kutek Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 My boyfriend (ex now) are both 19. Two years ago we were together for nine months but ended as we weren't working out and arguing way too much. I ended it, and we did not speak for a good year and a half-ish. Now all this time I knew he was sort of seeing someone even though it was nothing serious. He came back a few months ago and we got on like a house on fire; the love and spark were still there after all that time so we instantly got back together. Now I tried avoiding asking about the girl, I shouldn't have, but I couldn't help it. He ended up telling me he had sex with her and that he didn't really care about her, and dumped her the next day! I was livid, how could he do such a thing? I know we weren't together but I didn't even think of getting THAT intimate with another guy because of my love for him. I didn't even date anyone since him. I just can't understand why, I tried letting it go and forgetting it but I can't (atleast not right now!). What should I do? I don't know if this is normal. We haven't even slept together this time round because I physically feel sick at the thought of him with another girl. He was my first; he only had sex with one girl before me which was drunkenly and then this girl! He still wants to be with me and get married, have a future and so do I ultimately but I just don't know if i can ever let this go completely, knowing he put his dick in another girl!
bachdude Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 My boyfriend (ex now) are both 19. Two years ago we were together for nine months but ended as we weren't working out and arguing way too much. I ended it, and we did not speak for a good year and a half-ish. Now all this time I knew he was sort of seeing someone even though it was nothing serious. He came back a few months ago and we got on like a house on fire; the love and spark were still there after all that time so we instantly got back together. Now I tried avoiding asking about the girl, I shouldn't have, but I couldn't help it. He ended up telling me he had sex with her and that he didn't really care about her, and dumped her the next day! I was livid, how could he do such a thing? I know we weren't together but I didn't even think of getting THAT intimate with another guy because of my love for him. I didn't even date anyone since him. I just can't understand why, I tried letting it go and forgetting it but I can't (atleast not right now!). What should I do? I don't know if this is normal. We haven't even slept together this time round because I physically feel sick at the thought of him with another girl. He was my first; he only had sex with one girl before me which was drunkenly and then this girl! He still wants to be with me and get married, have a future and so do I ultimately but I just don't know if i can ever let this go completely, knowing he put his dick in another girl! I bet it must hurt. However, keep in mind you were not together at that time, and you even broke up with him. So while it may be difficult to deal with, in the end, he wasn't unfaithful to you because you two were not together. There was no way for him to know that you would be back together again. Maybe, even, he was on a rebound, looking for comfort from a broken heart. I don't know. I think it was very honest of him to admit that to you, in fact. Many guys would have lied about it. He must have faith in your relationship and feel very comfortable with you to disclose that. Honesty is a very good quality in a partner. If there is any hope of getting back together, I think you two should have some good talks about it. It may bring you closer together. Piece of advice - I wouldn't accuse him of not being faithful to you or his love, etc. It will not solve anything but cause another argument. It will only drive another wedge between you two. Maybe just tell him how you feel, and take responsibility for your own emotions on this without pointing any fingers. Maybe then he will be your comfort instead of an adversary. I'm quite a bit older than you and in my experience, when you can work through a difficulty or a serious issue together, it brings you closer together, and makes you stronger. Just talk it through, with the mind to work past it, not to be right or prove the other wrong. Just ask each other, how can we get past this? Work on it together. Best of luck!
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