Lack of results on POF

[BarronVonYolo]

Ladies opinions would be good, on my pictures and the write up. Thanks

 

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[taryntan]

You seem immature and like you'd not be a nice person to date. The kind that goes on POF.com to use girls. I wouldn't talk to you because I want to find someone that treats me well.

 

 

Which ironically, this is how 90% of guys on POF are

[Redhead14]

Personally, online dating is a waste of time and energy. The majority of posts here are all about frustration and lack of success. If you have time to spend at a computer combing through hundreds of profiles, you have time to go out a meet people in person. It doesn't matter where you go really, its still a crapshoot, but get out there and talk to people. Clubs, bowling leagues, etc. are good for that. You can't see a person for who they are by reading profiles which are often embellished or lack depth.

[CarrieT]

Yep, I agree.

 

You do not seem like a nice person at all. And not even that fun to be around.

 

The line, "I’m not taking this too seriously" means you won't take any girl seriously so why should she waste her time with you.

 

"I don't play mind games," is a blatant lie when you then say, "If I send you a message that seems strange yet funny, then I’m probably

just bored and ****ing with you."

 

That IS a mind-game, silly! As is: "Until you impress me I will probably treat

you like my bratty little sister."

 

I wouldn't even really want to know you as a friend based on these types of games you seem ready to play.

[BarronVonYolo]

You seem immature and like you'd not be a nice person to date. The kind that goes on POF.com to use girls. I wouldn't talk to you because I want to find someone that treats me well.

 

 

Which ironically, this is how 90% of guys on POF are

 

Give an example of how I come across like that.

[CarrieT]

Give an example of how I come across like that.

 

I gave you enough examples.

[Molly Hooper]

TBH, this is the very first time I have even seen a dating site, so maybe I'm not cool enough for this - but I am just approaching it as a general 20-something female human.

 

You sound like you're trying a little too hard to tell everyone that you're funny and you don't take things too seriously. Because of that, you don't come off as funny/witty as you may very well be and you sound like you'll be flaky or treat girls poorly. If you have to tell someone you're carefree several times, it starts sounding more like you're trying to convince yourself of that.

 

I would weave in some actual interests into your write-up (beyond being funny and living in the now). What are you doing while living in the "now" that makes it one of your favorite things? Because it sounds like you live in the now because you don't want to plan for the future in any way... Which is okay if that's what you want it to sound like.

 

It's okay to have sarcasm or jokes in there, as it is your personality, but girls are probably also looking at your profile to see if you have any commonalities at all - so give them something that they can connect with.

 

But... I've also heard that POF is just a hook up site... so maybe it doesn't really matter what you're interested in beyond the bedroom

[taryntan]

Continuously

living in the "now" and pursuing happiness are my 2 favorite things in this

world --------------> immaturity

 

 

Although you are only 19 so I would expect that.

 

 

I'm extremely positive, and have an optimistic point of view. Don't play mind games....yet you are rude to girls until they "impress you" (meaning you probably expect to be treated like a king when you don't treat your woman like a queen?)

 

 

"sometimes I am a general a hole" and send mean messages to mess with you... That is a red flag for someone being mean. Also see the example above.

[BarronVonYolo]

Yep, I agree.

 

You do not seem like a nice person at all. And not even that fun to be around.

 

The line, "I’m not taking this too seriously" means you won't take any girl seriously so why should she waste her time with you.

 

"I don't play mind games," is a blatant lie when you then say, "If I send you a message that seems strange yet funny, then I’m probably

just bored and ****ing with you."

 

That IS a mind-game, silly! As is: "Until you impress me I will probably treat

you like my bratty little sister."

 

I wouldn't even really want to know you as a friend based on these types of games you seem ready to play.

 

I see, these aren't actually my words.. I copied and pasted what was shown as a good example of a profile description and wanted to see if it was effective.

 

 

I don't want to come across as an overly nice and forgettable, but obviously it's not my intention to come across as some kind of manipulator, it's supposed to stand out and give of a confident and playful vibe.

[Molly Hooper]

 

"I don't play mind games," is a blatant lie when you then say, "If I send you a message that seems strange yet funny, then I’m probably

just bored and ****ing with you."

 

That IS a mind-game, silly! As is: "Until you impress me I will probably treat

you like my bratty little sister."

 

I wouldn't even really want to know you as a friend based on these types of games you seem ready to play.

 

I kinda felt like that with the "depends on how funny your response is" line. It sounds too much like "impress me" - which gives me an "ew" factor.

[Redhead14]

I see, these aren't actually my words.. I copied and pasted what was shown as a good example of a profile description and wanted to see if it was effective.

 

 

I don't want to come across as an overly nice and forgettable, but obviously it's not my intention to come across as some kind of manipulator, it's supposed to stand out and give of a confident and playful vibe.

 

You can't see a person for who they are by reading profiles which are often embellished or lack depth.

[taryntan]

I see, these aren't actually my words.. I copied and pasted what was shown as a good example of a profile description and wanted to see if it was effective.

 

 

I don't want to come across as an overly nice and forgettable, but obviously it's not my intention to come across as some kind of manipulator, it's supposed to stand out and give of a confident and playful vibe.

 

 

You don't seem confident you seem mean and arrogant.

 

 

There is also a middle ground between being an a** and being overly nice. Try to find it.

[Molly Hooper]

"sometimes I am a general a hole" and send mean messages to mess with you... That is a red flag for someone being mean.

 

I didn't read that as he would send mean messages to actually be mean - I read it as immature... like the kid on the school bud who kicks the back of a girls seat because he likes her - only he is 19 so he had to preemptively warn girls that when he does that he actually likes them. lol

[BarronVonYolo]

Okay girls, thanks for the advice. This kind of feedback is what I was looking for.

 

 

And I'm well aware of that taryntan, thanks.

[jcrew11]

hah, why are you holding a baby? Is that your baby cuz that would be what most people think and 19 year old girls don't want to date single dads.

[Molly Hooper]

hah, why are you holding a baby? Is that your baby cuz that would be what most people think and 19 year old girls don't want to date single dads.

 

Lol really? Weirdly that didn't cross my mind at all. I thought it was someone else's baby and he was just using it like a puppy to appeal to women.

[losangelena]

"I’m not taking this too seriously. I don't play mind games, nor do I knock

people down to get them to like me. Until you impress me I will probably treat

you like my bratty little sister.

P.s. If I send you a message that seems strange yet funny, then I’m probably

just bored and ****ing with you. But also maybe I’m interested, it depends on

how funny your reply is."

 

This whole section is problematic. First off, I don't want any guy I'm dating to treat me like a bratty sister. Secondly, I have to impress you? Really? Third, I don't want some guy to message me b/c he's bored. I want it to be genuine, so if you did message me and I read that, I'd write you off for sure. You say you "don't knock ppl down to get them to like you," but the rest of your description kind of suggests otherwise.

 

Revise and then repost! I'm curious to see the changes you make.