rosessosweet Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 I recently got in a fight with my boyfriend. So much so that he kicked me out of his house saying that he wanted to be alone and needed time to think. So I left, I texted him one text saying I respect his need for space and He can take as long as he wants to think things over. And he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me but is unsure now. The next day he contacted me in a text saying that he's not sure he wants to be with me, his sick of feeling contorted and thinks I'm not over my ex because of something he heard me say in my sleep. I responded that I love him and I'm Over my ex and I only want to be with him, and that I have been acting untrusting lately because of the resent lye he told me. (It was big, he did not cheat). He responded the next day with he's gonna be busy this weekend cuz he has stuff he needs to fix around his house and that he still loves me but thinks Im hanging out with my ex (I'm not). I sent a text back saying that that's not true and I love him and only him and I'm done being untrusting and needy towards him. He has not texted me all today. Should I wait to text him? How long should I wait? Is he to scared to brake up? He never said that we're broken up and he never said don't text him, I'm unsure where I stand?
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 He said he needed space and you agreed to give it to him. If you keep texting him, how are you giving him space? Leave it alone. Let him contact you when he's ready. 2
Author rosessosweet Posted December 3, 2014 Author Posted December 3, 2014 He said he needed space when I was at his house. And then he contacted me the next day.. He said he needed to be alone and think things threw
preraph Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 He told you some big lie, but now he's trying to turn the tables to make all this your fault. It's a common tactic. You should completely stop texting or calling him and stop grovelling. He's the one who started all this -- and it's not acceptable to literally kick you out of the house. He needs to be mature enough that if he wants you out, you make an exit plan so you have a place to go and are in agreement. He doesn't sound like any prize to me. He is accusing you of stuff because he wants to regain the power and control he had over you before he told you the lie and lost the "upper hand."
Leigh 87 Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 No good relationships that I know of, where the couple is smitten with one another - has one of the parties demand space. No couple who is loved up and smitten with one another needs space. Only less than stellar relationships need space. 3
Author rosessosweet Posted December 3, 2014 Author Posted December 3, 2014 He just texted me and asked why I have not tried to contact him and that he miss me and he thinks that I don't want to be with him any more WTF
PegNosePete Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Ask him if he's thought things through, and what he wants.
Redhead14 Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 He just texted me and asked why I have not tried to contact him and that he miss me and he thinks that I don't want to be with him any more WTF You explain that you were respecting his wishes. Say nothing else. Let him respond to that. If he wants to see you again, it must be on your terms now. It should be in a neutral place and tell him he must be prepared to discuss his plan for reconciliation and to discuss in a mature, calm, setting those issues which caused him to lose control and send you out of him home. 1
slizl Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Is he an astronaut? Sorry, always wanted to use that line after someone said they needed space, carry on 1
Author rosessosweet Posted December 4, 2014 Author Posted December 4, 2014 Thanks everyone for the advise! I contacted him back and tried to explain to him I was giving the space he asked for and that I miss him too and want nothing more then for us to be happy and he never has responded back. Except for k bye and then your just mad I said something to you about being needy. I'm confused
Author rosessosweet Posted December 4, 2014 Author Posted December 4, 2014 Thanks guys! Everyday I ignore him he texts me the next day hey. I'm done responding. Nc for me. I feel like he's just playing games and whenever he starts to miss me he texts hi. If he wants to brake up he can call me. And if he really wants to work things out he can come crawling to me. As of now I'm single in my mind. I'm not gonna hook up with anyone but I'm done emotionally investing myself in to someone who is ok with messing with someone they "love". I'm 23 I'm to old for highschool bs games. Thanks again everyone:)
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