I think Patience is Really The Key

[Darren2013]

It would seem like patience is really the best chance of getting what I want in the end. It doesn't guarantee that I will get it but I am guaranteed not to get it if I am not willing to wait and instead try to push things.

 

Well tonight my crush initiated contact with me that was beyond a professional level but friendly. Basically it felt like we were back to old times before the awkward behavior and limited contact of the last 4 months.

 

So she is talking to me like nothing ever happened with my cold response to her about the buffalo wings invitation. I don't know. Who knows what's goons through her head?

 

So at this point I feel comfortable talking friendly to her like the old days and today felt like the old days for the first time in 4 months. As long as she initiates the contact such as asking me how was my thanksgiving and asking details about what I did and which family members were there with me, etc. then I am comfortable talking to her about life outside of the workplace.

 

I'm just not going to encourage communication. I'll let her come to me and as long as she keeps coming to me I will just roll with the flow but make it a point to end the conversation first on a high note. That's what I did. I ended the conversation and was getting ready to leave work. My shift ended 2 hours before hers. I didn't even tell her goodbye.

 

She even offered me a snack to eat which I politely said no thanks. I don't want her to think that I still harbor feelings for her as right now it is none of her business.

 

To tell you the truth there was always part of me that felt uncomfortable with the idea of going out for a coffee or dinner with her and I think that's the real reason I declined her invitations regardless of what her intentions may or may not have been. I wouldn't be comfortable even going with her as a friend unless it was kind of an entire work team deal going together.

 

So I am at a point where yeah I still am curious as to what could develop between us down the road. I'm just not going to push for anything. I'm not going to try and open up any doors. If a door is going to open it would have to be God's doing. How will I know it is God's doing? I will know it if He puts the interest and desire in her heart to ask me out.

 

I have 4 more months left with this company and I want to leave on a good note. Ideally it is better if the woman asks the man out in the workplace if they are going to do a workplace affair.

 

So I'm just going to be patient. I still plan to visit the Kentucky woman just once to see what happens but I'm not really all that excited about it. But a one time visit can't hurt. Got my motel room booked already for 1 night. I plan to drive back home the next day regardless of how the visit goes. If things go well we can always plan a 2nd date later. If the visit doesn't go well then I only wasted 1 night away from home. I prefer first dates to be short regardless if the chemistry is there or not. If I was meeting her locally I'd want to be finished with that date in 25-30 minutes.

 

As for my crush I think that tomorrow I will wait for her to initiate conversation again and then offer her one of my snacks. I bring in candy and kettle brand potato chips to work. I'm offering her the chips. Oh and she has started to thank me for being helpful to her with carrying heavy things. I told her you are welcome and you really don't have to thank me as it is my pleasure to do it.

[Darren2013]

I don't think that offering any of my food to my crush is considered an attack on her comfort level or even flirting in the workplace. It is very innocent especially if the snacks are cheap.

 

It is almost time for that Christmas party and I'm getting the cake ready in a couple weeks to bake for the whole work team. This way it doesn't look suspicious like I am singling her out for some reason.

 

However with my luck I hope she feels comfortable enough to let me buy her favorite ice cream again this year.

 

I'm thinking maybe instead of asking her out I could try buying her favorite ice cream again as a way to stick my neck out and if she declines then I will have the answer I need to move on mentally from her.

 

Also if she offers me something that she prepares at the Christmas party I can say no thanks and then sneak some of the food away when she is not around.