I hate social media....during breakups.

[EmbeddedCortex]

Especially when the ex makes everything pretty much public; makes it even harder to avoid. I did pretty good for the past 1.5 weeks, but curiosity got the better of me today.

 

And the funny part is that there isn't even anything interesting on there, it's just random pictures of stuff the person is doing. There is nothing to indicate one way or another if they're thinking about you or they're with someone else or they're happy or they're sad.

 

So I have no idea why I even get the urge to check, when it's all ambiguous random stuff anyway. I mean, when I was with her, neither one of us really posted anything about each other on social media, so what am I even trying to find there when I check?

 

But still, just checking makes my chest tight, gives me a headache, and makes me sad, because it naturally makes you think, "oh they're happy and having fun!", when you yourself could just as easily make similar posts despite how heartbroken you are, and no one would be able to guess your inner sadness.

 

I was talking to a good friend of mine about relationships, and I asked him about how his was going. He said it was pretty hard and a lot of drama, but they loved each other. I told him, "but you guys look so happy on facebook!" and he said "well I'm not going to post all the times we fight, or make each other cry...".

 

So I guess the lesson is - avoid the social media as much as possible obviously, even when it's pretty much shoved in your face, but even if you crack and check, don't give it too much weight or thought.

Edited December 3, 2014 by EmbeddedCortex

[Firestarter1069]

Especially when the ex makes everything pretty much public; makes it even harder to avoid. I did pretty good for the past 1.5 weeks, but curiosity got the better of me today.

 

And the funny part is that there isn't even anything interesting on there, it's just random pictures of stuff the person is doing. There is nothing to indicate one way or another if they're thinking about you or they're with someone else or they're happy or they're sad.

 

So I have no idea why I even get the urge to check, when it's all ambiguous random stuff anyway. I mean, when I was with her, neither one of us really posted anything about each other on social media, so what am I even trying to find there when I check?

 

But still, just checking makes my chest tight, gives me a headache, and makes me sad, because it naturally makes you think, "oh they're happy and having fun!", when you yourself could just as easily make similar posts despite how heartbroken you are, and no one would be able to guess your inner sadness.

 

I was talking to a good friend of mine about relationships, and I asked him about how his was going. He said it was pretty hard and a lot of drama, but they loved each other. I told him, "but you guys look so happy on facebook!" and he said "well I'm not going to post all the times we fight, or make each other cry...".

 

So I guess the lesson is - avoid the social media as much as possible obviously, even when it's pretty much shoved in your face, but even if you crack and check, don't give it too much weight or thought.

 

 

This was a HUGE problem for me...HUGE. My ex lives on social media and during the early stages of my recovery I would check social media and always ended up devastated. Her out and about, having fun, seemingly acting like nothing happened, and it seemed like she wanted me to see it. Then I thought about it for a minute after a week or so and decided that's her life, that's how she lives. I'm not going to lie here I text her without thinking rationally about it and her response was you know that's what I do. I told her I know it's just rather early for me. I was going through a rough time also in the beginning as it was the weekend of my mom's birthday. My mom had recently passed. Since then I've been able to let it go. As it stands 2 months later I realized that was the best thing I could have done.