GSP21 Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Hi all, So I met this girl about a month ago in my University class. She's really pretty and sweet and I started chatting to her every class. After a couple weeks, I asked her if she wanted to go for coffee after class and she said yes - we talked for about two hours until she had to leave. Since then, we've been texting occasionally. Everything seems to be going fine, we get along tremendously, she smiles whenever we're together, and she responds to my texts immediately. Here's the problem though: it seems like I have to initiate everything. I have to ask her to get coffee, I always text her first ect. Is this normal or is she not really into to me? FYI, I've only ever had one girlfriend and she asked me out so this never really happened in my past relationship. This girl is Korean by the way, and I find that Asian girls are generally more shy/less assertive in relationships.
evanescentworld Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 You've just answered your own query, in the last comment you made, particularly if you're Western/Caucasian - of course she's going to be reticent!
Author GSP21 Posted December 3, 2014 Author Posted December 3, 2014 You've just answered your own query, in the last comment you made, particularly if you're Western/Caucasian - of course she's going to be reticent! Well I'm Asian too, but I was born in Boston. She came here in middle school, but she's pretty Westernized in terms of personality.
evanescentworld Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Yes, but not entirely. And if she's living with her parents, and they're immigrants, then cultural and familial traits will be dominant.... no? Remember that in that culture, girls are treated differently...
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 If she's responsive, she's interested even if culturally she's not much of an initiator.
Author GSP21 Posted December 3, 2014 Author Posted December 3, 2014 Okay, so she actually contacted me first today - she asked me to get lunch tomorrow... but here's the thing... her friend is going to come as well. Did she bring her friend just because she's nervous being around me alone or am I getting friendzoned here?
evanescentworld Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 There's safety in numbers. Cut her some slack. She is young and probably inexperienced. For goodness' sake, it's really far too early to start hyper-analysis of every little thing! .
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