Lyrical Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I'm in adult education and recently one of my teachers has asked me to go for a drink with him. I'm not sure how I feel about that... We're both adults (I'm 31) but perhaps it's a bit unethical? Is he just being friendly or does he want something else?
NJ123 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I'm in adult education and recently one of my teachers has asked me to go for a drink with him. I'm not sure how I feel about that... We're both adults (I'm 31) but perhaps it's a bit unethical? Is he just being friendly or does he want something else? Definitely unethical. Honestly, how many teachers do you know ask students out for a drink? He has some sort of agenda. I wouldn't do it.
venusishername Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Is he just being friendly or does he want something else? Well, on its face it is very clearly an invitation for a date. Don't you have any other 'clues' that he's not 'just being friendly'? I would assume he's been flirting with and exhibiting other signs of sexual interest. If not, then he is just being friendly. You didn't give us much background info!
Author Lyrical Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 Well, on its face it is very clearly an invitation for a date. Don't you have any other 'clues' that he's not 'just being friendly'? I would assume he's been flirting with and exhibiting other signs of sexual interest. If not, then he is just being friendly. You didn't give us much background info! I'm not good on 'clues' but he's been very friendly. We seem to have a lot in common and get on well. Sometimes I think he is displaying signs of sexual interest and other times I think he's just being nice. However, it's transpired like this: I told him I was going to a concert of a band we both like, and a few weeks later, he told me he was also going and did I want to go for a drink beforehand...
Dallers Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Age does not matter. Teacher / Student relationship is a no go area and will be in his contract and most likely instant dismissal for him. You should ask him if he values his job and if he says no then go for a drink. Bet he says yes
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 What do you mean by adult education? If you are taking a non credit course for fun & there is no grade involved, date him no problem. If you are taking this class to work for a degree or you otherwise get a grade unless this is a situation where all the students are going, it's inappropriate. I used to teach in an MBA program at night. Every semester my classes would ask me to join them for a drink after class or they'd send me FB friend request. I would always tell them the same thing, outside of school sanctioned social events during the semester I could not join them but that if they wanted to hunt me down next semester after the grades were posted I'd be happy to join them.
vivi_angel89 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 i wouldnt go on a date with a teacher unless its a class I'd be taking for fun and wouldnt be graded.
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