made me realize I deserve better.

 

You know what? If instead of that silly joke he made about the sex class at his home, he'd invited me for dinner, I'd have accepted, because he never invited me anywhere but his home and that would be a change. He opted to treat me like a slut, which I gave him permission in the past. But I'm not longer the same, and I do hope (Simon, I need to hope about this) that he's learned a lesson. Now he knows he can no longer treat me like a slut. Not anymore.

 

No you don't need to hope about that. It's not up to you to teach this guy lessons, because he's not going to learn them. It's up to you to learn lessons and prioritize yourself. You are still putting him on a pedestal in your mind. He doesn't matter, you matter.

[mattsdv1986]

I'm working on that. I really am.

I am happy with myself right now. I set some boundaries, I prioritized myself over the jerk. I only regret those times when I couldn't do this in the past and I put myself in a crappy place, begging for love.

 

I had no high at all, only sadness. Sadness he's still a jerk.

 

Two months no contact and seven months without seeing each other has made me realize I deserve better.

 

You know what? If instead of that silly joke he made about the sex class at his home, he'd invited me for dinner, I'd have accepted, because he never invited me anywhere but his home and that would be a change. He opted to treat me like a slut, which I gave him permission in the past. But I'm not longer the same, and I do hope (Simon, I need to hope about this) that he's learned a lesson. Now he knows he can no longer treat me like a slut. Not anymore.

Hey, I read some of your posts to get some perspective, and I really think you are being way to hard on yourself. First of all, like everyone said so far, this guy is a huge piece of sh*t. Anyone that cares for you and loves you would not do half the crap he has been pulling. The old guy is gone, im sure he loved you and cared about you, but people change and the guy you fell in love with is no longer there. I get you guys have a physical connection, and its hard to get away from that (trust me read my posts about my ex girlfriend and you will get an idea). But anyone, who uses you, plays games and treats you the way he has been treating you, is not worth your time or energy. I know its hard, I get you only think about the good times and not the bad, but think of your ideal relationship and then think about how he only fills 1/100th of that.

 

From your posts and profile picture you seem like a gorgeous girl with a lot to offer and you shouldn't settle for some "bro" that is going to use you. A real man will express his feelings, will spoil you, take you out, show you off and make you feel more important than anything else. I get what you are going through, so if you ever need to talk, let me know and if you need to use this forum - it really helps!

[irresolute]

Hey thanks for your kind words.

I'm doing ok today, just a little sad, still. I woke up this morning and my first thought was "out of all the things, I miss your face the most". His brown eyes...his cute little nose and his smile...

 

I did right ignoring him. I wish he'd be different. I'm so physically attracted to him it scares me. But the way he played me it's just too much to deal with. You guys don't know most of the story because I just cannot write it here, but the things we've done together are way too kinky.we had no limits together. It was a complete disaster. I wish I can forget about all this soon. Do I have to count again from zero? No contact I mean....

[Zahara]

Do I have to count again from zero? No contact I mean....

 

No need to keep counting anymore. Just stay NC and keep moving forward.

[mattsdv1986]

Hey thanks for your kind words.

I'm doing ok today, just a little sad, still. I woke up this morning and my first thought was "out of all the things, I miss your face the most". His brown eyes...his cute little nose and his smile...

 

I did right ignoring him. I wish he'd be different. I'm so physically attracted to him it scares me. But the way he played me it's just too much to deal with. You guys don't know most of the story because I just cannot write it here, but the things we've done together are way too kinky.we had no limits together. It was a complete disaster. I wish I can forget about all this soon. Do I have to count again from zero? No contact I mean....

I'm so physically attracted to him...but the things we've done together are way too kinky

 

Trust me I get it, was the same way with my ex and me. The sex was mind blowing and when you think about your ex, thats really all you think about, more than how crappy they treated you. Its hard holding on to the sexual stuff because you think you'll never find someone as sexually compatible or attractive, same thing I am going through now. But, you really don't know that, you have to put yourself out there. Holding on to it just makes the chances of it happening less likely.

[SoThatHappened]

Look at things this way:

 

- You were missing him and thinking he couldn't care less about you. You were having to deal with that the past few months.

 

- You get a text from him saying he misses you and obviously is using you as a booty-call.

 

- You finally ignore and block him (even though you shouldn't have replied at all, at least you blocked him.)

 

- For all he thinks, you don't care anymore and you're doing kinky things with some other lucky sonnovabeach. Some power is back on your side. Actually, even though you initially replied, I see it as you won.

 

Let him now live with wondering why you blocked and didn't respond. Let all the thoughts of you with another guy be on his mind after you depicted he doesn't have power over you anymore.

 

Now, whether you think so or not, you're probably on a high from this. It will subside and you'll be wondering again (and will probably be a hot mess again). But, you need to use this as a victory and a stepping-stone to move on from him.