havocser Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 I gave this guy my phone number and he called me and asked me if I wanted to go on a date. Our date isn't until next week and he sent me flowers today. Like, I totally think the gesture is just wayyyy too cute but I've never had a guy send me such expensive flowers BEFORE the date. I'm now worried he's going to be clingy or get attached too quickly. What do you think? Am I overthinking this?
Frank2thepoint Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Wow, flowers before the first date. That's straight of out of some crappy romantic movie. He is exhibiting clingy behavior, or he is a romantic that lays it on really thick. Too thick for even my style. If you want, just have at least one date with him. If you do, then my suggestion is to be straight with him, tell him it was a cute gesture, but not to get attached so soon, because it's only one date.
PegNosePete Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Yes you are over-thinking it. See how he acts on the date and take it from there. 1
losangelena Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 A man sends you a bouquet of beautiful flowers?! Enjoy it! It may be a sweeping romantic gesture, it may mean he'll end up clingy, but for now, you have no way of knowing. Don't freak out, just wait and see. Weigh this against his other behavior to determine his actual level of interest and emotional need. Also, keep your own emotions in check. Be friendly and receptive, but keep your guard up a little, too—don't get to a point where you're falling for the guy because of his romantic gestures. 1
Redhead14 Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 I would go on the date and see how it goes. I'd thank him for the flowers and simply say that while you enjoyed receiving them, it was not necessary, he had you at hello If he begins to establish a pattern of clinginess, etc. and you do really like him, you may need to establish/explain some of your boundaries.
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 He sent you flowers. That makes him a nice guy who did a nice thing. Flowers are not permanent. He didn't buy you a new car. He's chivalrous. Enjoy it. 2
Darth_Matt Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 (edited) I gave this guy my phone number and he called me and asked me if I wanted to go on a date. Our date isn't until next week and he sent me flowers today. Like, I totally think the gesture is just wayyyy too cute but I've never had a guy send me such expensive flowers BEFORE the date. I'm now worried he's going to be clingy or get attached too quickly. What do you think? Am I overthinking this? My opinion - At this point you're over thinking it. At least wait until the first date is over until you call the guy crazy Also, what the above post just said. Its flowers! Not a new car. 20 years ago that would of been consider normal to do before a first date. It means he's exited to go on date with you. But today...It is unusual to do something like that before a first date. But, he may be an usual and unique type of guy. I find nothing wrong with that. Do you? You can always talk to him. Tell him it was sweet but it made you feel a little off. Edited December 3, 2014 by Darth_Matt
Author havocser Posted December 4, 2014 Author Posted December 4, 2014 Thanks! Maybe I am overthinking it. I'm going to do the first date and take it from there. My whole thing about the flowers is that they're not like a 50 dollar bouquet you pick up from a store, the guy spent a minimum of 300+ on them... They're very expensive flowers.
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