To all guys (and girls) out there - can somebody analyse what he means!

[lucy1822]

Ok so my boyfriend of 2 years has gone on holiday in the same country as me for 2 weeks with his friends.

 

Before he went (3 days ago) he told me that he wanted me to text him every day to tell him what I'd been up to that day, he promised he'd do the same. He also said he loves me so much and he hoped I knew that and that he's going to miss me all the time. Ok so now I text him every day to tell him what I had been up to... He replies the next day like 15 hours later with the smallest text, which I'm grateful for I guess he's busy. But he keeps going on Facebook chat like nearly every hour of the day... So why can't he text me the same amount he's going on Facebook? Or am I just being crazy?

 

I don't know.

 

I called him twice tonight and he didn't answer then I messaged him saying "so who's more important than me then" and he replied with "what the hell, you're annoying me now"

 

So I quickly tried to save the situation and I said "i miss you lots" and he replied with "I miss you too x"

 

He just doesn't seem interested in texting me but who the hell is so important on Facebook? I know you guys will be like Lucy calm the **** down will you.

 

What should I carry on doing - texting him once a day? Or just leaving him for a couple of days and then text him and apologise for not texting because I'd been busy????

 

Last year when he went away I barely ever text him and he was always texting me to say "I miss you" "I wish you were here" HOW do I get that to be the same this time???

 

[Got it]

Did this just get posted the other day???

[Frank2thepoint]

Here is the original <thread>: I need an analysis on my situation - the struggle

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[lucy1822]

Slightly different situation here this time.

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[spiderowl]

He's not making the same effort you are. In my experience, if a guy says 'text me', it means he's not going to bother or he wants to see if I'll 'do the running'. I never text a guy who says that unless it's clear he's making an effort too.

 

Of course he could just be logged onto Facebook automatically when online, but if he hasn't any time to text you and is online, then doesn't sound great.

 

I know what I'd do but I'm a bit trigger happy. I learned the hard way that waiting around for guys is a pointless exercise. If they are interested, they will be in touch.

[evanescentworld]

Slightly different situation here this time.

No, actually, when you compare the two, it's much the same thing.

You're a total mis-match.

You want his undivided attention, he's giving you rationed moments when it suits him.

 

That's exaggerating both sides somewhat, but that's actually it, in a nutshell.

You want more than he's apparently willing to give.

It doesn't make either of you right, or wrong.

It makes your needs and levels of input and commitment, different.

 

So either he needs to up the ante (highly unlikely, if it doesn't come naturally) or you need to ease back on your requirements.

But then again, why should you, if this is what you need from an intended, SO?

 

Sorry hun, but you need to take a step back and re-evaluate this whole thing.

Is this who you see yourself committing a lifetime's devotion to?

More importantly, do you think you'd be happy with a lifetime of what he's willing to input?

 

Er... I don't think so..... really, do you?

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