lucy1822 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Hi! So... my boyfriend has gone away on hols for 2 weeks with his friends. The night before he went he came to see me at my house (as normal) and said to me... Boyfriend: "You know how much I love you, don't you? Make sure you text me every day to tell me what you've been up to, I want to know everything." Me: "I love you too, and of course I know , but you can text me too." Boyfriend: "Of course, but you can text me first, that can be your role for the couple of weeks". Me: "Okay sure, I'll tell you everything. Make sure you look after the note I wrote you too, you can read it whenver you miss me! :)" Boyfriend: "All the time :)" Bla bla bla and it was the sweetest thing he's ever really said to me (honestly). He's so non emotion most of the time! But anyway it's been nearly 2 days and I text him yesterday... but got no reply? Guys of love shack what do you think - maybe he's just too busy at the moment to send me a text? Or maybe he didn't mean what he said. I'm probably reading way to far into nothing! He's been on Facebook too, so why can't he send me a small reply to my text? I've only sent him one text, I haven't bombarded him either. I've just done as he's asked. Sounds so pathetic right!
StalwartMind Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Actions do speak louder than words, it's easy to tell someone you'll do x,y,z but actually backing those words up with said actions, well, I'm sure most are familiar with how easy it is for someone to not live up to that. It's entirely possible that something may of come up preventing him to respond back to you, but the only valid reasons I can think of I would have to not be able to contact someone is if something tragic happened, lost my phone/communication device. I'm sure there are other reasons like he could be wasted? depends on what type of holiday it is. I'm sure some will tell you, you are possibly overreacting or sound pathetic, like "jeez can't you function alone for one day". That's actually pretty irrelevant, everything comes down to your arrangement with your boyfriend, it matters sod all how other people may perceive your reaction. I'd be curious too as to why he didn't respond, but maybe that's because I come from an environment where people have the behavior and manners to back up their words. 4
Author lucy1822 Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 I'm sure some will tell you, you are possibly overreacting or sound pathetic, like "jeez can't you function alone for one day". That's actually pretty irrelevant, everything comes down to your arrangement with your boyfriend, it matters sod all how other people may perceive your reaction. Yeah exactly! He's stayed in the same country we live in, it's more of a sightseeing/drinking/travelling kind of holiday. Nothing too extravagant. He has literally just text me, 2 days later, saying "Sorry I know I'm terrible! I hope you're okay, we're just having lunch now. See you soon I love you lots :)" To be fair, he isn't the greatest at texting. I'm definitely one of those people who get a text and reply, whereas he's one who will get a text and read it and either reply instantly or just forget for hours. I guess we're all different! It's just the arrangement we had, 1 text every day to tell each other what we've been getting up to. I suppose it would be easy for him to get lost in his time away because he's having fun
Targetlock Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 well my pet hate is when people dont respond to messages, just seems rude to me i thinks its best to not read too much into it it, he is probably just busy or something.
bachdude Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Hi! So... my boyfriend has gone away on hols for 2 weeks with his friends. The night before he went he came to see me at my house (as normal) and said to me... Boyfriend: "You know how much I love you, don't you? Make sure you text me every day to tell me what you've been up to, I want to know everything." Me: "I love you too, and of course I know , but you can text me too." Boyfriend: "Of course, but you can text me first, that can be your role for the couple of weeks". Me: "Okay sure, I'll tell you everything. Make sure you look after the note I wrote you too, you can read it whenver you miss me! :)" Boyfriend: "All the time :)" Bla bla bla and it was the sweetest thing he's ever really said to me (honestly). He's so non emotion most of the time! But anyway it's been nearly 2 days and I text him yesterday... but got no reply? Guys of love shack what do you think - maybe he's just too busy at the moment to send me a text? Or maybe he didn't mean what he said. I'm probably reading way to far into nothing! He's been on Facebook too, so why can't he send me a small reply to my text? I've only sent him one text, I haven't bombarded him either. I've just done as he's asked. Sounds so pathetic right! I can see how it would seem he isn't thinking about you, or doesn't care as much as he said he does. I would give him a chance to explain. I think it is really important to be very honest about how you feel, without making him responsible for how you feel. We are all responsible for our own emotions. If he isn't willing to talk about it or doesn't care how you feel, then that is not a good sign. But give him a chance and be honest and aim to have a good talk about it.
carhill Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 He's on holiday, you both expressed your love for each other and he'll be back soon. Move on to other things. 1
Got it Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 It is going to vary. I think it is worth a discussion when he comes back. These are personal preferences. For some, they are fine with more limited contact, for others they want far greater frequency. Both are okay and fine, just comes down to the arrangement between the two parties. For myself, we talk every day when my husband is a way, the same when we were dating. We would text multiple as well based on the day events. I like to engage, I want to engage, and I want a man who wants to do the same. I have had that with both husbands. But either way is fine, just depends on the people. Just communicate it when he comes home.
me85 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Of course actions speak louder than words but there are times where actions fall short and a person needs to verbally express what's in their heart. That speaks volumes too. 1
preraph Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Maybe he can't get a phone reception. Seriously. It happens all the time when traveling. Out in the country, at the beach, foreign countries just aren't all equipped. I go out of range every time I travel just from my state to the next state over for at least part of the trip. Don't freak out. 1
Author lucy1822 Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 well my pet hate is when people dont respond to messages, just seems rude to me i thinks its best to not read too much into it it, he is probably just busy or something. I know I hate it too - especially when I know he's read my messages and can go on Facebook and not reply to mine until hours later or not at all. He's just contradicted himself by not doing what he said he'd do. I want him to miss me, surely 2 weeks apart will cause that too I just have to keep it to that 1 txt a day like he's asked. I won't read too much into it as it will drive me mad and then I'll pronably txt something I don't want to What should I txt him tonight as a hint for him to remember to reply to me?
Author lucy1822 Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 Of course actions speak louder than words but there are times where actions fall short and a person needs to verbally express what's in their heart. That speaks volumes too. I like this 2
Author lucy1822 Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 I just get really anxious about whether I'll get a reply or not. Like when I send a text before I go to bed and I don't get a reply when I wake up I just feel sick and annoyed. Guess I've just got to rise above it and back off and just relax.
sm2281 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 actions always speak louder than words. If a man wants to be with you - he will be. 1
Tayken Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 99% of the time, YES. Hence the reason people stereotype. One person's actions, tarnishes a whole group. @OP...so yes it does
Author lucy1822 Posted December 3, 2014 Author Posted December 3, 2014 He's a bad texter as it is but this is a joke! I text him again yesterday, one text (like he asked) AND NO REPLY! What a joke. I know he's busy but what the heck. So guys, no contact until he text me? Do you think that's fair? What would be a good way to get him to text me?
Tayken Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 He's a bad texter as it is but this is a joke! I text him again yesterday, one text (like he asked) AND NO REPLY! What a joke. I know he's busy but what the heck. So guys, no contact until he text me? Do you think that's fair? What would be a good way to get him to text me? Bold 1: what you really mean is that he does not stare at his phone all the time, and he has better things to do? Bold 2: ah, if you do then why the drama? bold 3: really, have you every tried calling him to talk instead of texting? Shocking thought I know 1
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