Marieclaire Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 (edited) Hey everyone, I need some advice. So I met this lovely man on a night out and we agreed to go out for a drink. We had a great time, chatted for hours, and ended up going back to his. This was 2 weeks ago. Since then, we have been constantly texting (maybe 10 texts a day on average). The conversations are two sided, he asks me questions, I respond and vice versa. I also do not text him again until he has responded to my previous one, and even then I leave it a good few hours or so (about the same amount of time as he left it). Since our first date, we've had a few others - dinner a few days later (he paid), drinks and more drinks. Each time we end up getting together. We get on very well and can chat for hours. So far, we've both kind of mutually suggested the dates. The first one - he suggested, the second (after we agreed we'd both like to see each other again) was me, and the third was a mutual kind of 'what are you up to, let's meet up' kind of date. Last time I saw him, I asked him if he was around that week and he told me he'd get back to me. He later text me and was apologetic he was vague about it. My problem is, although we are constantly texting, he doesn't appear to want to suggest a date off his own back, or at least hasn't, since our first date. I am not going to suggest one to him again- I will leave it in his hands. It's just so confusing. In texts he is so interested in me, my life, my day, but doesn't appear to want to suggest to meet! What do you think? I wonder if I am reading too much into it? We have had 3 dates within 2 weeks so maybe I am expecting too much? I just really like this guy and I don't know how to handle it from here. I'm trying to be easy going and take it as it comes but it's hard! Thank you! Edited December 3, 2014 by Marieclaire Extra info
Redhead14 Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Hey everyone, I need some advice. So I met this lovely man on a night out and we agreed to go out for a drink. We had a great time, chatted for hours, and ended up going back to his. Since then, we have been constantly texting (maybe 10 texts a day on average). The conversations are two sided, he asks me questions, I respond and vice versa. I also do not text him again until he has responded to my previous one, and even then I leave it a good few hours or so (about the same amount of time as he left it). Since our first date, we've had a few others - dinner (he paid), drinks and more drinks. Each time we end up getting together. We get on very well and can chat for hours. So far, we've both kind of mutually suggested the dates. The first one - he suggested, the second (after we agreed we'd both like to see each other again) was me, and the third was a mutual kind of 'what are you up to, let's meet up' kind of date. Last time I saw him, I asked him if he was around that week and he told me he'd get back to me. He later text me and was apologetic he was vague about it. My problem is, although we are constantly texting, he doesn't appear to want to suggest a date off his own back, or at least hasn't, since our first date. I am not going to suggest one to him again- I will leave it in his hands. It's just so confusing. In texts he is so interested in me, my life, my day, but doesn't appear to want to suggest to meet! What do you think? I really like this guy and I don't know how to handle it from here. I'm trying to be easy going and take it as it comes but it's hard! Thank you! Mixed signals are just that and are sometimes about the fact that they are really busy or just on the fence about dating someone. You need to let him have the reins. If you really like him, sit back, but date others. I'd keep my texts with him shorter too. Don't engage texting for very long. Be as busy as you can and let him know. If he realizes that you are not hanging around waiting for him and he really is interested, he'll make time for you. If you push it and he "goes along", you'll always be questioning his motives.
Mrin Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Ya, i wouldn't push it either if only because you'll be second guessing yourself. Maybe make a reference in your text chat about "I'll show you the next time we get together" or something like that. It signals to him that you're down to meet up but doesn't push it. If he's interested, the natural response would be "about that.... how does 7 on Friday sound?"
FitChick Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 If you had sex on the first and every date, the challenge is gone for him and he's probably chasing someone else. Accept it and date others. If he is interested he will contact.
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