Thegreatestthing Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 I have this thing going with my friend not sure what's going on between us,I woke up this morning just completely depleted from it and felt like I'd been in some sort of hurricane or something and just thought no I can't deal with this I don't want to talk to him ever again. Even though all we did is basically talk ,nothing dramatic but just being around him I feel like I'm having a meltdown,I feel no ease whatsoever,I can't figure out what I feel about him,I feel like him or me is usually struggling to overpower the other.why is this I'm pretty sure love is not suppose to be like this.
d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 No. The power struggle is dysfunctional. In a good, solid healthy loving relationship, there is no power struggle. Each person spends a great deal of their time empowering the other person not worrying about their own position. It's a calm feeling not one where you feel like you are combating something. You realize when the other person wins you win & you spend more time helping them win while they do the same for you. 2
StalwartMind Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 I'm in much agreement with that love in a healthy relationship does not include power struggles or other similar things. A great partner or friend should make you feel comfortable and at ease. I'm very well aware that some people are fueled heavily by chaotic and turbulent relationships, because I guess it's a huge adrenaline rush to feel things when they are at maximum intensity. Alas being fueled by such volatile emotions typically always result in everyone getting burned.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 4, 2014 Author Posted December 4, 2014 Yes this is not really liveable I feel like I'm going to collapse or something but I've got a hundred stresses too,still it just confounds everything,who can live like this honestly. With my bf everything is so nice so comforting,this is just like being in ten million hurricanes honestly,why.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 Yes this is not really liveable I feel like I'm going to collapse or something but I've got a hundred stresses too,still it just confounds everything,who can live like this honestly. With my bf everything is so nice so comforting,this is just like being in ten million hurricanes honestly,why. OP, I'm confused by your post. You say you have a thing going with a friend, but you also have a boyfriend? Can you clarify - are you currently in a relationship, but also exploring a friend...or?
Author Thegreatestthing Posted December 4, 2014 Author Posted December 4, 2014 Was going to end things with bf yesterday.
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