Girlfriend left me for another man and i have to see them tomorrow

[PAtoAZ610]

This past week has been hell and i feel like it is only going to get worse for a while... Here is a little backstory to help you guys get a feel for my current situation.

So i recently this past July, i had gotten dumped by my girlfriend of a little less than a year. It was an extremely painful experience for me because i finally thought i had found a woman that cared for me as much as i had for her. I really fell in love with this woman. So after that i flew into a deep depression again for a few weeks and started binge drinking and doing heroin again. Oh a little history on me is that i was sober for over a year off drugs and alcohol and was really starting to enjoy my life again. She had accepted my past and still seemed to love and care for me unconditionally and i have never opened up and given myself to anyone like that before in my entire life. I finally had trust in someone and i felt so comfortable around her. Well she leeft me the first time in July because she felt that i needed more time alone so i could "love myself more". For the most part she was right. After i thought on that for a week i decided to put down the drugs and alcohol again and better my life again like i was doing before. I now saw her leaving as a blessing in a way but i still did miss her alot. So about 3 months pass and i feel great. I got a better job and was going to the gym again with my buddies. I was genuinely happy. She had told me she wanted to stay friends after she dumped me and i told her that wouldnt work because of the feelings i had for her and she agreed. So about 3 months in she sees me in the small town we live in. At an intersection while we are both driving. We both wave and she texted me later and asked how i was. I said i was fine and i hope she was doing the same. Then a few days later she texts me and wants to see me . So of course my lovestruck dumbass goes and sees her and we eventually end up having sex. She told me she missed me so much and it drove her crazy how much she missed me sometimes. I was happy that someone like her would actually miss me. So we ended up basically together again. She would say she loved me again and i would do the same. I would take her out and cook her dinner. We would make love and lay together all night. It was just like before. Then it happened...

About 3 weeks into this i texted her early to wish her a goodmorning. I always got a reply. But not this time. So i go to work and figure she is asleep. I work landscaping and i have certain properties i maintain on a weekly basis. So i pull into an apartment complex i do work for and i see her truck. It was about 10 in the morning at this time. I texted her and asked what she was up to because i was near her truck. No reply. So i get to work cleaning up and then i see a truck pull in with her dog in the back and some other dog i didnt know. She gets out and a guy gets out with her. She says it is her friend and i end up meeting him. I was very pissed off in my head at the time. So she goes into his apartment and texts me while inside and says " I know you have alot of questions going in your head. but you dont have to worry". She said he was just a friend. So i called her later in the day and she told me that she didnt want a commited relationship with anyone at the moment and we could still talk and have sex like we were doing but she didnt want to have to answer to anyone. I told her after that that i couldnt do that if i wasnt going to be committed to her because my love for her is too great for just being FWB. She understood and that was that. The next day i go back to the complex for more work and i see her truck there at 10 am again. I was kinda upset at this point and i ended up not talking to her for a week. Then my buddies to me she saw her with the guy from the complex and so i texted her and asked her if she was more than friends with this guy. She told me that they were becoming more than friends but nothing had been established yet. I ****ing lost it. I told her that she pulled me out of a great part of my life and used me. All the "i miss yous" and the "i love yous" were all bull**** i guess. I thought i knew this woman and that she loved me enough not to manipulate me like that. This wast last wednesday and it has left me devastated . I feel inferior and less of a man. I told her to stay away from me and she understood. She texted me late that same night and told me she felt horrible and it was all her fault because she handled the situation in an awful way. Now i drive around town afraid to see her and i keep picturing this other man in her life who took my place so quickly and easily. She told me she started to pursue this guy because i said i didnt want to be FWB anymore but i said that because she told me she didnt want a relationship period. She just lied to be and made me live one of my all time biggest fears. So now my problem is that i have to see her and her new bf tomorrow because i have to work in that apartment complex again. My head and heart is aching right now and i dont know how to handle this... any advice? thank you.

[PegNosePete]

Blank her. Completely ignore.

Do not text, call, etc.

If she contacts you, delete and ignore.

[scatterd]

Jees a lot weird things doing on these days huh. Mine left me after 21 years. You need to leave her alone. I know you care but if she is a bouncer

you do not need that. Work on your self and your health that matters most. Love your self and one day you will find someone better. I am so sorry for your pain. Big Hugs

[unforgotten]

21 years??? How did you manage?

[Omei]

Some girls are just cunts, she should of known using you would be more devistasing than the norm since you're recovering but shes not thinking of you only her.

 

Don't talk to her shes not good for you, there is a girl out there that wouldn't do this, for real there is.

 

Im proud of you for putting a stop to your spiral after she left I hope you're still good.

 

We dont need relationships to be happy

Edited December 2, 2014 by Omei

[PAtoAZ610]

Thanks for the replies everyone. I am going to have to see her today or this week sometime. Im gonna have to work right in front of the apartment where she is probably spending her nights now. I cant give her any more power over me so ill just try my hardest to ignore her.

[Chi townD]

Chances are you're not going to see her. I have a hard time seeing them popping in an out of the apartment just to rub your face in it. Chances are she still feels ashamed of her conduct and will avoid you at all cost.

 

 

Just stay focused on your work, do what you need to do with a quickness and get the hell out of there as fast as you can. Just stay focused on your work and get out fast.

[Standard-Fare]

Actually, you DON'T have to see her or her BF at all. You're just doing work in that apartment complex. That doesn't mean you have to pass by her place or have any interaction with her whatsoever.

 

Yes, it sucks that you have to work in this setting that will stir up all sorts of feelings for you. But do yourself a favor and avoid turning it into a bigger conflict.

 

In the unfortunate event that she or her BF does have to pass by you, just keep yourself busy and ignore them.