Toodaloo Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Right folks. How do you do it. So far I have messaged 4 people. Just sent 4th as he seems fun if a bit gangling with a big nose... In each I have tried to show that I have read their profile and "talk" about something in it... Message 1. Little finger length Message 2. Kilt Message 3. Dog breed Message 4. Conkers Now in real life I could make an entire conversation amusing, funny and attractive out of any of these subjects... on line I suck at it. Any tips?
gaius Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Just wink at them and let them take it from there. You're making it way too easy for them. =/
Author Toodaloo Posted December 3, 2014 Author Posted December 3, 2014 Just wink at them and let them take it from there. You're making it way too easy for them. =/ Te he he. Really want to play conkers now... Never did work out if putting them in the airing cupboard or soaking them in vinegar worked best I may grow older but I pray that I never grow up...
PegNosePete Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Your subjects sound good - light and funny and obvious you've read their profile. I would just write 3-4 sentences, and ask a simple question that's not a yes/no answer. If they aren't interested then you won't get a reply no matter what you write, so there's no point spending a lot of time on the first message. Your profile and photos are the main attractors on OLD. The message is easy, it simply has to not suck, and start the conversation off. 1
Author Toodaloo Posted December 3, 2014 Author Posted December 3, 2014 Well the fingers one I asked if the stereotype was true... people with long little fingers are supposed to be very much in touch with their emotions and great communicators either vocal or written but rarely both at the same time... They are also supposed to make great lovers but I didn't mention that bit... He viewed my profile but nothing back. The kilt I asked about the tartan as it is similar to a tartan that is in my family. I made a stupid joke about not needing to know if he was being a "true" scot while wearing it... He hasn't even logged in since I sent the message so not expecting anything. The dog breed one was another terrier and I asked if they are as naughty as Jacks. Again not logged on since I sent the message, again not expecting anything. The conkers one well that was just saying that I miss playing conkers and steal small children to keep up my practice. He said he was looking for someone shy which is not me at all so mentioned that and basically ballsed the whole thing up... No idea if anything has happened as not bothered to look as only sent this morning. I am just as pretty as the other women on there but they have their hair down in their pics which I rarely do. Its always up in a chignon or sometimes a pony tail. Which is reflected in my pictures. I have one that shows my boob to waist ratio, which is impressive by anyones standards, but am wearing a rugby top not a low cut "here is my cleavage boys" type top. Many are also drinking glasses of wine. Again something that is rare for me. If and when I do drink it will be a pint of bitter (not lady like I know) or a tot of brandy (and if I am on the brandy I don't sit still long enough to have a picture taken!). In their descriptions the other women also go on about how nice they are and to be honest after reading two profiles I thought yadda yadda yadda, so what have you actually done today to make someone elses day a bit better? It seemed as though the criteria for "nice" was that you smile at people and can be polite, made me feel a bit nauseous to be honest. Well anyone can be polite, but I am a bit more than that and do a lot of charity work both on an official and unofficial basis, many silly crazy things that make others laugh and smile and various bits and bobs. I am a roll up your sleeves get in there and get on with it kind of gal, so I left that smushy stuff out and went more up beat and energetic. After all whats the point in being "nice" if someone has a broken leg? No point in saying "there there" and patting them on the shoulder as that is not going to make it better or be useful is it? If they want to find out how nice I am they can get to know me. I am also trying to go for the chaps who appear to have a bit of gumption about them as I would eat some of these chaps alive within five minutes if their profiles are anything to go by. Perhaps I should be a bit gushy or pretend to be scared of spiders... I have kept all messages short. Just four or five lines. I am just finding it highly amusing that according to some LS members I should be beating all these chaps off with a big stick about now! Instead it looks as though I will have to get a trip wire out and set a trap! Still think it is going to be easier to find someone in real life as I blunder my way through. But you have to give these things a go.
PegNosePete Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 after reading two profiles I thought yadda yadda yadda Yeah, it's definitely like that sometimes. Many people's profiles are so similar and generic and dull and full of cliches. Nothing to stand out form the crowd. Which is why being different is the best policy! Yes seems like your messages are good but you can't please all of the people all of the time. Getting quality replies is not easy for either gender. You just have to send out more, and eventually you will find one who has mutual interest. I am just finding it highly amusing that according to some LS members I should be beating all these chaps off with a big stick According to the guys here, yes. There's some preconception that all women get hundreds of messages - it's simply not true. And even those who do, the vast majority are from totally unsuitable guys who haven't read the profile or just outright asking for sex.
Author Toodaloo Posted December 3, 2014 Author Posted December 3, 2014 Yeah, it's definitely like that sometimes. Many people's profiles are so similar and generic and dull and full of cliches. Nothing to stand out form the crowd. Which is why being different is the best policy! Hope so as long as it gets me chatting to the right men. I am trying not to be biased and be open minded but in all honesty reading the mens profiles is just as bad. Yes seems like your messages are good but you can't please all of the people all of the time. Getting quality replies is not easy for either gender. You just have to send out more, and eventually you will find one who has mutual interest. This should be interesting as I am going out and having a go at anything and everything at the moment. So a tree climbing, ice skating, assault course junky, fruit loop, with a penchant for terriers and getting lost while hiking... Don't know that there are that many around. Oh and absolutely must stop for strangers who are lost or broken down and go about saving the world in their own little way and have no problem with small children with colostomy bags having a go at driving their sports car once a year... Actually that has just reminded me I need to try and get some tractors there next year... Still not sure that I am quite ready for dating but I guess you have to just give it a go at some point. According to the guys here, yes. There's some preconception that all women get hundreds of messages - it's simply not true. And even those who do, the vast majority are from totally unsuitable guys who haven't read the profile or just outright asking for sex. Seems to be the way. Sad thing is that I know if I got one of the lads at work to take some pictures of me in some of my more daring tops then the messages would come flooding. Still same pair of boobs, just don't like showing them off to all and sundry on a regular basis. You never know. The site I am on is more obscure and a paying one so that probably limits traffic considerably as well. I will get my bat ready just in case As above... must stop waffling so much...
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