HD93 Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 So had a surprising text last night. She said that she apologises for the way she has dealt with things, and that she realises that we used to be good friends and she wishes to be friends again. I'm a tad reluctant as I'm still not too happy with her for the way she broke up with me. I really don't understand why now? There's suddenly more pictures of me looking good on Facebook following an event that we both went to last week. We're not going to see each other for 2 months regardless due to being on placement in different places. Should I be her friends again? Why would she want to be friends again, 6 months following the break up? Why now? (That may be impossible to answer)
EmbeddedCortex Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 So had a surprising text last night. She said that she apologises for the way she has dealt with things, and that she realises that we used to be good friends and she wishes to be friends again. I'm a tad reluctant as I'm still not too happy with her for the way she broke up with me. I really don't understand why now? There's suddenly more pictures of me looking good on Facebook following an event that we both went to last week. We're not going to see each other for 2 months regardless due to being on placement in different places. Should I be her friends again? Why would she want to be friends again, 6 months following the break up? Why now? (That may be impossible to answer) It sounds to me like you don't want to be friends with her because you don't feel it's fair. So you already know the answer to your question. And from my perspective, it sounds like she would be getting the friendship comfort, while you get more heartache and pain. Again, you already answered your own question. No, don't be friends, at least not yet.
PegNosePete Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 You're asking what she wants - what do YOU want? What value would this friendship add? How would it enrich your life? No, this kind of friendship is pointless. Worse than pointless, it will reduce your quality of life. That is not what a friendship should be. I would reply to her, "I forgive you for your actions but I don't feel friendship is a good option between us. Things didn't work out, let's just leave it there. Best wishes for the future." 2
mapofyourhead Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 I would not be friends with her at this point. You've expressed reluctance and you're questioning why she wants to be friends. It's already throwing you off. Trying to be her friend right now would bring back a whole lot of emotions and you don't want to go through that. Once you've truly moved on and reached a point of indifference, you could be friends if that's something you still want or care for.
Chi townD Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 The only way we can be friends with our Ex's is if you have absolutely NO romantic feelings for your Ex whatsoever. When you look at her, you feel nothing but indifferent about her. That you could be in a room and your Ex comes in a jams her tongue down some dude's throat and all it does is remind you that you need to pick up some toothpaste. That's when you can start being friends.
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