Hesjustnotthatin2u Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I've been dating this guy for about a month now. We've seen each other 11 times this month but still aren't 'official'. Things seem to be getting serious and I want to start introducing him to my friends. I don't have that many lol, so it won't be that difficult. He already introduced me to some of his when he invited me out to a bar a couple weeks ago. Well my friend's family is having a Christmas party this weekend and invited me and told me to bring him so she can meet him. It's only gonna be like two of my close friends and a couple of their friends, as well as her family mostly. Is that inappropriate to bring him? I'm not close with her family, and only my one friend is bringing her boyfriend. I feel awkward about this already, and over thinking this. What would you do? (We're 25.)
Frank2thepoint Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I'm guessing you want to be official, so why not bring this up with the guy. Tell him you want to be in a relationship with him. If he obliges, then you can go to the party. If not, well then it's your decision if you are willing to tolerate it or not.
acrosstheuniverse Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Might be a good time to bring up where things are 'going', what with the holiday season right around the corner. If you're wanting to take him to meet family and friends it seems a good idea to make sure you're on the same page about being together, in case you end up introducing him to everyone and find out later all he sees you as is a friend with benefits. If you decide to start something, or be exclusive, then you can take him and it's not too soon I don't think. I got with my boyfriend about five days before my birthday, and I had a huge party/night out planned with a lot of my friends, it would have been super weird to NOT invite him as my boyfriend, so I did, and it was lovely to see how he got on with everyone so well and of course I wanted him there as my brand spanking new boyfriend. If I hadn't have had my birthday then, I'd have happily waited a few weeks longer to introduce him to anyone because I wanted to make sure it was working alright first (I've been through the introducing someone to all of my friends and then a few months later splitting up before, and I felt really embarrassed!). But you can't really choose the timing of stuff like birthdays and Christmases! 1
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 My friends & social circle is very fluid an open. Bringing somebody to a party is not that much of a statement. You could have met the person on your way to the party & dragged them along because they were interesting. It doesn't mean anything. Bring him to the Christmas party with the understanding that you want to share the joys of the season with him not that you are announcing any kind of commitment longer than the party. 1
venusishername Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I've been dating this guy for about a month now. We've seen each other 11 times this month but still aren't 'official'. Things seem to be getting serious and I want to start introducing him to my friends. I don't have that many lol, so it won't be that difficult. He already introduced me to some of his when he invited me out to a bar a couple weeks ago. Well my friend's family is having a Christmas party this weekend and invited me and told me to bring him so she can meet him. It's only gonna be like two of my close friends and a couple of their friends, as well as her family mostly. Is that inappropriate to bring him? I'm not close with her family, and only my one friend is bringing her boyfriend. I feel awkward about this already, and over thinking this. What would you do? (We're 25.) I personally am very cautious and guarded when it comes to introducing someone I'm dating to my friends and family. I think a month's time is a good amount to determine whether or not things appear to be headed towards serious. I would invite him along. It doesn't HAVE to mean anything. But it is a good step forward to indicate your interest in him!
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