amytct Posted March 20, 2005 Posted March 20, 2005 First of all, yes I know I'm stupid and pathetic. I don't know why I can't let go and keep letting this happen to me. My boyfriend finally contacted me on Monday after blowing me off over the weekend and apologized, saying he thought the message I had sent him meant I was busy. Fine. We were supposed to get together this evening at 7, but I guess we're not. Short version: He phoned me at 1 a.m. Saturday morning. I was in a deep sleep and the phone ringing didn't register with me. He called a second time and I was so out of it, I reached for the phone and shut it off. I logged into chat later Saturday and he had tried IMing me. That and the phone call was him wanting to come over for a little hanky panky. Anyway, I e-mailed him yesterday, telling him 7 today was fine, but I just wanted to know if we would be going out or eating in. If the latter, I needed to go grocery shopping. I asked him to let me know. Saturday evening I called his cell phone and he didn't answer. Nothing from him today, so I called his land line and the answering machine picked up. Left a message. That was almost 2 hours ago and I've heard nothing. The only thing I can figure is that he's pissed about me not answering the phone Friday. Isn't that a bit juvenile? Why can't he pick up the phone and talk to me? Thanks for letting me vent yet again. Sigh.
curiousnycgirl Posted March 20, 2005 Posted March 20, 2005 Not to be harsh, but who cares if he's annoyed? His behaviour is childish - if he's annoyed then he should say so and allow you to explain that you were out cold. Why do you keep setting yourself up for this? Because you keep hoping. It takes us a long time to recognize our true value/worth within the context of relationships. I assure you, you deserve way better! At 7 tonight if he shows - do not have dinner ready, or the ingredients for dinner in the house. If he can't call to make plans, you cannot be prepared if he shows. Its very simple. In fact at this point I would make alternate plans - not to be pissy but rather so that you are not left alone getting more and more upset about this situation. Please try to recognize your worth and please have your own life outside this or any relationship - otherwise you will be left sitting there obsessing about why he hasn't called, etc. each and every time! Good luck to you!!!!!!
Author amytct Posted March 20, 2005 Author Posted March 20, 2005 Thanks for the advice. If he shows, I don't have anything here because I just didn't feel like grocery shopping. But truth be told, I don't believe he will show. I went out for a little while just to get out of the apartment and started crying on the drive home, so back here with the shades drawn with tears streaming down my face. In my e-mail, I apologized for missing his calls, told him I was out of it at the time and didn't notice the two missed calls until the next morning. It's now been over 4 hours since I left the message and nothing. This hurts so much.
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