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As many of you know I went by another name on here on this forum and I just want to apologize for my actions that I did a year ago. I broke up with an abusive ex girlfriend and am finally over her and back to normal. Also, part of my depression was job loss and the fact that I lost my favorite job in the world.

 

I am back now to say that after being addicted to weed for 2 months, getting clean, and only drinking that I am really happy. I have worked on myself this past year and I am finally accepting who I am. I got away from all my friends who used drugs which was another part of my problem and I often went on here to discuss my issues and eventually got myself banned from this forum. Someone lifted the ban and I am greatful they did and I will help others who are experiencing the same issues.

 

A little back story for those who dont remember me: I got into a relationship when I was 22 years old and it was the first one I had ever been in. I experienced lots of good times with my ex like sex, kissing and vacations. Two years went by and I was starting to relieze that she was really abusive. She would hurt me emotionally every night and always made me stay home 24/7 and make me talk to her on the phone. At that time I thought this was normal, but come to find out it wasn't.

 

I had also given her access to all my credit cards and she was spending my money like crazy. She told me to quit my job I loved and switch careers because she wanted to have a family with me. Well I did everything I could to make her happy and more. I never said no and thought that was normal. Last February I finally broke up with her and started making changes.

 

I went to see a counselor for 3-4 months, got addicted to weed for two months, got clean and have stayed clean. I switched back my career to IT which I love and started really working hard on getting my education. I have done no contact with my ex since February 2014 and it feels great. Some of my friends have shown me pics of what shes doing, but I could care less.

 

During this time I had gone on several dates with 7 different woman and thought it wasn't working out with any of them. I also kissed a man and thought I was gay at one point, but found out I was not. I am now back to woman and while not wanting a woman right away, all I want to do is be by myself and find happiness.

 

I want to thank everyone on here for listening to me and talking with me. Sorry if I disobeyed the rules on this forum and you had every right to ban me because before I was an *******. I am just glad I got over all those humps and now I am finally back to normal. I enjoy doing the things I love doing, have more time for family and the friends who are not into drugs. I also have more time to concentrate on my career. I just got a great job making $16 an hour and am going to get my credit card debt down.

 

My credit card debt is 7200 but it is manageable. I stay in when I want and go out when I want. I am really loving life and I know now never to change for any woman ever again. They have to accept me for who I am or we will just be friends. :)

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Sorry dude, your story isn't jogging my memory. But, I'm glad you're making positive changes to your life. Keep going with that. And don't worry about the girls. That will come in time. You're still healing and still trying to come to terms with who you are. In the meanwhile, it's okay to go out on dates as long as you go out with the ONLY expectation of having a good time.

 

 

Enjoy life dude! Travel and have fun!

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Traveling is not what I want to do. I want to drink, binge watch movies and relax all my life while making tons of money and buying up everything in sight! I have a buying addiction, porn addiction, alcohol addiction, and a tv addiction. helllz to the yeah!

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Traveling is not what I want to do. I want to drink, binge watch movies and relax all my life while making tons of money and buying up everything in sight! I have a buying addiction, porn addiction, alcohol addiction, and a tv addiction. helllz to the yeah!

 

Cool story bro.

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always made me stay home 24/7 and make me talk to her on the phone. At that time I thought this was normal, but come to find out it wasn't.

 

Oh, it's normal all right -- in a "descriptive" sense, but not normal in a "normative" sense (just like how being sick is "normal" since everyone gets sick but it's not "normal" because the body is supposed to be healthy!)....

 

Anyway, good for you. I hope to be similarly blessed no later than a year from now myself!

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Oh, it's normal all right -- in a "descriptive" sense, but not normal in a "normative" sense (just like how being sick is "normal" since everyone gets sick but it's not "normal" because the body is supposed to be healthy!)....

 

Anyway, good for you. I hope to be similarly blessed no later than a year from now myself!

 

 

Thanks! I hope you get away from any terrible situation you are in.

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