Is he playing games with me?

[Badlover]

I've recently started dating a guy friend who has been after me for nearly 7 years, we know a great deal about eachother's past, as well as personality traits. The man in question has a great reputation, tons of friends, great accomplishments, and a squeaky clean background. He was in a terrible, volitile, toxic relationship a few years ago, and hasn't seriously dated since. He told me he's had "friends", but they knew they weren't his girlfriend so he never led them on. He said he could have been in a relationship long ago but he's waiting to find someone who will really appreciate him, respect him, and be a lady. I got out of a terribly abusive relationship earlier this year in which my ex hurt me physically and verbally. I am still pretty traumatized and going through counseling, but he has been there for me emotionally and telling me I deserve much better. He said he was upset with me for giving my last two exes a chance before him, he said he always knew he would treat me the best, I just needed to give him the opportunity.

 

It's been 7 to 8 weeks since we have been dating, and I can definately see us growing closer. It's sort of sneaking up on me without me actually realizing it's happening. Throughout this time I have met his closest friends, his sisters, and he's setting up a time for me to meet his mom because she's dying to meet me. His friends and family are so warm and welcoming I felt like they were my friends, and he has this beautiful picture of us together saved as the background on his phone. We have gone from random conversations a few times a week, to "Good Morning Beautiful" texts every morning, consistent calls during the day, and never falling asleep without saying goodnight to eachother. I tell him how wonderful I think he is all the time and I notice he LOVES it when I stroke his ego, like more than anything.

 

He established that we are not seeing other people, he told me he's serious about me and has goals and plans for our relationship. He said he would like me to be his girlfriend, but he doesn't want to rush things, and he likes how things are going so far. He went down a laundry list of things he loves about me, and I thought it was the sweetest ever. I'm so used to hearing terrible things about everything, I say, do, and feel that it's a little difficult to believe and accept someone likes the things I got constant complaints about. He tells me I'm his beautiful goddess and he thinks I'm smart and amazing and we can build a magnificent future together. He said he doesn't want to let me down, he's not trying to waste either of our time, and he's serious. I really like him, and we recently started sleeping together which is intensifying my emotional attachment to him, and I'm getting scared. I told him about how I was feeling and he's reasuring as ever telling me, "it's okay, take your time". It's almost like I'm on high defense, emotional preservation mode looking for signs and red flags to run away.

 

The first thing that scared me was a guy friend that has a ton of emotional and relationship problems like ALWAYS, and earlier in my friendship he liked me. I was all excited because the guy I'm dating made this sweet post about me on Facebook describing all of the things he likes about me without saying my name. All his friends were liking and commenting nice things, and I posted "She sounds cool", and he tagged me like "Yes you are", and all his friends started adding me. He posted other stuff as well that I didn't comment on, only liked but they were really sweet and directed towards me. One night we went out and a photographer took this gorgeous picture of us and he posted it as well, and the photographer wrote on his wall mentioning us together. My guy friend said the guy looked like a player cause he didn't initially tag me in the posts and claimed "he could have been talking about 10 other girls just like you. He probably likes similar personalities and killed 20 birds with one stone". No other girls responded, but he insisted his posts were written in a way to show off and boost his ego. The guy friend also claimed the guy I'm dating is hideous and I must be blind, and he looks much better than him and doesn't understand why I choose him instead.

 

The very next day the guy I'm dating and I were together and his ex girlfriend's big sister was calling. They had done some MLM thing in the past and he figured that's what she was calling about. He put her on the speakers in his car so I could hear the conversation, but it wasn't what he thought. She was livid he was dating someone new and asked him, "Are you dating that girl you tagged in your status?!" He told her yes, and she was very angry he had moved on from her sister. According to her, he had been sleeping with her back in April or May and they were talking about the possibility of working on their relationship. This is the crazy volitile ex-girlfriend he had been dating while we were friends, and I remember the sobbing phone calls I'd get from him when they'd get into fights. He nicely explained that he and her sister hadn't spoken since May, and he told her that he didn't want to be with her anymore. Apparently the girl didn't tell her sister that because she really liked them together and thought that someday they'd be together again. The argument went on for about 30 minutes, I started feeling uncomfortable and stepped out of the car so they could have privacy.

 

He explained to me afterword that he hasn't spoken to her in like 6 months, they aren't even facebook friends and he didn't realize her sister was still on his page. He asked me how I felt about the whole situation, and that I had nothing to worry about because he was not interested in his ex anymore. Just recently, maybe 3 weeks later, I noticed all posts about me and the picture is off his page, I thought back to what my guy friend said, but it had been up there for a while and he got over 100 likes and comments already. Then today he made this post "Only a ladies man can tell when a waitress or bank teller is flirting or just being nice when regular dudes would be unsure. Get on this ladies man wave". Then in the comments he wrote "There's not one lady in this world I can't get, all I need is time".

 

This pissed me off cause when we first dating, he went bragging to one of our mutual friends like "I've been after her for 7 years! I told you one day she'd come around, I told you I'd get her! I told you I can get any girl!". I subtlely mentioned it and he explained himself that he didn't mean it in a disrespectful way, he just knew we would be good together from the day he first saw me, and he knew if he was persistent, with time I'd see it too. He said when he says he's a "ladie's man" he means he knows how women think because he grew up in a house with a ton of women, he doesn't mean it as in being a player, just mentally in tune with all women. I didn't mention the comment he posted tonight about being a ladies man or being able to get any woman he wants, but it's making me feel like I'm a conquest or an ego boost. I assume he'd respect me and be considerate of my feelings because of our friendship, but posts like these make me wonder. He called me tonight, sweet as ever blowing me kisses, wishing me sweet dreams and making plans for our reoccurring weekend date night, I didn't say anything about the posts.

 

I guess now I'm just wondering if he's getting comfortable since he knows I'm falling for him, although I never verbally expressed this. I was bothered that I'm not officially his girlfriend although he introduces me as his girlfriend to everybody, and if he's playing games with me. I understand we are early in our relationship, but I'm catching feelings for him slowly but strongly and I want to be wise enough to catch red flags before I fall head over heels in love. I told him how I was feeling already and he said it was okay and we can take our time, part of me wants to be official, but the other part of me is scared. If we're official and posting pictures all over the internet, and I introduce him to my family and things don't work out, I'd be so embarrassed. Everyone seems amazing at first, I just need time to figure out if he's all the wonderful things I think he is before he meets my dad or goes on my FB or Insta.

 

I also need to know his temperment and if he'd ever physically hurt me. I've never seen or heard of him having angry outbursts or fighting or hurting anyone, but I'm very scared of making him angry because of what I've gone through with my ex. I'm secretly afraid I'm just a barbie doll to him, everyone thinks he's hideous and I'm too pretty for him but this means nothing to me. When I look at him I see a wonderful person that I admire. I think he's intelligent, classy and the quintessential gentleman, there's nothing bad I'd ever say about him and I personally find him handsome and sophisticated. He's someone I'm proud to be with and to be seen with, but I'm wondering if he's viewing me as some "hot chick" he gets to show off to all his friends like a trophy. Like "Look what I got!", which is why he posted the picture and has it on his phone showing everyone. I know Facebook is a stupid way to guage the progress of relationships, I'm 26 years old and so embarrassed. I just don't like his bragging, and I'm wondering if he's leading me on, especially since we are a little long distance as we live 45 minutes away.

[StalwartMind]

A true gentleman sees no need to brag about conquests or achievements, they should always speak for themselves. If he respected you as a real lady, then he would be humble and not feel the need to express his own ego about being able to get any woman in this world. Yeah buddy, that's not going to happen. Joking or not, it still displays some deeper lying personal traits, more often than not, the ones we are not willing to admit.

 

It's easy to convince someone of your sincere and good intentions, but it's the actions that back them up. Just for the record, I'm not trying to paint him in a bad light here, I'm just pointing out areas where I myself as a man, do no appreciate certain behavior. Your friends and especially one guy friend whom had to point out how hideous he is, and why did you pick him over your friend. That sounds like terrible jealousy combined with a really horrific view on what you should base your partner of choice on. I feel sorry for people that think looks > all, must be such a small limited world to live in. However you are thankfully more wise than that and you actually do appreciate whatever good qualities this man you are dating have.

 

I most certainly understand you are being cautious especially taking your past relationships into consideration. The last thing you want is for another man to suddenly reveal a dark side of himself where he can explode in blood-lust and rage. Typically you'll find out exactly how a person deals with any kind of situation by having witnessed their reactions to each specific event. Everyone is capable of rage, but it's how you choose to handle yourself especially when you are in environments that will challenge you that defines your character.

 

A man, or woman for that matter, whom posses the natural ability to be very calm in any given situation, can often soothe a soul in the greatest of despair. I should know, because of what I've been told by others, and it's always appreciated while also very humbling.

 

I don't see any need to be embarrassed, for the most part I feel you got a pretty healthy mindset to the entire situation. The only unfortunate thing about life is that, we never really truly will know what others think, no matter what they tell us or how they present their intentions. This may be the greatest guy in the world, whom just still have a couple of immature sides, they don't need to be of harmful intentions. Everyone is capable of improving and likewise it's important at times to accept small or big faults of others, especially because we constantly are learning.

 

We've all done or said things we are not proud of, it's very different at what age we start to heavily question things and behavior of others. You've known him for 7 years and while not until recently you've gotten really close, you probably have a pretty good idea of his core personality. Without more time invested in him it's hard to say how he truly is, purely because you haven't been in situations with him that may of been of much challenge yet. I think a good guideline for most healthy things is, if it feels natural and good then things will progress and transition to the next stage. There are of course always examples of where even that can end up going wrong, but in the end life is a big unknown event. This may be intimidating to some but I'm sure you can enjoy the beauty of it too, because if everything was predictable to the end, then well, what is the fun in that.

[Badlover]

A true gentleman sees no need to brag about conquests or achievements, they should always speak for themselves. If he respected you as a real lady, then he would be humble and not feel the need to express his own ego about being able to get any woman in this world. Yeah buddy, that's not going to happen. Joking or not, it still displays some deeper lying personal traits, more often than not, the ones we are not willing to admit.

 

It's easy to convince someone of your sincere and good intentions, but it's the actions that back them up. Just for the record, I'm not trying to paint him in a bad light here, I'm just pointing out areas where I myself as a man, do no appreciate certain behavior. Your friends and especially one guy friend whom had to point out how hideous he is, and why did you pick him over your friend. That sounds like terrible jealousy combined with a really horrific view on what you should base your partner of choice on. I feel sorry for people that think looks > all, must be such a small limited world to live in. However you are thankfully more wise than that and you actually do appreciate whatever good qualities this man you are dating have.

 

I most certainly understand you are being cautious especially taking your past relationships into consideration. The last thing you want is for another man to suddenly reveal a dark side of himself where he can explode in blood-lust and rage. Typically you'll find out exactly how a person deals with any kind of situation by having witnessed their reactions to each specific event. Everyone is capable of rage, but it's how you choose to handle yourself especially when you are in environments that will challenge you that defines your character.

 

A man, or woman for that matter, whom posses the natural ability to be very calm in any given situation, can often soothe a soul in the greatest of despair. I should know, because of what I've been told by others, and it's always appreciated while also very humbling.

 

I don't see any need to be embarrassed, for the most part I feel you got a pretty healthy mindset to the entire situation. The only unfortunate thing about life is that, we never really truly will know what others think, no matter what they tell us or how they present their intentions. This may be the greatest guy in the world, whom just still have a couple of immature sides, they don't need to be of harmful intentions. Everyone is capable of improving and likewise it's important at times to accept small or big faults of others, especially because we constantly are learning.

 

We've all done or said things we are not proud of, it's very different at what age we start to heavily question things and behavior of others. You've known him for 7 years and while not until recently you've gotten really close, you probably have a pretty good idea of his core personality. Without more time invested in him it's hard to say how he truly is, purely because you haven't been in situations with him that may of been of much challenge yet. I think a good guideline for most healthy things is, if it feels natural and good then things will progress and transition to the next stage. There are of course always examples of where even that can end up going wrong, but in the end life is a big unknown event. This may be intimidating to some but I'm sure you can enjoy the beauty of it too, because if everything was predictable to the end, then well, what is the fun in that.

 

I can't thank you enough for your response, especially since my post was so lengthy. Thank you for reassuring that I'm not crazy lol because I invalidate my feelings so much I try to convince myself I'm the problem. In the past few days I've tried to focus on what's actually going on in the current relationship without including trauma from the past and the man in question seems true blue.

 

I understand I'm not completely over the disaster I escaped this May, and need more time to heal and become whole again. This is why I am happy I confessed my fear of emotional attachment last weekend, and got such a positive and supportive response from him. I feel relieved, and like he respects me and my feelings. I'm now at a point where I want to continue building with him emotionally, and developing that trust he honestly did nothing to loose.

 

I feel like my self worth is a greater issue right now, and I'm glad I see it so I can change. I need to focus more on the moment than fears and anxiety because those feelings lead to inappropriate actions and reactions. I think he is a wonderful and genuine person, I always have, I want him to know how much I appreciate him and I know I need to be emotionally healthy to do this.

 

From now on I'm not discussing my relationship with that guy friend or anyone else who is always surrounded by a ton of drama. As many faults as I have, perhaps his Facebook bragging is something I can deal with, I can always deactivate my account since I waste so much time on it anyhow. I understand nobody is perfect, especially me so I am going to try and straighten up and be positive.

Edited December 6, 2014 by Badlover

[elaine567]

You have to be careful.

 

You are ripe for any emotional abuser to pick and you have to consider this man made a play for you, because you are exactly the type of "victim" he wants, you are already "damaged", and he knows you are the type of person to put up with abuse, as you have already been abused.

 

I don't like this, if I am honest.

"Just recently, maybe 3 weeks later, I noticed all posts about me and the picture is off his page, I thought back to what my guy friend said, but it had been up there for a while and he got over 100 likes and comments already. Then today he made this post "Only a ladies man can tell when a waitress or bank teller is flirting or just being nice when regular dudes would be unsure. Get on this ladies man wave". Then in the comments he wrote "There's not one lady in this world I can't get, all I need is time"."

[todreaminblue]

I would also be concerned with a guy who posts that he likes conquests.......facebook shouldnt be an activity that makes you feel queasy or negative about your relationship.....especially if what is written is on your pseudo bfs page.......deb

[newmoon]

personally, i wouldn't date this guy. i had a guy after me for 3+ years and when i *finally* gave in he didn't turn out to be the amazing boyfriend he was alleging he would be. once they capture you it's a different story and they revert to who they really are in a relationship. but the biggest thing here - the problem as i see it - is that he knows your vulnerability (abuse) and that is really never a good thing. although it's nice to lean on friends and get support from people who know you, this could be a case of him knowing too much and exploiting that. if he knows you have taken on much worse, then you'll be willing to put up with what he does, right? because your ex did xyz to you and you put up with it. it seems like too long of a history and w/7 years of pursuit it probably is more of a goal for him and, for you, just someone handy to get you through the past relationship. recognize that you can be treated better, but find someone not familiar with your history for the best chance at relationship success, imo

[elaine567]

Do not be in too much of a hurry to bin your guy friend, he may be "drama", but you may need him and all the other "drama" friends, when this goes all pear shaped.

[Badlover]

You have to be careful.

 

You are ripe for any emotional abuser to pick and you have to consider this man made a play for you, because you are exactly the type of "victim" he wants, you are already "damaged", and he knows you are the type of person to put up with abuse, as you have already been abused.

 

I don't like this, if I am honest.

 

So you don't think I'm just driving myself crazy? This made me so uncomfortable but I convinced myself it was my fault and I was overreacting. I was hoping that since we were friends and he had been so persistent he'd have more respect for me than to hurt me. He always brags about being the perfect gentleman and knowing and respecting women, and that he doesn't treat people badly.

 

He talks a good one, I guess I imagined feeling a lot different with him in my life but I'm just kinda confused. We went from seeing each other twice a week to once a week, we still go on dates every weekend but I thought he'd like to see me more. He's always out with his friends and doing other things now, I realize we live nearly an hour away and his friends are down the street so I figured that's why. The past few weeks I've been spending the night after we go out, but I decided I'm not ready for that yet and I'm not spending nights anymore for now. I can't keep physically investing myself when I really don't feel he's even sure he wants to be with me. Also I'm still not his girlfriend, but we are only seeing each other.

[Badlover]

I would also be concerned with a guy who posts that he likes conquests.......facebook shouldnt be an activity that makes you feel queasy or negative about your relationship.....especially if what is written is on your pseudo bfs page.......deb

 

You're right, he's not even my boyfriend, yet he knows I'm only interested in him and we are sleeping together. This comment is making me wonder if he's not that interested or if he's just stringing me along for all he can get.

[Badlover]

personally, i wouldn't date this guy. i had a guy after me for 3+ years and when i *finally* gave in he didn't turn out to be the amazing boyfriend he was alleging he would be. once they capture you it's a different story and they revert to who they really are in a relationship. but the biggest thing here - the problem as i see it - is that he knows your vulnerability (abuse) and that is really never a good thing. although it's nice to lean on friends and get support from people who know you, this could be a case of him knowing too much and exploiting that. if he knows you have taken on much worse, then you'll be willing to put up with what he does, right? because your ex did xyz to you and you put up with it. it seems like too long of a history and w/7 years of pursuit it probably is more of a goal for him and, for you, just someone handy to get you through the past relationship. recognize that you can be treated better, but find someone not familiar with your history for the best chance at relationship success, imo

 

I'm starting to realize he's not an amazing boyfriend, but I thought that was because it has only been two months. I thought he would have consideration for me as a friend cause he knows my past, but again, maybe he's not who I think he is. It hurts me to think he'd try to exploit me, but the reality is we are talking every day, sleeping together on the only day of the week he can find time for me (as of the past few weeks), he writes about being a womanizer online and we aren't in a relationship. Perhaps I should stop investing? I'm not sure what to do but it doesn't feel right.

[Gloria25]

You have to be careful.

 

You are ripe for any emotional abuser to pick and you have to consider this man made a play for you, because you are exactly the type of "victim" he wants, you are already "damaged", and he knows you are the type of person to put up with abuse, as you have already been abused.

 

I don't like this, if I am honest.

 

Agreed ^^...Some things about ourselves are best kept to ourselves.

 

What I mean is, unless there's something about you and/or your past that would affect your current RL - there's probably no need to tell some guy - especially when you just started dating them. They may see you as someone they can walk all over.

 

Also, while you may have "known" this guy for 7 years. That's not the same as actually "dating". Working, being in the same friend circles, even shacking-up with someone is not the same as dating them - as you are now seeing. You are seeing sides of him you didn't get to see all these 7 years.

 

And lastly, too much, too fast, too soon if you ask me. You are still trying to work on yourself and he just got out of a RL. Instead of both of you taking this time to heal, develop yourselves, learn to thread water on your own - you jump into another RL. And, you had sex. If I'm correct it's only been two months you two have been dating and he's already showing you to family? Two months isn't enough to know anyone. I'd be suspicious of someone who's so quick to shower me with so much attention and wanting to introduce me to family soo soon.

 

I'm not sure if he's "playing" you, but I think this is a case of "too much, too soon".

[elaine567]

I'm starting to realize he's not an amazing boyfriend, but I thought that was because it has only been two months. I thought he would have consideration for me as a friend cause he knows my past, but again, maybe he's not who I think he is. It hurts me to think he'd try to exploit me, but the reality is we are talking every day, sleeping together on the only day of the week he can find time for me (as of the past few weeks), he writes about being a womanizer online and we aren't in a relationship. Perhaps I should stop investing? I'm not sure what to do but it doesn't feel right.

Trust your gut instinct if it doesn't feel right it probably isn't right.

Sounds like he is a player, he has you on tap when he feels like it.

Two days a week going down to one day and bragging to his mates he can get any woman he wants...

[preraph]

I'm worried about a couple of things. First of all, you didn't like him that way the first seven years. Now, I'm taking that with a grain of salt since something about you is attracting abusers, so I'm setting that aside. But normally, first instincts are correct on that.

 

The other two things I'm considering is how quick he is to parade you to his parents and him bragging about being able to get other girls. I'm not even considering his interaction with the sister of the ex in the equation.

 

I think he's a guy who needs the ego boost of chasing and getting the girl and then usually discards them. I think because he had to chase you for 7 years, he may be thinking "maybe she's good enough to marry." Now the problem with this is that that could mean he has a rigid double standard, you know, the "Madonna/whore" syndrome. His wanting a lady comment would support that. The girls he can get, he devalues for being too easy and not picky enough. That says something about his own self-esteem and ego needs -- because they chose him. You rejected him and then he managed the conquest and was ready to introduce you around, etc.

 

At any time during this 7 weeks, did you finally sleep with him? Or are you still holding out? The reason I ask is because he started bragging 3 weeks ago.

[elaine567]

...And your pic is no longer on his FB page.

[todreaminblue]

I'm starting to realize he's not an amazing boyfriend, but I thought that was because it has only been two months. I thought he would have consideration for me as a friend cause he knows my past, but again, maybe he's not who I think he is. It hurts me to think he'd try to exploit me, but the reality is we are talking every day, sleeping together on the only day of the week he can find time for me (as of the past few weeks), he writes about being a womanizer online and we aren't in a relationship. Perhaps I should stop investing? I'm not sure what to do but it doesn't feel right.

 

 

you should stop investing because he is showing he is not invested in you, one thing i know about sharing my past....is i try to be friends with the person first without sex.......i have a traumatic past and just because i have been treated badly in the past doesn't give people license to treat me badly now or in the future.....i am not the same as i was back then...when i first started coming to loveshack my belief was you get the respect you deserve ........i believed i deserved respect...i however didnt believe in being demanding on that i expected people to treat me as i treat them.....this is rather sad actually i have had to change my perspective.....but i now know.....people will give me what i demand to be given in the aspect fo respect...that i actually deserve respect is something they find out in time until they truly know me and all i stand for, i demand they respect me anyway.....i have battled enough to survive not to be treated like crap and or disrespected by anyone......i have been through enough.....

 

i am suggesting that you hold your head up and with total honesty and self respect you tell him....the truth on how you feel...how you feel totally disregarded....and disrespected....and you will not stay to take that on then with a smile .....wish him well.......find a guy who knows how much you are worth past or not......you are a woman to be reckoned with..not out of nastiness or bullish behavior but you knowing your worth....and only accepting a guy who knows your worth too..and....i wish you all the best..hugs to ya...deb

[Badlover]

I'm worried about a couple of things. First of all, you didn't like him that way the first seven years. Now, I'm taking that with a grain of salt since something about you is attracting abusers, so I'm setting that aside. But normally, first instincts are correct on that.

 

The other two things I'm considering is how quick he is to parade you to his parents and him bragging about being able to get other girls. I'm not even considering his interaction with the sister of the ex in the equation.

 

I think he's a guy who needs the ego boost of chasing and getting the girl and then usually discards them. I think because he had to chase you for 7 years, he may be thinking "maybe she's good enough to marry." Now the problem with this is that that could mean he has a rigid double standard, you know, the "Madonna/whore" syndrome. His wanting a lady comment would support that. The girls he can get, he devalues for being too easy and not picky enough. That says something about his own self-esteem and ego needs -- because they chose him. You rejected him and then he managed the conquest and was ready to introduce you around, etc.

 

At any time during this 7 weeks, did you finally sleep with him? Or are you still holding out? The reason I ask is because he started bragging 3 weeks ago.

 

I slept with him about 3 weeks ago, he actually started bragging two months ago as soon as we had our first date. He called a mutual friend and goes "I told you I'd get her! I can get any girl!" now he put up that post a few days ago. I'm still very fragile, and I don't want to be played with. Do you think I should tell him I don't think it's a good idea we keep seeing each other? I'm getting scared again.

[Badlover]

you should stop investing because he is showing he is not invested in you, one thing i know about sharing my past....is i try to be friends with the person first without sex.......i have a traumatic past and just because i have been treated badly in the past doesn't give people license to treat me badly now or in the future.....i am not the same as i was back then...when i first started coming to loveshack my belief was you get the respect you deserve ........i believed i deserved respect...i however didnt believe in being demanding on that i expected people to treat me as i treat them.....this is rather sad actually i have had to change my perspective.....but i now know.....people will give me what i demand to be given in the aspect fo respect...that i actually deserve respect is something they find out in time until they truly know me and all i stand for, i demand they respect me anyway.....i have battled enough to survive not to be treated like crap and or disrespected by anyone......i have been through enough.....

 

i am suggesting that you hold your head up and with total honesty and self respect you tell him....the truth on how you feel...how you feel totally disregarded....and disrespected....and you will not stay to take that on then with a smile .....wish him well.......find a guy who knows how much you are worth past or not......you are a woman to be reckoned with..not out of nastiness or bullish behavior but you knowing your worth....and only accepting a guy who knows your worth too..and....i wish you all the best..hugs to ya...deb

 

You're right, he's not invested in me. Phone calls and texts are easy distractions, so was showing me off to his friends. Maybe he just did those things to try and make me feel special? He actually just called me right now telling me he's going to a quick Christmas party and he shouldn't be there long and he's been home sleeping all day. He mentioned "oh, I'm giving you a call cause I haven't heard from you all day", I haven't contacted him since my good morning text because I've had way too much on my mind.

 

I guess he was hoping I'd suggest hanging out tonight as we spend every Saturday night together, and I end up staying the night. He also mentioned he couldn't wait to see me this weekend earlier this week. I'm thinking about not seeing him tonight, and not bringing up hanging out. I don't want to stay the night at his place and have sex after whatever date he takes me on, I am not comfortable with how things are going at all so I don't want to set myself up for that.

 

Do you think it's a good idea to tell him "I don't think we should continue seeing each other. I'm not comfortable with how things are going?" Its how I'm beginning to feel because he put another "player" post online about how he doesn't "trick his money away to females".

Edited December 6, 2014 by Badlover

[elaine567]

telling me he's going to a quick Christmas party and he shouldn't be there long and he's been home sleeping all day. I guess he was hoping I'd suggest hanging out tonight as we spend every Saturday night together, and I end up staying the night.

 

he put another "player" post online about how he doesn't "trick his money away to females".

 

 

He's a class act...

[Badlover]

He's a class act...

 

Brutal, funny and sad all at the same time lol. I appreciate your support.