My husband never listens to a word I say.

[adrian77]

I can't deal with this anymore. I'd say 75% of the time he doesn't listen to anything I say. He will even respond to me as if he is listening and then a minute later not even know what he responded to. For example we will be at the grocery store and I will say we don't need eggs and he will respond ok and then 2 minutes later we will pass the eggs and will ask if we need them. We can be driving in the car and I might tell him a story about something that happened (and I keep my stories short unlike him) and after I finish he won't respond or just kind of says huh? and I ask him if he was listening, he says yes so I tell him to repeat what I said and he can't. One night we ordered in dinner and he said he wanted a steak sandwich, I asked him if he wanted fries and he said no. Then when the sandwich didn't have fries, he got mad at me for not ordering them. I told him he said he didn't want any but he just got irritable. At night he never listens to a word I say because he is too busy gaming, reading FB, watching tv, and drinking whiskey. If I call him out for not listening to me he just gets angry and makes an excuse saying he is in the middle of a game or he is reading something. I hate having to even take the effort to talk to him because 9 out of 10 times he isn't listening. It could be something important or maybe there is something interesting on TV I point out but he can't even look away from his game. When we do engage in conversation he always thinking of his next thought and doesn't listen to my input. It just seems to be getting worse an worse. He manages a business and doesn't have trouble there so it's just got to be that he has no interest in me. riends husbands love hearing stories and looking at old pics of their wives and he had no interest. I love hearing about him and pics of him as a kid but he just doesn't seem interested.

Edited December 3, 2014 by adrian77

[StalwartMind]

I can understand your frustration 100%. To me it is pretty simple when it comes to talking to other people, you have my undivided attention if we engage in a conversation. I'm not going to touch the subject much about how most people can have difficulty with multitasking, but this of course can make any conversation problematic, if one is being approached while already doing an activity and it requires a significant amount of attention to.

 

My apologizes for this rudeness but people whom are in relationships like that, it's almost before they'd be better off with a wall as their partner. The benefit of a wall is that it won't lash out at you and get mad when you don't order fries, despite you so politely asked. Yes I know, what kind of sane person would ask his or her wall if it would like fries or even think of such..ahem.

 

Truthfully I would have a really difficult time caring about a person whom seems so disinterested in me that they heed me no attention or as you said, only 25% of the time. I don't know if you've tried talking to him about his absent mind or whatever it is that makes him not care, but really in the end it's his choice to be, and agreed, that's not something that sparks of the feeling of a happy marriage.

 

You seem to be at a point where enough is enough, and I'm fully aware not everyone is in the position or for that matter wants to leave a marriage, for whatever reason is relevant to them. However, it's a pretty good idea you consider heavily what you intend to do about it as well as think of your own happiness. I can't imagine anything less attractive than going through the rest of my life being in a state of feeling that my life is unfulfilled when it comes to my partner of choice. Depending what marriage means to you, you should consider the most relevant option to you, be that moving on or seek counseling or whatever is the most logical choice to you.

 

I couldn't imagine treating my significant other in such a way she feels like she's living the life with a stranger or someone whom has lost interest or whatever. I'm sure many will say that most relationships run stagnant at one part, but really, I feel a healthy friendship or relationship with anyone only improves over time and you find yourself becoming even more passionate.

 

It's not my call to tell anyone what they deserve, but I do strongly feel you should be getting more out of your life, than feel let down greatly by someone whom was supposed to make you feel the very opposite.

[Radu]

I don't have a solution but i'd like to add that i utterly hate ppl like this.

 

It's hard to show in this medium how much i hate them.

They will literally drive you mad.

[Tayken]

@OP....was this phenomenon ever apparently when you were dating, or did you just manage to overlook it? Just curious