Flozfzx Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 Theres a girl at work i want to ask out the only thing is shes so damn busy all the time. I had my chance last week but blew it lol because i was in a rush but she is single bcz when i talked to her she kept saying she does nothing because she has no boyfriend so giving me hints at that moment i was going to ask if she wanted to do something but my phone goes off and its my boss and i had to rush and not keep the conversation going. Now a few months pass and haven't had a chance so i saw her on facebook and requested her she accepted. Ive had no convo on facebook. My question is should i wait for another chance to ask her out or should i just ask her in Facebook and get it over with? 1
greenman77 Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 Asking her through Facebook is probably not a great idea. If you have her number, call her and ask her out instead. 2
prettyinpink1 Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 Maybe I'm old fashioned but I would much rather be asked in person 3
sm2281 Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 Theres a girl at work i want to ask out the only thing is shes so damn busy all the time. I had my chance last week but blew it lol because i was in a rush but she is single bcz when i talked to her she kept saying she does nothing because she has no boyfriend so giving me hints at that moment i was going to ask if she wanted to do something but my phone goes off and its my boss and i had to rush and not keep the conversation going. Now a few months pass and haven't had a chance so i saw her on facebook and requested her she accepted. Ive had no convo on facebook. My question is should i wait for another chance to ask her out or should i just ask her in Facebook and get it over with? ask for her # on face book. Ask for the date over the phone. 1
doeblin Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 I think the OP's point is that he hasn't seen her for a while and it's unlikely that he will run into her in the next few months and he doesn't have her number. If this is the case then I suppose there is no other way than facebook. The only scenario where it's OK to ask her out on FB is when you already know her and there are no other options to reach her. A measure of last resort. But generally it's much better to ask her out in person or by a phone call. OP, if you do use facebook, please clear up your language. Try to write a message that is both casual and precise. Netspeak will give her a bad impression. .
Author Flozfzx Posted December 4, 2014 Author Posted December 4, 2014 I know generally ask for a date in person is the way too go. I do see her but like i said shes always busy or talking to someone or doing something. If i ask her while shes busy ill come off as rude or desperate. The other factor is that I'm 5'7 and shes 5'9 - 5'10 i don't know if that'll bother her. Should i still go for it? Also should i just wait to when i can catch a break and ask her in person? If she says yes thats cool if shes says no then you live and learn.
Molly Hooper Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 Bump any feed back heh I could just open up a conversation with her first and see where things go organically. When guys just ask me out on facebook out of the blue, I tend to ignore it unless it's someone I have in-person contact with regularly... then it's not a big deal. Because you haven't seen her in a bit, I would say to just start engaging in conversation with her and see how she responds. Then, if the conversation is good and fluid, you can suggest you get together for coffee or something - or just give her your number and see if she will give your hers (or she may just text you on her own). Girls get a decent amount of guys making strange or desperate comments on facebook. If you want to make it past the initial filter of creeps, I'd just start chatting with her first. See what she's been up to since you last saw her, etc. Ultimately - the answer (for me) is that it doesn't matter. If I am already slightly interested in a guy (and single), and he asks me out on a FB message, it doesn't matter. If I am not interested in him, I just ignore it.
Molly Hooper Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 The other factor is that I'm 5'7 and shes 5'9 - 5'10 i don't know if that'll bother her. Should i still go for it? Yes. All girls will be different with this though.
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