Eddie007 Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 For the first time in my life I could be classified as the dumper. I've always been the dumpee. It's not easy. I feel terrible. The relationship was only 5 months but I know I hurt a good lady. I didn't intend to hurt her but I was just not ready for a relationship as I thought I was. I'm still carrying the scars of my last long term relationship that ended over a year ago. I'm still not ready to give my heart to another as I'm afraid it could be ripped out again. I'm not sure how to get past this. I know I have to trust again but I'm still not ready. If I can take anything good out of this it's the fact I can now somewhat she things from the point of view of the woman who dumped me 16 months ago. If I feel this bad breaking up with a girl I was with for only 5 months, her dumping me after 4+ years must have been that much worse.
mapofyourhead Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 I was recently a dumper as well. I was kind of forced to the decision and it was the right thing to do but it was difficult and I felt terrible. People who think the dumper feels nothing and that it's easy for us are wrong. Try and look on the positive side of things. You were honest with her, and it was better that you broke up with her sooner rather than later. Take this lesson to heart and spend time working on yourself and getting better before get (seriously) involved with another woman. Grieve, but don't dwell on how you hurt her. Acknowledge it, but also realize you did the right thing by letting her go. Things will get better with time, and eventually you'll learn to trust again and be ready for a relationship.
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