SameOldFear Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 You can look at my post history for more information in my roller coaster of emotions for my ex. But basically, he was my first love and everything. I wanted nothing more than to be with him. He left me for another girl very suddenly and it tore me up. I shared everything with him. He was my best friend. He gave me breadcrumbs for a year. I waited for him for an entire year. He finally texted me last month and said his girlfriend had cheated on him numerous times and left him. It didn't take long for us to go back to exactly what we were before. He became my best friend again. I thought he had finally realized that she could not love him like I can. I thought he had matured and he would finally appreciate me for everything I've done for him and being there when even she wasn't. I held him while he cried. All my friends told me how stupid I was but I trusted him. Two weeks in, he started acting strangely but I didn't want to be the insecure girlfriend, so I didn't say anything. One of our mutual friend told me he was back with his ex. I confronted him about it and it was true. He had been cheating on me with her for for almost the entire two weeks we were together. What hurts even more is the only reason she wanted him back was because she found out he was with me. I've never felt more defeated or stupid in my entire life. I'm finally getting professional help, but a word of caution: cheaters never change. 3
me85 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I'm very sorry. I have a similar story. Kind of. My ex is a cheater. He cheated on me and he's been emotionally cheating on the girl he left me for - with me - the whole time he's been seeing her. I do know the hurt you're going through. It's very difficult to get past that kind of pain and it will take a lot of time but the only thing we can do is learn from our bad experiences. Now you know that you have to cut all ties and end all contact with your ex. No matter what he tells you or how much he tries to convince you. Do not listen. He is a liar. 2
Ducktape Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 You can look at my post history for more information in my roller coaster of emotions for my ex. But basically, he was my first love and everything. I wanted nothing more than to be with him. He left me for another girl very suddenly and it tore me up. I shared everything with him. He was my best friend. He gave me breadcrumbs for a year. I waited for him for an entire year. He finally texted me last month and said his girlfriend had cheated on him numerous times and left him. It didn't take long for us to go back to exactly what we were before. He became my best friend again. I thought he had finally realized that she could not love him like I can. I thought he had matured and he would finally appreciate me for everything I've done for him and being there when even she wasn't. I held him while he cried. All my friends told me how stupid I was but I trusted him. Two weeks in, he started acting strangely but I didn't want to be the insecure girlfriend, so I didn't say anything. One of our mutual friend told me he was back with his ex. I confronted him about it and it was true. He had been cheating on me with her for for almost the entire two weeks we were together. What hurts even more is the only reason she wanted him back was because she found out he was with me. I've never felt more defeated or stupid in my entire life. I'm finally getting professional help, but a word of caution: cheaters never change. It is not that cheaters never change. This isn't the issue in this story. You waited around for 1 year for him to come back. You didn't move on, you didn't let go, and most likely didn't work on yourself. You waited around for 1 year, just to jump back right in where you guys left off. "but I didn't want to be the insecure girlfriend" ... 2 weeks in, and you're already his girlfriend. The problem is that you didn't see the red flags. You were so hung up on him that you said yes to whatever he said. He came back to you because he was cheated on. you said yes. You don't go back to someone just because your plan A didn't work out the way you wanted. You should have had more respect for yourself, you deserve more as a person! You deserve more than leftovers! For a reconciliation to work, even with a cheater, people have to move on. People have to be bagage free, ready to work on a NEW relationship, take it slow. Rebuild the trust. Not add a new chapter to the old book. Write a new one! I'm really sorry it didn't work out, after all the waiting you did. It must be pretty hurtful to lose what you wanted for a whole year, just after 2 weeks. The adrenaline rush, and then the crash, must be hard to stomach. Good luck with the recovery and I'm sure you won't repeat that mistake again! 3
elaine567 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 He finally texted me last month and said his girlfriend had cheated on him numerous times and left him. Maybe you should get yourself checked out for STDs, better safe than sorry. 1
Thegreatestthing Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Can't believe he went back to the girl thst cheated on him multiplie times,yep treat them mean keep them keen. 1
IfiKnewThen Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 horrible. (( hugs)) my prediction. its NOT going to work out between them. dont talk to him go full no contact. really try to clear him out of your life. someday he will come begging back. un less hes in therapy...dont go back with him. unless he gets on his hands and knees with an engagement ring. but even then ...sadly...u can never trust him. God bless you and please stay well. life will get better for u someday.
Ducktape Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 unless he gets on his hands and knees with an engagement ring. Well, speaking of red flags, there's one.
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