Leroy82 Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Thanks sm2281, I think at this point I need to go NC. Its too painful. The thought of hearing her voice is hard and looking at her is just as bad. Like I said, I am very attracted to this girl. But, I agree once those painful feelings go down. I can see myself checking in. I mean we don't hate each other (I hope not, I was very kind to her). I think she understands, I'm looking for something she can't give me at this time. I do find it strange she still hasn't replied to my text yesterday. I was very nice. All I did was ask about her Thanksgiving and say I'll be here when you are ready. No response A simple Thank you would of been nice. 1
Blakely Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 Aww. You seem really fond of her. From what I hear, it's a huge life adjustment to go from married to single motherhood. If shes a single mother with 3 kids full time, she's definitely managed to spend a lot of time with you. I barley see my friends who are moms that often, unless the kids come along too:) I get why you're concerned about wasting your time. It's just one of those situations that you either feel is worth and stick around, or take the road more traveled. not very many men are willing to stick around when there's 1 child in the picture, much less 3. The best way for you to gauge her interest in a future with you is by how she fits you into her life at the moment. If she has a free night and spends it with you, that's golden. doesn't sound like she has time to casually date a few guys at once. my sister has one child and after her divorce she would focus on one relationship at a time. That also weeded out all the guys who would've wasted her time. She knew when her now husband, stuck around after 2 dates not knowing when he'd get another evening with her, but didn't cAre, as long as he'd get another date with her, that he was something special. They're married with a baby on the way now. 1
Leroy82 Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 Thanks for the kind words. And yes, I am fond of her. Its not much about the time we spend or the time we don't spend or her kids or going slow. Its about her saying she has panic attacks and not ready for a relationship. I've been through a devoice so I know what she's going through. That being said, I am ready now. I can be a good friend to her and I did tell her when she's ready please think of me. But, Its just to painful to be around someone who doesn't want you like you want them. 1
Blakely Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 Dating doesn't have to be this hard. If two people really like each other then it works. But, all it takes is one person to start having doubts. Then it falls apart. When people go through a divorce there are a lot of emotions that go with it. One minute you feel great and you're ready to take on the world (again), then next thing you're crying for no reason. Nothing like a break up. This is marriage. From reading your comments, she sounds like she's a little confused right now. And that is natural. But dating you doesn't help her. Sorry, to say that. I think its best for you to say your peace and move on. I think letting her know she's important was nice. Let her contact you when she's ready. Stick with NC. Thanks for the kind words. And yes, I am fond of her. Its not much about the time we spend or the time we don't spend or her kids or going slow. Its about her saying she has panic attacks and not ready for a relationship. I've been through a devoice so I know what she's going through. That being said, I am ready now. I can be a good friend to her and I did tell her when she's ready please think of me. But, Its just to painful to be around someone who doesn't want you like you want them. This is true. It will take a while for the dust to settle. best of luck to you hope things fall into place. 1
Author Darth_Matt Posted December 4, 2014 Author Posted December 4, 2014 Leroy82 and I are co-workers. He's the one that told me about this blog and created my profile. And, I just noticed I've been logged in as him over my last two posts. Too Funny. Anyway, I think I need to wrap this up. Thanks everyone! Its been great! I do feel better. And she has 2 kids. Not sure how the numbers kept changing. One person said 6. Nope she has 2 wonderful kids. 6 and 2 year olds.
Emilia Posted December 4, 2014 Posted December 4, 2014 I can be a good friend to her and I did tell her when she's ready please think of me. But, Its just to painful to be around someone who doesn't want you like you want them. My advice is that you walk away from this completely otherwise she will hook you with the push and pull. Not maliciously, she isn't a bad person I'm sure but she is unstable. You need to wrap it up like you said and walk away completely. Nothing will change. 3
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